Please don't...JUST don't!!!!!
@cyclonewriter (2168)
United States
May 11, 2019 7:24pm CST
I never look forward to tomorrow. I go through the motions for my mom and mother-in-law, but I hate it!
I wasn't meant to have children! I had uterine cancer very young and had to have a full hysterectomy. I survived and am so thankful!! However, that did mean I would never have biological children and in time, we decided that we were not meant to adopt.
However, tomorrow will come and many well meaning friends/acquaintances will send me texts, messages wishing me one of two things:
1.) Happy Mother's Day
2.) Happy Fur Baby Mother's Day
BOTH ARE IRRITATING!! I'm not a mother and they will say, "Oh but I send that to all women!" Why? If I'm not a mother, please don't as you may know or may not know why I don't have children. Also, my beautiful, amazing dog is NOT my child! She was born with a mother and separated after only being with her for about 8 weeks, I simply am her human and that's a great job, but she's not a child...she's a PUG!! I love her...
So, for what it's worth, I will get through another Mother's Day reminding people that their wishes at times (although well meaning) aren't really all that kind to some of us! And then Monday will come and I can not think about how so many people believe being a mother is the only thing that really defines a woman!! It doesn't...
Sorry for the rant....I actually am generally laid back, but tomorrow will definitely not be laid back for me!
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
12 May 19
I don't like when people say "Happy Mother's Day" to all women. Even if we aren't mothers, some of us have lost our mother's and this is a day we just want to get past. I'm not sure why or when this trend of wishing everyone a mother's day started, but it's really weird in my opinion.
Tomorrow (or later tonight) will change my profile picture to one of me and my mother when I was a baby. I will try to ignore facebook for the most part. Some years I post a little PSA (public service announcement) reminding everyone that Mother's Day isn't all flowers and candy for everyone.
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@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
12 May 19
Thank you for understanding!! I don't know when the trend started either! As you can tell, I don't take to it well! LOL
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@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
13 May 19
@sharon6345 I'm glad it brings something good to your heart, but to be wished it year after year when having children wasn't in my cards and people assume I have children, is still irritating to me!!
@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
12 May 19
I really try to be sensitive to others about that. But I once encountered the opposite problem. We had never wished my sister (who has had fur babies) a Mother's Day greeting . . . and then I heard she was a bit miffed that we were not acknowledging that she was a fur baby mom. So each year after that we've been acknowledging it. So now I just try to know the person's situation or feelings before saying it at all . . . I can see how not all would want to hear it. 
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@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
13 May 19
Yes. especially with family, learning their preference makes sense! How kind of you not only to learn it, but to follow it up!
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
12 May 19
I fully agree with you, I am not a mother and I am annoyed when people wishes me "Happy Mother's Day" as it was not normal to be a married woman and not to be a mother. I am not celebrating today, I am not a mother, my mother is no more, I have no reasons to celebrate.
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@wolfgirl569 (107859)
• Marion, Ohio
12 May 19
Hope that the ones that know you start remembering that it is not a good day for you. I like to hear it from my family and friends. But others have no idea if I have kids or not. To me it is a personal day for everyone. Not the kind you just run around saying to everyone have a Happy Mothers day. It is and has been bitter sweet to me for several years now. I lost one son when he was 19 and still have my other son. But it does remind me of the one that is gone with some pain while I have the joy of seeing my other son and him remembering to say it.
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@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
13 May 19
I can definitely see your point. I am sorry for your loss of a child. Thank you for understanding.
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@RasmaSandra (80635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 May 19
Take it easy just take it easy. I know what you mean. I have lost two babies and never had any children. I just ignore Mothers Day for me but do light a candle for my dear mom.
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
12 May 19
In the end it is just another day. I understand what you say, and you're allowed to express yourself. :)
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