Why do people avoid eye contacts and talking with a person?

@ajithlal (14716)
India
July 16, 2019 9:52pm CST
Sometimes I see people avoiding eye contacts while talking and sometimes people would consider a person invisible while they are in group of people. Yet they do make friendships or talk to the person when they need the person? Why do people engage in these kinds of behaviors?
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
17 Jul 19
Some are shy and they feel uncomfortable looking the others in the eyes.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
You are right shy people does not look others in the eyes.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
@LadyDuck I have seen girls feeling uncomfortable when boys staring inapproriately.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
3 Jun 22
@ajithlal It also depends how you look someone in the eyes, "staring" is not polite.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
17 Jul 19
I do not know but I find it hard to make an eye contact when talking to someones unless the person I am communicating with is telling me something important or urgent that needs my full attention. But if it is an ordinary conversation eye contact feels awkward to me to look at them straight in the eye. I also feel a bit off when someone is intently looking straight at me.
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@jiwonnie (443)
• Philippines
17 Jul 19
Same. I know they think it's rude but I just can't bring myself to look them in the eyes. It's very awkward for me.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
@jiwonnie I think eye contact helps to have a good relationship with people.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
3 Jun 22
@jiwonnie Making eye contact with someone with whom you are not directly acquainted is awkward in my opinion. But it shouldn't be an issue for friends and family. When speaking with your supervisor or other professionals, I believe it is crucial to maintain eye contact.
@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
19 Jul 19
I don't mean to not make eye contact but I did day care for 14 years and then I was a bartender for around 12 years. My eyes always had to be watching to make sure everything was ok. I have not broke that habit so I do catch myself looking around.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
It is good that you are looking around yourself.
• Preston, England
16 May 20
I have been on the sharp end of that kind of treatment a few times - some people just blank others, even close friends, out like ghosts - really quite disgusting behaviour
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
21 May 20
I also think it is a disgusting behavior
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@skysnap (20153)
17 Jul 19
I worked on job that paid me 2500 Rs and now I am 20 X that salary but I still have eye contact issues due to me going through humble background cant really feel confident in bullying people below me.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
It is great that you do not treat people below you with bad behavior.
@psanasangma (7288)
• India
17 Jul 19
Personally I find problem, anyway there are people who behavior are this way because of awkwardness or being introvert and some are intentional .
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
Yes there are both introvert and extrovert types of people.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 19
That is considered to be impolite. I hate someone when talking to me he looks at another.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
17 Jul 19
Some people are introvert. They try to find a bravado to speak with others.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
3 Jun 22
I am also a kind of introvert, but trying to be social.
@Bensen32 (27610)
• United States
17 Jul 19
Many times not looking people in the eye is a sign of lying, of course sometimes it is just cause they are shy or embarrassed about the subject that they are talking about. As you say there are many people out there that only want to talk to people when they need something, those are the people that I avoid.
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@Aansh13 (11362)
• New Delhi, India
17 Jul 19
Some people lack confidence.... So may be that's the case... Though it isn't something that is appreciated
@Starkinds (32712)
• India
17 Jul 19
Because lack of Trust or confidence
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@sophie09 (34236)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 19
because they are shy hahah
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