He kept using the F word.
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
United States
February 7, 2019 6:34pm CST
I don't like to talk about family that much. When I do, I am always selective in what I say and how much I divulge. To keep this as short as possible, I go into details of the title above.
I am sure everyone is probably thinking that whoever this "he" person is, he said the "FU" word. No, Nope. He didn't say that one. He said a different, far worse word. He did not just say it, he kept repeating it. Not to me, but to another member of the family.
I walked in and I told him that he shouldn't be saying it, that it would make yet another person in the family, angry.
The word he kept using? Derogatory and Disgusting. If you haven't figured it out... What word begins with F and is a derogatory way to describe homosexuals? Yep, that word.
I was glad he went home. He may have done so out of anger, I don't know, but I couldn't handle his pestering last weekend. He may not come back this weekend.
I love him, but he needs to mature. He's 18.
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@celticeagle (168209)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 19
Teens go through phases of using words like this. Not that this makes it okay. I hope he matures and stops using such words.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Feb 19
@celticeagle He didn't come over at all this weekend. He probably won't at all for awhile.He has got to mature.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
It would be different if he was using it occasionally. Standing over someone and repeating the word? There's a problem. Not that I want him using that word at all, I don't.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
Why did he, you mean?
I hope he stays home this weekend as well. I am already having a "why am I the only one that cleans in this house?" kind of a day.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@LadyDuck It is okay, it happens.
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@LadyDuck (472089)
• Switzerland
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum Sorry, I noticed my typo, of course it was not a YOU.
@patgalca (18391)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Feb 19
I hate cursing. My daughter has been hanging around too many guys and has picked up swearing. I hate hearing it come out of her mouth (this has been years). My husband rarely swears, unless he is chatting with buddies. I have to tell him to stop. I think he feels like he needs to be like others for them to like him (like drinking and smoking).
In my opinion, people who talk like that - swearing or using derogatory words, are uneducated. We need to start when they are young and get them reading books!
@patgalca (18391)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum Again, uneducated.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
His mother swore around him, though I don't think she ever used that word. I am not sure where he thinks it's right, bu tthen it's not just his words... It's the way he pesters and annoys, and does it because he likes to do it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@patgalca Not just that, he needs to and needed to go to therapy.
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@snowy22315 (182161)
• United States
8 Feb 19
It is hard to be around people who use bad language or terms that you don't agree with. I used to be exposed to that all the time with my former roommate, and it was a real issue for me.
@snowy22315 (182161)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum What a treat! He sounds like a bully. I would just ignore him, since it seems like he just wants a reaction.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@snowy22315 IF only if ONLY that worked.
Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't. Sometimes I can tell him to leave me alone and it works.
Sometimes, love him to pieces, I'd like to slap him upside the head.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
This was just the tip of the iceberg. I think he's just now starting to do this, but I could be wrong. Like I said, he is 18. He should not just be standing over someone and repeating that word over and over. Calling them that essentially, and he thought it was funny.
He pesters too. He used to call me names, and I hated it. I told him how I hated it and he didn't care. There were times that I questioned whether he understood or whether he just didn't care... Now I know he's smart, he's very intelligent but he has got to stop with the pestering stuff.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
8 Feb 19
He went to your home, and started doing that? That's so rude, to you, as well as who he said it too. I hope he stops.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@Courtlynn What word?
Stop.. hahahaha, yeah that doesn't work.
No.. Hahahah.. Nope, not that one either.
"You are being an a-hole and I'd like to slap you upside the head?"
Nope, not that one either.
Oh and let's try to get his mother to do something about it, shall we? ha, she won't even do anything about her own life. Just bottles things inside, doesn't eat very much...
Yeah, I do realize what you are saying but it's not so cut and dry. If it was, I wouln't need to post this discussion.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
Technically, not my home. I live here, but I don't pay the main bills, just my own. With that being said, the person who does pay the main bills wants him to stop being such a pester as well.
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@Courtlynn (67081)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum He's still disrespecting everyone there.. they should have a word with him then.
@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
8 Feb 19
That's sad, but sometimes it's hard from not saying such a word if they say it all the time. Or was he saying out of spite?
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
I don't think you get it. He was just repeating it over and over and over. Standing over someone and saying it.
I don't even think he really understands the word, or if he does, he doesn't care.
Like I said, I love him, but he needs to mature. I do not know how, or if, his parents ever really disciplined him.
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@hillhjill (23717)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum well that's a different story then, I would of ending up saying something to him as well and yes he needs to grow up.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@hillhjill I tried to get him out of that kind of behavior. He used to call me names all the time. However, someone else would always go back behind me and essentially give him a reason not to listen to me. I could not discipline him because nothing I did mattered, someone else would go back behind and say "Oh it's alright, don't listen to her."
Which undermined me and didn't help him in the least.
He used to call me fat and ugly ALL THE TIME. I am glad he stopped doing that.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62928)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
8 Feb 19
I'm assuming we are discussing the nephew? And yeah that word bugs me too. My best friend from when we were little came out when he was in his late teens and a lot of people referred to him by that word and it made me very upset.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
Yep, the nephew.
What bugs me the most is that he has no real regard for the fact that some people hate that word. He kept repeating it.
I was not goign to tolerate any kind of pestering last weekend. Awhile after he did that, I came back in the room to help him with something. Him and my uncle both were just irritating me. I screamed "Would ya'll just leave me the He** alone!"
I left and went to read. Went back in the room about an hour later, and he was gone. Apparently he left shortly after I I told them to shut it.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
8 Feb 19
@thislittlepennyearns The only thing he seems to speak is something designed to pester another person. That isn't to say he doesn't say other things, but he says far more things that pester. He used to call me names as well. He treated me as if I was his sibling and not his aunt.
I would try to discipline him and be undermined by my grandmother. It didn't matter to her that he was calling me names, I wasn't supposed to discipline him. No matter that he was misbehaving.
His parents just divorced, so his "behavior issues" aren't stemming from that. He did have a hard first few years of his life though, I will give him that. There might have been something with the radiation or chemo that has caused him to be the way he is.
Or maybe he just needs to mature. He's 18, he does not have a job (other than helping his father occasionally) and he does not seem to want to get a job either.
@thislittlepennyearns (62928)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
8 Feb 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum I can imagine some of his behavior issues are from what he was around when he was growing up. I know it was Rocky.
Hopefully he'll learn that he needs to think before he speaks.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
12 Feb 19
Annoying, unfortunately, is not the only word for it.
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@ThreeTeddies (2038)
• United Kingdom
8 Feb 19
I'm still puzzled as to what word you refer to but in a way I'm glad about that. Don't need to hear profanity on myLot
