Why don't parents get it? : part-2
By Bloom
@Sedakabloom (94)
July 4, 2019 12:55am CST
Hey everyone.. how's everyone doing?
So.. I don't know if you remember my first post.."why don't parents get it". I just wanna say.. thank you so much for your support guys. It meant a lot to me.
I thought a lot about my situation here and I decided to step up and talk to my father about this.
I told him that this is my life and I will do whatever I want to do.. I will marry someone if I think he's the right guy.. or I won't get married. It's not the end of the world for me. I just wanna focus on my career right now.. I wanna travel the world.. explore places.. live in different countries.. I know it may sound crazy but that's what I want to do. It's my dream.. and I will do everything to make it true. Now if I get married to some guy that I don't even know.. it will be unfair to him and me.. because you don't get it.. I'm very different person.. I'm very sensitive.. and if I'm with a guy who is carefree and doesn't give an f about my feelings. I will be hurt.. that marriage won't work.
And my dad said a lot of things about compromise and stuff but I think that's ridiculous.
I don't get it why do Indians think like they don't have a choice but to live a miserable life? Work someplace where they don't want to.. but they have to? Or be with someone u don't love.. but u can't leave otherwise the families will be disappointed. Or the society will question your decision.. it all sounds so absurd to me..
Well.. I'm glad that I'm not like them. I will not waste my life compromising.. I will live it.
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8 responses
@porwest (92624)
• United States
4 Jul 19
I think it is great you stood up for your own values and beliefs. I think the way of life in India is horrible based on what I have read or heard about it. Not that it is a bad country, or that the people are necessarily bad, but come on. It's the 21st century for crying out loud. Arranged marriages are almost barbaric to me.
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@porwest (92624)
• United States
4 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom A very sad state of affairs. The best you can hope for is that your generation will proceed differently with their own children. Change is a long time coming, but it can happen.
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@porwest (92624)
• United States
4 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom No. Not at all. You can at least instill into your children's hearts and minds a better way to go about life, and be more supportive to them than your parents were to you.
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@Sedakabloom (94)
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4 Jul 19
@porwest oh yes.. after surviving my childhood.. I most definitely don't wanna be extremely strict..
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@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
4 Jul 19
Well done for facing your father and telling him your dreams and desires. He will not be surprised when you start disobeying him and doing what is good for you.
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@Sedakabloom (94)
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4 Jul 19
Yes.. and it's fine even if I take the wrong decisions.. at least I won't blame anyone else for it. It will be on my hands .
@Sedakabloom (94)
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4 Jul 19
Well actually I want to become a pastry chef.. so maybe one day I'll become one and fulfill my dream
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
4 Jul 19
Don't get married yet when you're not ready. Married life is no joke.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
5 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom That's right. It's big responsibility that it won't be neglected.
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@Sedakabloom (94)
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4 Jul 19
That's what I feel too.. it's such a big responsibility..!!
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@VoiceofTruth7 (1195)
• United States
4 Jul 19
Life is all about choices we all have 1 life to live and whether we live a good life or bad life it is up to us what other people think what society thinks should not matter. You should not compromise who you are to please others you should be true to your choices live out your dreams and Live each day to the fullest. True freedom is when you live for your own happiness and not to make other people happy.
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@VoiceofTruth7 (1195)
• United States
6 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom Your welcome But God gives me the Words Thanks Him I am Just His Hands and Feet To Share His Heart with the World.
@Sedakabloom (94)
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5 Jul 19
That is so accurate.. I took a screenshot of this and I'll read it whenever I'm feeling down..! Thank u so much..
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
4 Jul 19
Good for you to stand up for yourself. I would caution however, that compromise is not always a bad thing. But for your life mate, yes, I agree no compromise, it should be who makes you happy. I am not very familiar with Indian culture. Does your family have some say over your choices?
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
4 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom I am glad you have choices then. That you can choose your path.
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@Sedakabloom (94)
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4 Jul 19
Yes.. I mean I'm not saying that I won't ever compromise. I would have to do that ofcourse to make a relationship work.. but.. I wouldn't just marry a stranger just because my family thinks he's a good man. If I want to be happy I will make my own life decisions.
And yes.. let's just say.. some of us Indian kids have to obey everything their parents say. Some are not even allowed to pick up a career path.. but luckily my parents are not that strict.. and they support me career wise.
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