What Would You Have Done?
By YoghurtGal
@flapiz (23153)
United Kingdom
July 2, 2019 11:16pm CST
Three people came here today looking for my dad. We told them he’s not home as he’s working but they said they’d wait.
It was around lunch time for us so even though we didn’t have a lot of food since our maid only cooked enough for the household members we still offered for lunch but they refused. It got me worried cause of course it’s lunch time and if they end up eating late they might have tummy problems so I offered again. Still they refused they seem kind of shy.
So I took some snacks for them instead. And they were reluctant to receive the juice. But they were at least polite towards me. Now I asked the maid to give them some biscuits and to my surprise one of them yelled at the maid and said we had so much fuss. I bit my tongue and went upstairs before I say something rude.
I understand they might be shy and also ashamed to be visiting at such an inconvenient time. But we go out of their way to accommodate them and instead of gracious thanks I hear one of them yelling at the maid.
Now I’m thinking I shouldn’t have offered them anything and left them to wait. Should I have done that instead?
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8 responses
@moffittjc (121731)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Jul 19
As a matter of habit, I always refuse at the first offer, so that I don't seem like I am there to mooch off of people. But if offered a second time, I will accept out of politeness. I would think it rude to continue to refuse the offer of the host.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 19
It was lunch time. I was just thinking of their own good. It would be bad to half a feed back that “oh we visited them and we got hyperacidity cause we didn’t get fed”.
I don’t mind the refusal though it’s how she said it that ticked me off.
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@moffittjc (121731)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Jul 19
@flapiz It's a shame that the visitors couldn't be more polite in refusing the offer. Sounds like they got rude about it,
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 19
@moffittjc Exactly. To be honest they were not considerate with the time they visited. I should be the one being rude about it.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
3 Jul 19
@flapiz Oh I thought you are in located in Australia? I really do not know why, it must have been an urgent thing that they could not wait for him in the office. There are times like that in here where our boss is somewhere else we have to follow where she is to have something signed by her.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
They needed something signed. They could have gone to his new office instead. (After lunch time). To save them the inconveniences of waiting and skipping lunch. After all, they know where it is and it was 11:30 so it’s clearly still office hours. Philippine office has standard break hours which is 12 NN. I was wondering if they came expecting lunch? I did ask them twice.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
Yeah it was really shocking attitude and also very unwarranted. When someone offers you something it’s good manners to say thank you right? And if you are not interested you can also just refuse politely. There was no need for yelling. Good thing our maid wasn’t very sensitive.
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@Miss_Leafy (4296)
• Colombia
3 Jul 19
I would tell them I would go out, so they should leave my house
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@Sedakabloom (94)
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3 Jul 19
That's very very rude of them. You did the right thing offering them snacks . If they didn't want to eat they could've politely told the maid.. yelling at her is just not right.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
Exactly. We were trying our best to accommodate their unexpected visit. I don’t see why being polite was hard for her.
@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
@kepweng Haha we live in the mountain. And no one can drive apart from my dad. It’s really inconvenient for us to have unannounced guests. We gave them what we have.
If they are going to be too picky then they should bring their own food.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
Yeah shouting at anyone is rude. More so at someone who is trying to help you.
@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 19
I’m really trying to understand them so next time if they visit I’ll have a better approach. I thought culturally speaking I did right. Here in the Philippines It’s customary to feed the guests. So I was shocked by her outrage.
