Would You Have Been Offended?

@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

He did indeed mean it as a compliment, so I'm glad that I didn't take offence.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (218878)

• Walnut Creek, California

21 Mar 19

@jaboUK That's what I figured.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

20 Mar 19

Such beautiful flowers! Love how they delicately hand over the wall. With an Irishman, I would not be offended. We have one in the family and get a kick out of his word choices and phrases.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

They have a language alll of their own, don't they? My husband's people were all Irish, though he was born in England.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

@DianneN Lol - so do the Americans!

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

20 Mar 19

@jaboUK To me, the English have a language all of their own, too!

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rebelann1949

@rebelann (112879)

• El Paso, Texas

20 Mar 19

I would have laughed. Of course a lot would depend on the expression on his face.

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rebelann1949

@rebelann (112879)

• El Paso, Texas

20 Mar 19

He must have been so fun to be around @jaboUK

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

I did laugh after my first inital reaction, and his expression was full of mischief.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

@rebelann He was a real character.

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Jeff Moffitt

@moffittjc (121586)

• Gainesville, Florida

21 Mar 19

I never let any words offend me, even if they are meant to shake me to my inner core. I'll just laugh at any words intended to be offensive. I don't let them bother me.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

I try to do that too, but in this case there was no malicious intent. He really did mean it as a compliment

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Jeff Moffitt

@moffittjc (121586)

• Gainesville, Florida

21 Mar 19

@jaboUK I'm glad that you saw it for what it was.

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Angie

@andriaperry (116936)

• Anniston, Alabama

21 Mar 19

No, not if he was famous for those sayings

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

Well since this was my first meeting with him I didn't know if he was or not

@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

21 Mar 19

I find them strange. That strangeness alone would have stopped me from being offended as I would be wondering in my head what he was saying.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

Exactly, and once I'd realised he was trying to be nice it was fine.

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Sue21

@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)

• Pamplona, Spain

21 Mar 19

If he had said that to me I would find it funny. I don´t usually make statements like that unless I really know the said person. I have been surrounded by Irish people all of my life and the funniest one to me at least was he said if I had been twenty years younger I would have married you instead not saying who that was. A Welshman I knew always came out with funny things not saying what a bit naughty but nice.

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Sue21

@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)

• Pamplona, Spain

21 Mar 19

@jaboUK Sure and that is the way they talk as well. I think he meant you were spectacular but in his way of putting it across. I don´t think he meant it any other way.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

That was funny what that Irishman said to you. I thought this about the doorful was funny too once I got over my in initial reaction

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

@lovinangelsinstead21 I agree

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Tammy

@tammys85 (30066)

• Baltimore, Maryland

21 Mar 19

If he meant it as a compliment, I probably wouldn't have been offended, but it's hard to say without actually being in the situation (especially since I'm sensitive).

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Tammy

@tammys85 (30066)

• Baltimore, Maryland

28 Mar 19

@jaboUK Oh that's good, that he was complimenting you. Some people just have their own way of wording things.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

28 Mar 19

@tammys85 They do indeed.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

I decided that he did mean it as a compliment and it turned out that I was right.

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Belle Starr (Iz)

@BelleStarr (61102)

• United States

20 Mar 19

Lol I guess it would have depended on the size of the door

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Belle Starr (Iz)

@BelleStarr (61102)

• United States

22 Mar 19

@jaboUK well I am a little off center lol

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

22 Mar 19

@BelleStarr You are indeed

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

Lol - you're the first person to have thought of that!

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471541)

• Switzerland

20 Mar 19

I think that the interpretation of JJ is right, it was meant to say you were enjoyable to see. It was definitely a compliment, I would have not been offended.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

Yes, it was a compliment, it was just a funny way of putting it

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471541)

• Switzerland

20 Mar 19

@jaboUK You are right, it was an unusual way, but I am sure you appreciated.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

@LadyDuck I did. He was a lovely man.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (218878)

• Walnut Creek, California

20 Mar 19

Fine doorful. Hmm. I dunno.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

You tryin' to be unkind to me???

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

@TheHorse Not quite

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The Horse

@TheHorse (218878)

• Walnut Creek, California

20 Mar 19

@jaboUK Um, you don't take up a whole doorway, do you?

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (340019)

• Rockingham, Australia

21 Mar 19

I would have laughed at the oddness of the expression. I'm sure he meant it as a compliment.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

I laughed too once I'd got over my original reaction

. He did indeed mean it as a compliment.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

21 Mar 19

@JudyEv Lol

. You've got some good trips planned for this year Judy.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (340019)

• Rockingham, Australia

21 Mar 19

@jaboUK We've ;just booked a cottage in southern Ireland and the owner has emailed directions on how to get there. Already the classic 'if you get to x then you've gone too far' has come up.

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PsalmOneCares

@everwonderwhy (7348)

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22 Mar 19

Nah. He's very witty and funny. I'd feel honoured to have met an elderly man who was happy to see me and I made him happy.

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

22 Mar 19

@everwonderwhy Lol - I never was tiny except when I was a babe in arms! I'm quite tall.

@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

22 Mar 19

That was my reaction too after I got over the confusion of wondering what he meant.

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PsalmOneCares

@everwonderwhy (7348)

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22 Mar 19

@jaboUK Maybe he meant, "Welcoming" He was feeling happy about the reception when you offered him another drink. That could be it. And you were slim and tiny.

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José Valera

@jvicentevalera (13671)

• Santiago, Chile

23 Mar 19

Yeah I guess he meant that you looked nice and as good as a woman would look like. But not offensive. Sometimes people choose the wrong words to express what they mean. It has happened to me before, and I screwed it up. LOL

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

24 Mar 19

Yes, he wasn't being offensive it turned out - he just had an odd choice of words.

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José Valera

@jvicentevalera (13671)

• Santiago, Chile

24 Mar 19

@jaboUK Well, at least that's what I understood. I hope you get along with your father-in-law!

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José Valera

@jvicentevalera (13671)

• Santiago, Chile

24 Mar 19

@jaboUK Oh God, I am sorry, I really am I shouldn't have asked. My bad!

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much2say

@much2say (55608)

• Los Angeles, California

20 Mar 19

Doorful? If I am not mistaken, you are on the taller side? I was thinking maybe he meant that perhaps? But he did say "fine" - that would be a compliment - and I guess his tone would tell me if he was being affectionately funny - which was the case. I have always been the short one - I don't get offended by the height (or lack of) jokes anymore

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much2say

@much2say (55608)

• Los Angeles, California

22 Mar 19

@jaboUK That is even taller than my dad

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

20 Mar 19

Yes, I'm reasonably tall and would certainly appear so to Mick - he was a jockey and only about 5ft 3".

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

23 Mar 19

@much2say Gosh - he must have been small.

rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

4 Apr 19

No, i won;t because he does it in a jokeful words.

At first it didn't down on me that doorful of a woman means a fat woman.

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

8 Apr 19

@jaboUK See? !

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

4 Apr 19

Yes, it turned out that he didn't mean to imply I was fat

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changjiangzhibin89

@changjiangzhibin89 (16764)

• China

21 Mar 19

Interesting ! Those old sayings were kept alive in his mouth.Was the saying "can't see a hole in a ladder" said by him ?

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