Are husbands obliged to give all their salaries to their wives?

@Janet357 (75646)
May 28, 2019 6:52am CST
It is a custom in most parts of the world that husbands are the breadwinners. They are the main earners and the wives manage their homes. The wives are the home-makers, taking care of their houses and do the budgeting. I have noticed that most men give their salaries to their wives and the latter will do the budgeting. Some hubbies will just give a fraction of their salaries to their wives. There are others who dont give their wives money especially if the latter also work. They will just divide the expenses among themselves. Am just wondering which of these is being practiced at your home?
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@weevee18 (2065)
• Philippines
28 May 19
At home, all the finances are handled by my mother. My father asks for money if he needs it but his earnings all fall to my mother.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
Very ideal husband!
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
28 May 19
I am practicing it. I have been married to my wife for 47 years and I give all my salary to her. Believe it or not, I am doing that.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
29 May 19
@Nakitakona Love you
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
now.some wives are envious.of this
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
28 May 19
@Janet357 I love my wife. I trust her.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
29 May 19
It depends on the understanding between the couple. True women are better planners. Some women choose not to ask for money but ask for things they want for the house and they get things done. In the western countries -- husband and wife have separate accounts and even though it is for the family they calculate more and decide on the understanding.
@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
Well said ravisian. Somehowmit it still surprises me that some husbands still dont give money to their wives.
@NJChicaa (119630)
• United States
28 May 19
My husband always did the bills. My paycheck went directly into the bank account
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 May 19
So your money is making an investment?
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@NJChicaa (119630)
• United States
28 May 19
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
So nice of your husband. Does he pay all the bills?
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
28 May 19
I believe that all of the money earned in the family must be put into the account and then anybody means the wife or the husband can use it whenever needed (Note-if the husband is not drinking or the wife is not wasting it on parties) that's all about understanding
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
28 May 19
@Janet357 yes. Here We do like that.. We don't keep our money separately.. Also we don't spend other person's money without asking first but if we need and the person isn't available., we can use it.. Never a single coin at my home is stolen.. Not even kids did this in mischief.. We are all open to one another in case of money and in other case too.. Like my divorce, my niece nephew are aware, about our life they know.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
@ShifaLk you have a close relationship with your family that is good.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
this is also a good practice. is it a custom in your household?
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@Bensen32 (27610)
• United States
28 May 19
When I was married I was the only one working and she stayed home with the kids. So the money was used for everything and we did bills together and we used the money for what we needed.
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@Bensen32 (27610)
• United States
29 May 19
@Janet357 For the most part it was one of the few things we didn't fight about.
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
@Bensen32 glad to hear that. Money is a very sensitive issue to deal with
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
okay. thats a very good arrangment too. i think it didnt create conflict.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
28 May 19
There is no such practice at our home. My hubby's salary came in bank and used for paying loans, school fees and other things. Mine is using for home expenses.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
29 May 19
@Janet357 Division is not the right word here.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
Oh, so there is a division of expenses among you.
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
@Sreekala what is it then?
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
28 May 19
My husband and I always think of it as our money. Whether it's in my account or his, it doesn't really matter. It is our money. And we discuss what we do with and how.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 May 19
@Janet357 Yes, that is true. We will sometimes disagree, but we tend to find a compromise.
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
Thats very nice. Because a lot of couple fight over money.
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
@dodo19 yes. And i always laud couples who have been married for so long and yet they are still happy. And money is never a cause of problems to them.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
28 May 19
We each have our job here.sharing.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
got it.fredo.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 May 19
I have always handled the money, when I was married we both knew how much was in the bank and we both could spend if needed. Now I handle it all because I am not married, now I have a little money for me, before never!
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
Oh, i always thought you were single from the start. If you dont mind, but it’s okay if you dont answer, do you have kids?
@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
28 May 19
Lately my wife quit her job , I would give her expenses in installments like twice or thrice in portions.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
that's nice and so generous of you!
@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
28 May 19
It's a Filipino stereotype that the husband hands over their earnings to the wife and he is given a daily allowance. With more women joining the work force, budgeting the family expense has become a joint venture especially among the millennial.
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@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
28 May 19
@Janet357 _We're retired living frugally on our pensions and money put away. We don't need much and a portion of our expense goes to 3 grandchildren living with us. Their parents who are working abroad sends us a monthly upkeep.
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
so true! does it also happen in your household?
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
@josie_ thats good. good thing you still have the energy to take care of three kids.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
28 May 19
Many of the traditional stereotypes are not followed in today's world. Every household has a financial understanding between the couple like all other understandings.
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@Janet357 (75646)
29 May 19
Yes, it is must otherwise, they will fight.
@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
28 May 19
Hahaha Nope, mine never gave me even a penny.... Though I never thought of asking him...
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@Janet357 (75646)
28 May 19
Because you are working too so,you have your own money but for unemployed wives, it is really hard.
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@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
28 May 19
@Janet357 I agree to that... But yes.. I do agree some share is good to give..
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