Am I stupid? / myLot

India

March 28, 2019 9:31pm CST

Sometimes people uses me and throws me out of their lives. They contact only when they needed. Some would avoid if I would not do what they want. I do like making friends and friendships, but I cannot please everyone in life. I get hurt when some friends avoids me when they do not need me or when they avoids when I do not fulfill their wishes or do not give things that they wanted. Am I stupid? I think I should also consider my needs first along with other's needs.

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teenal

@teenal (1400)

• Dublin, Ireland

29 Mar 19

Friendship is not about pleasing people. If you go out of your way to please other people just so they will like you so you can have friends all you will find is needy people who will use you. Friendship is a two way thing and involves give and take. If people only take they are not friends. They are users. When you stop giving they find another person to take from. Look after you first and don't be an easy target for users

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

7 Jun 19

I have also tried to please friends in the past in my life.

maezee

@maezee (41988)

• United States

29 Mar 19

That is frustrating, but some people out there are just users. You know? You have to weed out the bad people and find the good to surround yourself with!

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

7 Jun 19

I also agree to it is good to surrond with good people.

Sreekala

@Sreekala (34312)

• India

29 Mar 19

Why you are not learning any lessons from your experiments. Help those you can, if any one avoid that way, then consider them as selfish and avoid them.

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

7 Jun 19

I just want to be social and that is one reason I try to be friendly with everyone.

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

18 Dec 20

@Sreekala True not everyone deserves chances especially people who are selfish.