Rearing Children

This is a very good discussion. When I was small, both my parents were very poor and both of them had to work their guts out to put a meal on the table. We never starved but it was a real struggle. So they did not have time for me and my bro. (my bro is 6 yrs older to me). We were not loved and they never helped with our studies. Not that I'm complaining, this is a fact. Actually they didnt have time. I was a lonely kid cos my bro had friends and was out all the time. Now, I understand how much a child needs parents love, understanding and simply being there for them. I try to give what ever I didnt have, to my two kids and sometimes, I feel I am over doing things. But I dont care. Cos I know just how a kid feels when neglected.

I do not entirely agree with my parents take on raising me and my siblings, particularly in the areas of television and junk food, both of which I still love now - much to my detriment. I think that moderation is important with both of those things and try to instill both in my son, along with a love of drinking water. It's so important to drink plain clean water and I was never encouraged to, so I struggle to make myself do the right thing. I try to make sure my son doesn't have these struggles. I never want to take it too far, though, and push him over the edge to seek excess because I never let him indulge. I don't believe in that at all. I'm just trying my best to guide this amazing child of mine!

Ossie, I did raise my kids as my parents raised us. The one thing they did that I insisted upon doing was always letting them know their friends were welcome at our house. Growing up, I never realized that my mom knew where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing. LOL. I remember a house constantly full of kids when I was growing up, and that's how it was with my kids. The other thing they did that I also did was let my kids know that I loved them unconditionally and would be beside them no matter when they went through. I wouldn't buy them out of a fix, but would be there with them through it. I know how much that meant to me and my sisters, and my kids also appreciated being told that. I know that my grandchildren are also being raised with those two things foremost, but I also know that they have many more "things" than either myself or my kids had when growing up. So far, so good. One thing that my mom used to say that I swore I'd never say to my kids was "Because I said so". However, when I finally broke down and used it, I had the biggest sense of satisfaction. I had to call my mom and tell her because I was laughing so hard that my kids thought I was crazy. My mom got a kick out of it.

I am brought up under my Parents care. I am a Pakistani gal and here, Parents themselves look after their children. I am same as my Parents raised me but i am more confident than my elder brothers. May b bcuz i am the eldest at home and got more time and care. After God, I am really very thankful to my Parents who raised me in such good ways and gave me things in such age when i could express my feelings even and could n't talk and walk. I do n't have words to praise them.

Form what i do remember the way my parents reared me is totally different to the way i raised my children .I have shown my children love,respect and i have shown them that they are important . i don`t remember my parents being around that much and what memories there are they were of them fighting with themselves or of hitting us kids .I made sure my children never saw anything like that .I think the sadddest memories are of seeing my parents drunk most evenings .We (kids) looked after each other we cleaned and cooked ,did the washing and learned how to take care of ourselves from such an early age .

I suppose I have raised my children in a very similar fashion to how my parents raised me. We have always been strict, though perhaps a little more lenient as they've grown older. Oh, and my boys were allowed to have bikes as kids (I wasn't) though they weren't allowed on the street until older - before that only accompanied by us.

there was a time when i promised myself, i'll raise my kids differently from the way my parents raised me. my parents were very sensitive, emotional even childish. they fight every chance they got. and they sometimes take it out on us. they were very jealous of the time we spent outside of the family and even if we invite friends over to our house, they'd find something to criticise them about. but, in their own, maybe, unguided way, we learned of family values, of sticking together and looking out for our own and for each other, and of independence and perseverance. my younger brother aptly says, if they were not that way, if we were raised differently, we would not have been the upstanding citizens we are now. so, yes, in some ways, i'm raising my kids in the same way my parents raised us.

Personally I do not have any children as I was never able to have any. But I have seen a lot of things over the course of my lifetime I know I would do, and would not have done if I would have had any of my own. I do have a God daughter though that is almost 25 I helped raise. There are a lot of good things my Mom instilled in us growing up, but there are also things I look back on and know she could have done better. But I am sure that is True in any situation. I would just try to do my Best I knew how, and Pray for God's guidance to help them grow up the best they can be.

I was raised by my Grandmother mainly, she did a pretty good job in trying, and I feel I may have followed some of her footsteps in raising my own, and they have turned out fine!

I feel the way my parents raised me is the best way to raise a child, same way my brother and sister are raising their children(well I do not have any)but now my mother is linient to them and pampers them and when I remind her that you are spoiling then she tells me that she was more strict with us than necessary.

Rear children. You just made humans sound like Chicken. :/

I suppose I have reared my children in a very similar fashion to how my parents raised me. We have always been strict, though perhaps a little more lenient as they've grown older. Oh, and my boys were allowed to have bikes as kids (I wasn't) though they weren't allowed on the street until older - before that only accompanied by us.

well, i like the way i m raised witha lot of freedom and all my wishes fulfilled by my parents, but i felt a little shortage of love in my family as i look upon others in the society, but i would like to bring up my children in a similar way but with more love, care and affection...as they say, a boy and girl are different in the way they should be brought up, so its difficult for me to understand all that until i reach the stage when i have to...

My daughters were raised by my mother in many ways ..... for the first few years it was my ex-wife and myself but she wouldn't let my mother have much to do with the girls .... she didn't like my mother. Then the ex-wife wanted to do things so had to get someone to help her .... I was away driving trucks all week ..... so it fell to my mother. The good my mother did was undone by my ex who then banned my mother from seeing the girls when we separated. Some things I would have changed with my mother ...... not too much but she did seem easier on my daughters than she was with us.

I think the way my parents raised me and my sister and brother, was the best for them. But I have some points I don't agree with them. That is they had me "locked" in house until i was 18 years old. Only school, english, french and piano. That's it. On the contrary my brother and my sister had all the freedom they wanted. They are younger than me. My parents say as an excuse that I was an experiment in raising their children. My son is going to grow up completely different.

I don't raise my son how my mom raised me. For obvious reasons girls and boys are different. But my mom is a hypochondriac so she wouldn't let me do things that would have been okay simply because she was afraid I'd get hurt. I don't do that with my boy.

I was raised by both my parents until I was 13 and then my dad from that time after. My mom was very strict and dad was lenient. Id definitely raise my kids to be more like the way dad was.

I rear my children on my own way. I must admit, I don't like the way we were raised by my parents. It is not proper and it did not develop me well. I learned most of my wisdom from my hard and hurtful experiences.