Do you have real friends on mylot?
By Diana
@dya80dya (36657)
June 9, 2019 6:42am CST
I was here for 1 year. I thought that some people were my friends, but they disappeared without letting a message. Their account doesn't exist anymore. In my opinion we can't have real friends online. A real friend helps you. Here people are friendly and some of them call us friends, but this word shouldn't be used for any person. Do you have real friends on mylot?
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
9 Jun 19
There are several I would be happy to meet in real life. I'm not sure whether I would call them friends or not but I guess we;d get along. If a person's account disappears it very likely means that they were banned for some reason. If they didn't leave a message, it may have been because they weren't expecting it (or hoping that Admin wouldn't notice!).
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya The only way of closing your account (should you want to - and one hopes you don't!) is to send a PM to @GoAskAlice.
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya Only Admin can close an account. One would need to send him a PM giving a brief reason why one wants to do so. If an account is closed, all of the activity of that person disappears, which might affect the interactions in some discussions, so Admin does need to have a good reason for doing so - other than a serious violation of the Terms, of course.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
9 Jun 19
I would define a friend as someone that you enjoy being with and so yes I have some real friends here.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya Yes, that too is important! We help, they help and we're both happy!
@snowy22315 (180688)
• United States
9 Jun 19
I have people on here I consider to be my friends, but only one I have exchanged messages with off the site.
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@snowy22315 (180688)
• United States
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya I would say more like acquaintances. One is more of a friend.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
9 Jun 19
I have friends here. Some of my old friends aren't here anymore, but sometimes we exchange messages outside myLot. A few of them don't participate in the discussions anymore, but they still log in and I get PMs from them every once in a while. That is always a nice surprise.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
17 Jun 19
@dya80dya I hope that you will find some real friends here. I miss some of my old friends who aren't here anymore, but there are still many nice people here.
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@dya80dya (36657)
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20 Jun 19
@Porcospino I agree. Some people here are very kind. Maybe in the future I will find a real friend here.
@ichipink (541)
• Philippines
17 Jun 19
Don't lose hope easily. There are a lot people in my lot. And it takes time for us to build a relationship around here because there a lot of discussions created here everyday. And it's not usual that we encounter the same users in every discussion we participate in.
I think it is also the same in real life. Not every person you meet will end up becoming your real friend right? It will still take time. You have to get to know each other first before you can say that he/she is your real friend.
Try to participate in a lot of discussions. And constantly check if someone responds on your discussions/comments. You can start building conversations from there. And maybe you could meet someone you'll get along with.
As for me, I just got back in myLot after being inactive for a couple of years. I never had any friends here as well because I was not really making real conversations with others. That was my fault. But anyway, I'm planning to stick around here. Maybe I could be your friend.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
9 Jun 19
I would feel so lucky if I find real friends here, with that I meant being able to hangout with in person.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
9 Jun 19
Since I'm only 4 months on the site, I do not have real friends, but there are people I like and who would love to meet and become a real friend. I think I can get real friends online
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya Oh, if you did not mean this site then yes, I have. I met some people in person and we are in great relationships
@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
9 Jun 19
I have quite a few online friends, so I think we can make friends online, but meeting them in real life has made it much easier to continue being friends. I've met up with people from the UK, the US, Sweden, Germany and Australia. I'd really miss them if something happened to them, even though I don't meet them regularly.
I've only been back here for some months, but there's some people here I would like to meet. And there's some I'd send a message if I found out I had disappear for a while.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jun 19
I'm sorry but they probably were banned as Owl said, it wasn't to hurt you I am sure.
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@Mamerto32 (2783)
• Canlubang, Philippines
9 Jun 19
For now I'm yet to meet them in real life. But it will be nice to have a chat with them.
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@Mamerto32 (2783)
• Canlubang, Philippines
16 Jun 19
@dya80dya yes, since they are ready to offer advice.