How to deliver this....
@Aansh13 (11362)
New Delhi, India
May 30, 2019 11:14am CST
I think, me and my husband has to open up about our finances. Today, my sister in law came and asked me if there is any financial crisis with us, if so she can handle things for a while.... This is totally sweet of her and I appreciate it. But I was shocked to hear when she said my husband has told something to his elder brother through which she concluded that there is a problem. I mean, wasn't I suppose to know about it. My husband didn't even mentioned it once to me, I would have handled things from my end if at all he needed some help.
I didn't like this whole episode... Kind of annoyed on him... I really need to deliver this to him, that he needs to talk to me about such things on a transparent level.
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
30 May 19
I think it because, he think that you can't handle it alone, that's why he ask for help
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
31 May 19
@Aansh13 hope both of you can fix it
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@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
31 May 19
@resukill22
Thank you... Yes we did fix it
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@arunima25 (87829)
• Bangalore, India
30 May 19
Have a good talk. Keep it simple and straight. And my one suggestion as someone more experienced than you ( married for 19 years now and learnt from my mistakes) keep your emotions to yourself. It might damage things. Maybe your husband had some other things in mind that made him do so. So don't try to jump into conclusions.
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@arunima25 (87829)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jun 19
@Aansh13 I am flattered
I am a counselor so maybe it just comes natural to me after being in the field for a decade.
I am a counselor so maybe it just comes natural to me after being in the field for a decade.1 person likes this
@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
5 Jun 19
@arunima25
There are many things that I look up to you....
Thank you
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@Debscrochet (1947)
• United States
30 May 19
Yes i agree. You're finances should be between you and your husband. If any outside help is needed, you should both come to that decision together.
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@skysnap (20153)
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30 May 19
I think people often misunderstood from the tone I guess. for example let's say my salary is same for 3 years and i am complaining about it in crying sound as if it's bad days going on.. but in reality, that much salary is doing just fine.. but other people will take it as financial crisis. lol.. it happens. and often when we are really in crisis people don't even notice lol...
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@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
31 May 19
This could be one of the point.... Thanks for sharing that
@Frenchie2009 (132)
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30 May 19
I would start by asking to have an in depth conversation tell him it's nothing bad you just feel like communicating a little more thoroughly. And slip in does he have any worries or concerns about anything and mention that his sister mention that to you and that you just wanted to help to understand better. Communication is key and this will show him that he doesn't have to take it on alone and your open to helping him it might make your relationship all the better. My bf and I do an in depth conversation at least 1 a month air Grievances and just air out any worries we may have and issues that we don't want to worry the other person with but we feel we should communicate about it and just have that thing like we're not going to get mad about it we're just going to talk it through we're going to communicate about the issues or worries. It's made our relationship a hell of a lot better.
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@Frenchie2009 (132)
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31 May 19
@Aansh13 np I'm always happy to help I have a firm belief if we share knowledge and kindness with others it'll make the world a better place I wish you luck
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@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
31 May 19
@Frenchie2009
I do believe the same... Thank you
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