Does your mood go down when you are around people that yell and can't get along?
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (44504)
Staten Island, New York
April 8, 2019 3:53pm CST
I hate it when I am with a group of people and they start to argue about something they are talking about and it gets very loud and animated and even leads to yelling and name calling. When I am around that, or just around people that cannot get along, especially when it's people close to me, my mood goes downhill and the tears come. Why can't people just get along and have conversations without it leading to arguments or verbal fights, especially if they get together to celebrate a birthday?
I wish I didn't react like this but that's what happens to me every time. Perhaps, it's because I am a very emotional/sensitive person. And even if I am able to hold back the tears when I am with everyone, they will come as soon as I go to the bathroom or to a different room where no one is.
Does this happen to you? How do you deal with it when you are around this type of a situation?
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@florelway (23284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Apr 19
It's a depressing situation. If I can I try to distance away. These people create negativity.
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Apr 19
They create a lot of negativity that does no good for anybody.
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Apr 19
@florelway What does "desiderata" mean?
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@florelway (23284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Apr 19
@lovebuglena I agree with you. Remember desiderata, laud people are vexations to the spirit.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Apr 19
@CarolDM Walked away as in at that moment or stopped contact with them?
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
8 Apr 19
@lovebuglena I have walked away from family sadly.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
9 Apr 19
When we are in such a situation, it gets difficult to handle. Losing our cool and shouting makes us vulnerable. It could lead to tears also. I've observed raising our voice in anger causes lots of pressure on us and it could be harmful for us.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
10 Apr 19
@lovebuglena It is good that you prefer peace. However, sometimes you tend to lose your cool and raise your voice and feel bad, thereafter.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Apr 19
@dpk262006 Happened to me on more than one occasion. 
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Apr 19
I prefer peace and quiet than loud, raised voices and yelling, especially when it's not warranted.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
9 Apr 19
my brother and mom yell at each other all the time.
usually it makes me angry and tell them both to shut up.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Apr 19
My parents tend to not get along enough times and I hate being around that when it happens.
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Apr 19
That's great that it doesn't happen among your circle of people. Certainly don't need any of that negativity and drama.
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@LadyDuck (471271)
• Switzerland
10 Apr 19
@lovebuglena I would be very upset should this happen.
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@debjani1 (7202)
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12 Apr 19
I remain quiet when someone yelled at me. But not always. But its painful when they are very close to you. I just want to leave that place.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Apr 19
If you can keep quiet and not react that is great. But not always the case unfortunately.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Apr 19
I don't like it when people just have normal conversations at a much higher volume than necessary, but when it escalates to arguments, verbal fights, or even gets physical I just can't take it. There are people that are not affected by it at all but unfortunately, I am not one of those people.
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@LindaOHio (177898)
• United States
9 Apr 19
What is it about weddings and birthdays that brings out the worst in people? Was there liquor involved? I try to distance myself from these people. I am also very sensitive.
@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Apr 19
Yep but not a lot of it.
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@lovebuglena (44504)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Apr 19
I guess the instant it happens I can try walking away... Maybe then I will be affected less.
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