Newlywed here!
@Pcaldwell (78)
Los Angeles, California
March 28, 2019 1:45am CST
Hello everyone! I will be coming up on my 3rd year of marriage this July. My husband and I got married in our mid-twenties and we are still learning how to grow up, be together, an grow together.
Any married veterans out there have any advice to a young couple?
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@Pcaldwell (78)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Mar 19
I love this! My husband is very funny and I love to laugh at his jokes. I hope to keep this in my life forever!
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@annahpereira (25)
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28 Mar 19
Hi! Congrats!
Just keep on supporting your husbands plan and dream, always motivate him...
Do not argue in non sense things just keep quite.
Do not embarrass him in front of people.
:)))
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@annahpereira (25)
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28 Mar 19
@Pcaldwell yeah a lil bit, were in that situation already, we've chosen this life with our lifetime partner. Off course you have a point they should return it back how we supporting them, yeah! in a different way maybe but don't expect to high at least you can see that he is doing efforts for you that's enough. is there any??
@Pcaldwell (78)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Mar 19
Don't you think that this could be seen as a bit oppressive? I'm all for supporting my husband, but he needs to do that in return.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
28 Mar 19
i've been married 20 years.
don't overspend,but get yourselves a goodie once in a while.
don't argue about things that don't really matter
good meals together
don't expect things on holidays always just cause..a random gift of some kind during the year is more spontaneous and a welcomed surprise..even if it's an "i love you " card
help each other with cleaning-it's not just one person living there
...and for the love of god don't let family pry into things.
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@Pcaldwell (78)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Mar 19
This is all sage advice! The cleaning one especially, I know I get angry when I come home to a dirty apartment and vice a versa. Thank you for this!
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@annahpereira (25)
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28 Mar 19
@Pcaldwell ohh!! GOd yeah this is one of the worst and you need so much patience with it because all guys like that only but others also are so perfectionist which is delicate maybe he is Bi:)) but one thing I tell you it is better to separate and leave both of you together rather than staying with in laws or or other relatives...
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
28 Mar 19
There was one marriage advice that I didn't take and I regret it deeply.
It was to not get married.
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@karakay (365)
• Philippines
28 Mar 19
Have patience... Marriage is a total commitment. Both of you have different personalities and both of you should have patience in understanding each others attitude and behaviors. Never get mad at the same time, never yell, never say words that will hit the ego of your partner, never break the trust both of you have for each other, and respect your partner. Most especially love lose the love you have. Be sweet, caring, give importance and appreciate what your partner is doing for you.
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@Pcaldwell (78)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Mar 19
That's okay! Being single has it's benefits and allows you to grow as an individual. Loving yourself first is always the most important.
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@shubhu3 (36463)
• New Delhi, India
28 Mar 19
@Pcaldwell Yes very well said. Thank You for the boost.
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
9 Apr 19
Well, now I'm curious. How many years does a couple have to be married to be "veterans" and how many to still be considered a newlywed? Because I've always thought of newlyweds as people who've only been married for a year or less. But then, only being married for 2-3 years wouldn't make a "veteran".
Oh, and I've been married for 16 years so I guess I'm a veteran?
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@Pcaldwell (78)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 19
Yeah! It's a good question. I still feel like a newlywed because we are still figuring so many things out together. I do not consider myself a veteran, but compared to friends who are just getting married, I feel like a sage crone. Who knows!
@janethwayne (5191)
• Philippines
28 Mar 19
You are both lucky God bless and congrats.
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