I miss my mind the most...

By Faye
@FayeHazel (40243)
United States
May 7, 2019 1:45pm CST
Hi MyLot, Seeing as there haven't been any shenanigans from my dad lately, I know you all have been wondering . Well yesterday was a tough day for him. I got there and he was either pretending or actually too drowsy to respond to me for part of the time. He's done / been both. It was probably better when he was asleep because when he was awake he was trying to start an argument with me. It was really weird, because he wanted to fight. But since he's out of his mind - his argument didn't really make sense. Him: "You don't know anything. Don't even talk to me. If you had been born in 1966, 67, 68, 69, or 70, yes! If you had been born in 1970 *then* you would know things." Me: "Well, I'm sorry that I wasn't born in the right year for you, but I really didn't get to choose that." Him: "Yeah! You're from the worthless generation from the 80s." Me: "Well, sorry but I didn't get a choice of how old to be" Him: "Of course you don't so just stop acting like you do" Me: "Well, stop blaming me then." Or Him: "Stop talking about my parents" (his parents, my grandparents) Me: "Alright" Him: "Yeah you just shut up about them." Me: "Alright, I will. We were only talking about them because you brought them up." Him:"Yeah , so stop talking about them" Me: "Alright, I already have stopped talking about them. We can talk about anything else." So it was interesting. Of course it upset me. Of course I snapped back at him, but it was really weird, too. He wanted to fight but none of it made any sense. So - he left at around 9 at night. Now that might be normal for other people, but for him it's highly odd behavior because he needs my mom with him 24/7. It's been that way for decades. Wouldn't say where he was going. Stormed off. Came back 3 hours later. See. That's interesting too. For someone who gets so confused in the evenings that he doesn't know where he lives, what his house is - he managed to find his way home. Turns out he was going to see a childhood friend of his that he hadn't seen in 20 or so years, that lives 90 minutes drive away. (One way). He got thwarted by road work. Anyway when he came home he was really tired and not angry so... I don't know. It reminds me of that old joke "Of all the things I miss, I miss my mind the most" Keep us in your thoughts, prayers and good vibes please. Mostly that he stays in an alright mood. Thanks all Photo: Pixabay
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
7 May 19
this is tough.May have to bite your tongue on this. He is your dad.Just have to put up with it.Just cool it and let the anger out of him
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
7 May 19
Bless your heart! Its hard and I have to say it`ll get worst. Usually they accuse the spouse of cheating, the best thing to do it to agree with him, you don`t want him to get violet.
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@AmbiePam (92860)
• United States
12 May 19
Wow. That's bad. His mood is like a hot potato.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
13 May 19
So true … it's like growing up. But worse now. :/
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@xander6464 (44250)
• Wapello, Iowa
8 May 19
He makes really interesting arguments. I hope he stays in a nonangry mood.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 May 19
He does. Sure, it did get me stirred up... but in a way I was able to discount it easier. Just a confused//demented man who wanted to fight but couldn't even make a decent argument. Thanks. According to mom today he was fine. We appreciate that
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@xander6464 (44250)
• Wapello, Iowa
8 May 19
@FayeHazel It sounds like he's trying but he just can't get the right words. I appreciate it, too. Anything that makes your life even a little easier.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 May 19
@xander6464 True. It was the weirdest argument I'd ever been in anyway. Thanks. Looks like we're back to needing good vibes and wishes. He's rotten again today.
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@JudyEv (340223)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 May 19
You have my sympathy as does your poor Mum. Thank goodness you're there to help or I'm sure she'd be out of her mind by now.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 May 19
Thank you so much Judy. We appreciate it. She takes his moods and weirdness better than I. She amazes me
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
10 May 19
@FayeHazel He does sound out of his mind. You are better off with him sleeping.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
14 May 19
@FayeHazel I am so so sorry Faye.
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
13 May 19
Oh yes, he swings back and forth like that. It's quite difficult
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@snowy22315 (180863)
• United States
7 May 19
It must be the pits dealing with him. My dad seems to have some mental challenges..but thankfully he has always been a super nice person, and his disposition doesn't seem to be changing.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
7 May 19
You know you have my thoughts, prayers, and good vibes all the time. I worry most about him leaving the house alone.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 May 19
I can't imagine how hard it is for you. My prayers are with you.
@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
7 May 19
Sorry you are experiencing this. It is a sad situation for sure. Nobody understands unless they have been through it.
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• Rupert, Idaho
7 May 19
Oh wow, I am not sure what to say....I will keep you in my thoughts....and send good thoughts your way!
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@murithi (60)
• Kenya
10 May 19
you will stop worrying when you just understand that nursing up a child is more of a fun than nursing up a "baby grownup elderly" who as just passed all the stages and feel he knows everything and nothing he can be told despite the fact that no energy left on him.