scary weekend

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I've had a busy past couple of weeks and a slightly scary/anxiety filled past weekend. I made my very first 911 call and hopefully last one at least for a very long time. I went to talk to my mom who was sitting in her chair like usual and she wouldn't wake up and when I finally got a response her eyes snapped open and she was humming and she was drooling. She wouldn't respond. I called 911 and stayed on the line with them until the paramedics got here. My mom is diabetic and she is horrible about eating right and taking her shots like she needs to so I was pretty sure I knew what happened and told as much to the dispatcher who was super patient with me. I was calm for me but it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My mom had been cooking something before I woke her. I had to gotten to her just after she fell into whatever it is she was in, I wouldn't quite call it a coma maybe diabetic shock? I don't know the technical term. My son was originally out there with her and he thought she was sleeping because she is known to fall asleep in her chair out of nowhere. He didn't know anything was wrong. He felt horrible when he found out she wasn't ok. I had to calm him down and assure him it wasn't his fault because he didn't know. I did tell him if this happened again to come get me. Anyway, I went out and the food wasn't burnt and I turned off the stove. Not only could she have died she could have started a fire had I not found her when I did. I shook her and kept her awake until help arrived. I was instructed to try and give her pop or juice or something with sugar but couldn't because she wasn't able to drink it. My mom has been shaky before and she has been weak because she goes too long without eating or taking her shot like she's supposed to but this is the first time it has been this bad. I've tried reminding her in the past but she doesn't listen. She is on the go a lot and I'm not with her so I can't do anything when she isn't with me. My husband had just gotten off work and he needed a ride home my mom usually will get him on colder days otherwise he walks most of the time. I was on the phone with him when I found her. He ran back to work and got someone to take him home and got here after the paramedics. He called all of my siblings. He was more of a mess than I was I had to calm him down. He can be over emotional. I was an anxiety-filled mess but I don't show it on the outside the way he does. My mom's blood sugar was at 30 which is scary low. She came to pretty quickly once they got an IV in her and was talking within minutes but was very foggy at first. They took her to the hospital to play it safe since she had never had this happen before. I told them it's probably because of her bad habits but they wanted to be safe, which is probably for the better. IT really scared her and now she has been way better about doing stuff like she should. Before she would complain and wouldn't listen when I would remind her now she's been doing what she needs to. What ticked me off is my one brother and his wife blamed me for not monitoring her like I should...my mother is an adult. She doesn't need a babysitter. Yes, I live with her but it's not my job to be on her 24/7 to do stuff especially when I've tried to remind her and she wouldn't do as I asked in the first place. I can remind her all I like but I can't force her to do anything. My one sister was annoyed that they blamed me too. They thought I should be the one who takes care of her all the time. My sister usually calls and checks in on her at night and will remind her too. My mom was also annoyed with them and told them she is in charge of herself and that it was her fault not mine. What's more annoying is my brother almost never calls or texts my mom to check on her. How hard is it for him to call her on occasion and check on her? It ticks me off. I felt guilty because I felt there was more I could have done or should have done to prevent this but that being said to hear it from the man who almost never calls her really got to me. He showed up when she was in the hospital but where was he before? It shouldn't all be on me. If I wasn't here who knows where she would be. If I move out and finally get it together enough to be on my own then what? Is it all still on me? Am I supposed to do everything then too? That irritates me. I would make my mom sit and get her food before when she would get shaky but she came home that way. I have no control over all of her actions. Now that she's being better about stuff I am able to help more but before I could remind her all I wanted and she still wouldn't do it. I was ignored. She's just now scared enough to actually do what she's supposed to. I just feel like there being 7 of us it's ridiculous it should all be on me and my sister. My one brother is in jail and if he were here I don't know how things would go. He sometimes takes care of my mom but he also uses her and causes her more stress. When he gets out I won't be helping her as much because I hate being around him. He's going to have to pick up the slack and not be out drinking every night. My mom is an adult and should be doing stuff for herself. I do what I can but I'm her daughter not her keeper. It just irks me that my brother and his wife think I should be. They don't make time for her when she's healthy so I don't want their opinion.