Running into people you used to know....
By Brenna
@isweartokira (3460)
United States
April 29, 2019 8:30am CST
have you ever run into someone from your past? a friend, a romantic partner, an old co-worker? it can be very awkward when it's someone you don't get along with.
years ago my friend/cousin had a falling out. it's such a shame because I really enjoyed hanging out with her but near the end I realized I was being used. being in a friendship like that is detrimental. what's even worse is that she's family. I feel awkward around my own family and it should never be that way.
yesterday my parents texted me that they ran into her while they were out to dinner. they said it was awkward but nice to see that she was doing alright. that makes me happy to hear because she's still family and I will always care about her....but it's still awkward. it's giving ME anxiety just thinking about it and I wasn't even there. I don't even know why I made this post, it just makes me sad thinking about the situation. I've lost a friend and it has affected my family, too.
have you ever had a situation like this? have you had any sort of falling out with family or friends, only to have them show up in your life later?
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11 responses
@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 19
I haven't really had any falling outs with any of my friends, other than losing touch with some of them over the years. And a few of my friends that I lost touch with for like 10 years or so, when I finally ran into them again we picked up our friendship right where we left off, like we hadn't missed all those years at all. And for past relationships, I think I must be some kind of weirdo or something, because I have stayed friends with just about every girl I have ever dated. Even when I went through my divorce, my ex-wife and I remained close friends, as we are still to this day.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 19
@isweartokira I agree, I love being able to jump right back into a friendship that has lost track over time. That's how you know you got a rock-solid friendship that can stand the test of time.
I guess I'm a likable guy, I never really thought much about it though. I just figure life is too short to hold grudges or have hatred for someone brewing in your heart.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
30 Apr 19
well you must be likeable, I've never had that luck! 
I do have friends like that though, we don't see each other very often but when we do we pick right back up where we left off. it's such a nice feeling
I do have friends like that though, we don't see each other very often but when we do we pick right back up where we left off. it's such a nice feeling 1 person likes this
@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
30 Apr 19
@moffittjc words to live by, Jeff! 
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
3 Jul 19
Sorry this has caused you anxiety.
Well there is a mean sister but the only reason she causes me anxiety is because of what she did to my Mother..neglected her RIP
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
3 Jul 19
@isweartokira Thank you for your caring words Bree back atcha
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
3 Jul 19
That's awful. It's sad that people from our own family can hurt us as much as a stranger could.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
1 May 19
yes I do forgive her, it's just weird to think that I might run into her again. oh well nothing to be done about it
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
29 Apr 19
I have only broken up with my old boyfriend for my husband. We've run into him over the years, but he just comes up and starts talking to us. Thank goodness my husband is kind and pleasant to him. I think it's because he knows that my old boyfriend had a nervous breakdown after I broke up with him.
I think you should let bygones be bygones. If you run into her, just be pleasant and don't get stressed. She may feel the same.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
29 Apr 19
at least your husband was kind about it, helps make the awkwardness a little less awkward.
yes, if I see her I want to be pleasant. I do miss our times together, and I know she has matured a little since then. it would just be awkward seeing her again, and we both tend to be shy. but it would be worth it
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
29 Apr 19
@isweartokira I do hope you two can work out whatever happened. With family, it's best to do so. With others, not worth the time.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
29 Apr 19
@isweartokira
After I got my divorce I was sitting on the bus and lo and behold who got on the bus but my ex. I kept hoping he would not come sit by where I was sitting. I know he saw me. We did not speak. Thank heavens he got off before I did.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
29 Apr 19
yikes, that's awkward. I have run into an ex and it's super weird. sorry you had to go through that
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
29 Apr 19
@isweartokira
Thanks so much and yes it was very awkward.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Apr 19
I can't remember of any.
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@marguicha (223020)
• Chile
29 Apr 19
Fortunately I never had that problem. I have had friends fall out of my life, but that has been it.
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
1 May 19
Oddly enough, I dream about it all the time but it hasn't happened!!
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
30 Apr 19
After working with a girl for over 20 years, a few years after she left, I saw her in the grocery store. I asked her why she always ignored me when I'd see her some place and she said, "Well, I never really did like you." But now after more years, she's friendly when I happen to see her. Go figure.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
30 Apr 19
yikes. well at least she was honest as to why she ignored you, but still that seems a little harsh
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
29 Apr 19
I had such a situation with my ex-husband and the meeting really caused negative emotions in me.
