Time goes by but the heartache never really goes away
By Laurel (L_B)
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
Canada
February 25, 2019 6:31am CST
It is five years ago today since my mom passed away. There is not a day goes by that I don't think of her. She was one of the strongest women that I knew. Life wasn't always easy for her but when life got tough mom always got tougher. After Dad passed away she had a hard time. He was the love of her life. He was only 68 when he died in his sleep. At 70 years old she got her drivers license. She was a true inspiration to me and because of her I am the strong, independent woman that I am today.
I was blessed to have her in my life for as long as I did but I can't help but wish it had been for longer. I always feel bad for people who do not have a close relationship with their parents. I don't know where I would be today if I didn't have them there to support me and stand behind me even when I made bad choices. They always believed in me even when I didn't believe in myself.
For those of you who still have your parent(s). Treasure every moment. Take a minute out of your busy day to call to let them know you are thinking of them. Life sure is different once they are no longer here. I was so blessed to have had the parents that I did. I had a close relationship with both my mom and dad and I miss them both so much.
You learn to get through each day and move forward but there is that ache in your heart that never really goes away.
Who is the person who had inspired you most in life?
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
25 Feb 19
I don't have words that can lower your pain at present. All I can say is that you have to be a string daughter from a strong mother. Parents are priceless and there is nothing that can replace their position in our lives.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
25 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe I agree. Have a good day
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
25 Feb 19
I'm so sorry for your losses. 
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My biggest fear is losing my mom. She's my bestfriend, and only parent.
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My biggest fear is losing my mom. She's my bestfriend, and only parent.3 people like this
@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
28 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe not really.. least not to me. but I hope she will be too.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Yes that would be a worry but she is still young. I hope you have to around for many, many years.
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@dodo19 (47326)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Feb 19
My maternal grandmother passed away two years ago, last Sunday (February 17). It's still hard. She was such an important part of my life. She was always there for us, and she was so strong. I do miss her. Just like you miss your mom.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
25 Feb 19
She sounds like she was a wonderful lady. You were blessed to have her in your life.
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@dodo19 (47326)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe I really was. I was lucky to have her as my grandmother.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
@dodo19 She will live on in your heart and thoughts forever
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
25 Feb 19
I'm so sorry for your losses and love your photo.
I have lost both my wonderful parents. They also were supportive and wonderful. I was always Daddy's little girl and the apple of my mother's eye. Each of them guided me throughout my life, my marriage, and even when I became a mommy myself. They taught me everything I know about being a loving wife, mother, and person. I miss them both, and not a day goes by that I don't pray for them in Heaven and wish they could see what a wonderful job they did. I know they did their best for their kids and were so proud. I'm sure your mother must have felt the same way.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Your parents sounds wonderful. They did a great job. They would be so proud.
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@just4him (317090)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe I guess I'm my own inspiration. I just never gave up on my dreams.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
25 Feb 19
We have an empty place inside our heart, which only Mom and Dad can fill:) They brought us into this world and did the best they could, to raise us the right way!
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@snowy22315 (180980)
• United States
25 Feb 19
I am glad your mom was such an inspiration. I love my mom, and I know she loves us in her way, but she is not the kind of inspiring person..as your mother. She never made it clear really that she valued us, and there is no reason she can't make phone calls. I always let my son know I am interested in how he is doing. There are all kinds of parents out there and all kinds of relationships..Be glad you had a great one!
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@snowy22315 (180980)
• United States
27 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe Oh we get along most of the time..she just is not that supportive.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
I am glad and very grateful. I am sorry things are the way they are with your mom.
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@allknowing (136778)
• India
25 Feb 19
I too have situations around me that remind me of my mother but I have gone past those heart aches.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Yes that is so true. We all get busy with our own lives.
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@LeaPea2417 (37357)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Feb 19
May she RIP, that is a sweet photo of the two of you.
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@wolfgirl569 (106649)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Feb 19
I just lost both parents a couple of years ago. Dad made it to 90 and mom was 84. The last few years I seen them almost every day and am very glad I did.
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@wolfgirl569 (106649)
• Marion, Ohio
25 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe I knew the time had to be coming so it was very worth the effort. Sadly my siblings did not feel the same way. But they have to live with that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
25 Feb 19
That is nice that you got to spend so much time with them the last few years of their life.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
@wolfgirl569 Yes that is something they have to deal with.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Oh wow that is awesome. It is nice that you had her for so long and she lived a long life.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
25 Feb 19
I agree with you; we should give a little time for them if they are still alive. They are our inspiration in life!
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
25 Feb 19
We lost our mother almost years ago, but until now some of her things are still in her closet. Little by little I transfer them to the other room. I really miss my mother.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
25 Feb 19
I know how you feel. It is a difficult thing to do. We never stop missing them.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Feb 19
@Happy2BeMe when I wake up in the middle of the night seems like she's just there.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Feb 19
I'm sorry that you lost your parents. =( I will call mine today, thanks to your discussion and I appreciate the reminder. =)
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
25 Feb 19
Aw bless her RIP your dear brave Mother..a lovely photo too Laurel. Sorry.
Oh me too, I can relate, just lost my beloved Mama in July last year. I am barely breathing without her loving presence. Why it is Mother alone who made me what I am today and gave me the will and inspired me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Thank you..I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult especially that first year. Moms are so special
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
25 Feb 19
I know how you feel... I really do! I was just thinking about the last time mom gave me a hug! It seems that a lot of us are missing parents! Hugs to everyone who needs one!
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Feb 19
@playertwo who were with you as you were growing up?
@marlina (154131)
• Canada
25 Feb 19
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my Mom more than a decade ago, and I sure miss her totally.
She also was a very strong woman and wasn't afraid of working hard.
She raised us with my Dad in a wonderful home, and we only have good memories of those days and so wish that they both were here still with us.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
That is wonderful. We are both blessed to have great childhood memories.
@1creekgirl (41466)
• United States
25 Feb 19
Laurel, what a beautiful photo of you and your mom...I know you treasure that. Today is a sad day, but you were so blessed to have a mom like that.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
27 Feb 19
Thank you Vicki. Yes I was very blessed to have her for my mom.
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