Would You Have Been Offended?
By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
March 20, 2019 9:37am CST
My Irish father-in-law was full of quaint sayings such as "she could clip a hedge with her tongue" and "a bird never flew on one wing". This latter was in response to being asked if he'd like another drink.
When I first met him his first words to me were - "Bejasus, you're a fine doorful of a woman!" I wasn't fat - honest.
I thought his choice of words very odd, but funny, and accepted it as the compliment I thought he intended.
Would you have been offended?
Picture of flowers in my garden last year.
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@Marilynda1225 (83103)
• United States
20 Mar 19
I don't think I'd be offended as I'm sure he meant it as a compliment.
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@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Mar 19
I never let any words offend me, even if they are meant to shake me to my inner core. I'll just laugh at any words intended to be offensive. I don't let them bother me.
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@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Mar 19
@jaboUK I'm glad that you saw it for what it was.
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@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
21 Mar 19
No, not if he was famous for those sayings
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
21 Mar 19
I find them strange. That strangeness alone would have stopped me from being offended as I would be wondering in my head what he was saying.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Mar 19
If he had said that to me I would find it funny.
I don´t usually make statements like that unless I really know the said person.
I have been surrounded by Irish people all of my life and the funniest one to me at least was he said if I had been twenty years younger I would have married you instead not saying who that was.
A Welshman I knew always came out with funny things not saying what a bit naughty but nice.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Mar 19
@jaboUK
Sure and that is the way they talk as well.
I think he meant you were spectacular but in his way of putting it across.
I don´t think he meant it any other way.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
20 Mar 19
Lol I guess it would have depended on the size of the door
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
22 Mar 19
@jaboUK well I am a little off center lol
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@everwonderwhy (7376)
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22 Mar 19
Nah. He's very witty and funny. I'd feel honoured to have met an elderly man who was happy to see me and I made him happy.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 19
@everwonderwhy Lol - I never was tiny except when I was a babe in arms! I'm quite tall.
@everwonderwhy (7376)
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22 Mar 19
@jaboUK Maybe he meant, "Welcoming" He was feeling happy about the reception when you offered him another drink. That could be it. And you were slim and tiny.
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
23 Mar 19
Yeah I guess he meant that you looked nice and as good as a woman would look like. But not offensive. Sometimes people choose the wrong words to express what they mean. It has happened to me before, and I screwed it up. LOL
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
24 Mar 19
@jaboUK Well, at least that's what I understood. I hope you get along with your father-in-law!
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
24 Mar 19
@jaboUK Oh God, I am sorry, I really am I shouldn't have asked. My bad!
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@much2say (56087)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Mar 19
Doorful? If I am not mistaken, you are on the taller side? I was thinking maybe he meant that perhaps? But he did say "fine" - that would be a compliment - and I guess his tone would tell me if he was being affectionately funny - which was the case. I have always been the short one - I don't get offended by the height (or lack of) jokes anymore .
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
21 Mar 19
Interesting ! Those old sayings were kept alive in his mouth.Was the saying "can't see a hole in a ladder" said by him ?
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
22 Mar 19
@jaboUK I wrote it down on my notebook then.
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@jobelbojel (36025)
• Philippines
21 Mar 19
I don't think I will be offended. If I know him, I would not be offended.
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