Negative teen daughter

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I have been feeling down for awhile now because my teenage daughter, whom I dearly love, but when she brings me down with her attitude, I feel I wanna disappear even for awhile. I feel that she's getting sick and tired of me, now that I am old. We have 36 years age gap by the way. I am 51 this year and she's only 15. She always takes my reminders as a punishment when in fact I don't even raise my voice or even shout at her. After reminding her, she would suddenly just turn red and shuts me out with her cold silence. I know she misses her dear friend who was killed by her own father, I get that. I comfort her, every now and then when she comes up to me teary eyed. What hurts me is when I remind her to focus on her studies and I don't let her stop diverting her attention during the break (reading internet news or watching funny videos) and she would respond by being angry, quiet, making mornings into evenings and evenings to her mornings, just to avoid me. This is draining me already. Anybody here who has a teenage daughter? How frustrated did you become and what did you do when things just made you also want to disappear, even for awhile.