Bad habits and Growth blockers
@Olorire (53)
Nigeria
July 29, 2019 3:14am CST
Something I notice everyday is pointless or unnecessarily long arguments or debates. Sometimes on serious issues, other times on petty issues.
Some people want to be right all the time as if there's a price for it. You discuss with someone, the person has seen that his/her points are inferior to yours but he/she keeps arguing for the sake of habit.
This habit is a huge growth blocker. Many people have it unfortunately. When someone has better points.. Tell the person you're right. You'll grow.
Someone's points seem convincing but you think you need to think it through.. Say you need to cross check and think it through, simple. When you've crosschecked, sincerely, admit you were wrong or go back with better points if you've found a superior line of thought.
Some people are not realising that in order to learn, you will be wrong plenty times and it doesn't matter... This is how you learn, grow and get better..
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@crossbones27 (49463)
• Mojave, California
29 Jul 19
I find it honorable when people simply say you have a point. I will be first to admit sometimes my ego gets the best of me but at same time proud of myself when someone clearly thought about something and brought a point I never thought about.
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@Olorire (53)
• Nigeria
29 Jul 19
You're so right. Its a constant struggle with our ego amd sometimes it gets the better of us especially in public. I have been told a few times during arguments that I'm only good at arguing, I should have been a lawyer, bla bla bla..
These people do not realise that in order to learn, you will be wrong plenty times and it doesn't matter. Learning meanwhile is a continuous process, it never stops.
Personally, I practice solitude and thinking sometimes.. I love my company.. Lol. And when I'm with friends, I try to not let pride get the better of me.
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@crossbones27 (49463)
• Mojave, California
29 Jul 19
@Olorire Amen and there is some that just argue to argue because it is like why would you even try to back that position, Common sense and common decency.
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@Olorire (53)
• Nigeria
29 Jul 19
@crossbones27 so true.. I actually used to be guilty of that, me and my friends.. Lol. But thank God, I've grown with time and I'd like to keep growing.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
29 Jul 19
I usually debate a lot, I like to know all the points of view, besides that my profession as a lawyer is a key point of why I love debates, and I consider myself that at one time I was very stubborn, something that I have been correcting with years and maturity, to the point that I have achieved a level of tolerance that I like, yes, I always defend the beliefs that I have with conviction, but always respecting and even soaking myself of knowledge regarding the point of others. You can learn a lot from it.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
29 Jul 19
@Olorire Well yes, we all want for some reason (and we like) to be right, it is as if the human being felt pleased, ecstatic to be right, but a lot of ego is bad, it goes to your head.
@Olorire (53)
• Nigeria
29 Jul 19
@YuleimaVzla Oh yes. Very true. Its a blinder.
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@psanasangma (7288)
• India
29 Jul 19
In this case I don't find any constructive discussion will takes place. it will be rather toxic person I will be dealing with
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@Olorire (53)
• Nigeria
29 Jul 19
Yeah.. Once I detect such a person, I usually try to excuse myself as soon as possible..
