For those who read / answered my previous post....
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
Perth, Australia
August 7, 2019 2:09pm CST
I just wanted to do this post as I feel I didn't really explain myself well in my previous one. I know that we shouldn't really worry what others think about us but I'm someone who doesn't like being misunderstood or having people have the wrong impression of me. No one has said anything nasty to me or anything but I feel like I want to make double sure that no one has taken me the wrong way.
In my last post I asked you guys what you thought about those who bragged too much. I also explained that I always sit back and wonder why people do what they do and say what they say and that bragging eventually becomes annoying to me. But I didn't mean bragging as in people who spoke about their successes or achievements in their lives or speaking about something that made them happy ( job, family life, fitness, health, grades in school improving, accomplishing things etc ) I didn't mean I couldn't tolerate that sort of bragging. Actually I don't even call that bragging. I call that someone sharing their happiness with others. I can't tell you the amount of times I've cried happy tears for other people. Even in public which was embarrassing but I am easily happy when others are improving or have positive news.
The type of bragging I was referring to was the egotistical kind of bragging. The kind of bragging where someone will speak so highly of themselves while putting others down in the process. Kinda like a narcissistic type of bragging.
I will give you real examples of what I mean. This is a mixture of my ex boyfriend and people I have seen here on MyLot.
"I was the best looking guy at the party." "I am much smarter than everyone in my class." "Everyone is jealous of me." "I write the best stories." "I write better than anyone here on MyLot." "I am seriously model material." "Every guy wants the girl I am with." "I am much better than you cause you're a piece of sh*t."
That's the type of bragging I was talking about that I can't tolerate because it's selfish and hurtful. I understand why people can be this way but there are also others who are literally selfish and so egotistical who enjoy putting others down.
I do hope no one took me the wrong way and I hope this post explained more of what I meant.
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26 responses
@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Aug 19
I understand what you meant. BTW, I am the best responder at myLot!!!!
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
8 Aug 19
yep! we should have a trophy or medal emoji for you. 
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
8 Aug 19
I admit I wasn't sure what exactly you referred to on the original post. That's why I laid my boasting out for you. But I did not take anything you said in that post (or above) that was negative or looked bad on you.
Personally, I don't mind much what people think of me. It's nice when they think nicely of me, but everyone has their own personality, and there will be many that just don't work well in my world.
BTW, what you describe as the kind of braggart you don't like, is a perfect description of the current president of the US. (I am not the only one who feels that way.)
Take care.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@cperry2 Thank you for not seeing me as negative or anything. Your comment was one of the ones that made me wonder if I should have explained myself better because when you were speaking about your family, I thought "crap no no I love that sort of talk." And worried if you thought I wouldn't care to hear about all that. So yeah I got worried but glad that it didn't come across as nasty to you and hopefully not to others and hopefully through this post I made myself more clearer.
LOL he who shall not be named did cross my mind a bit when talking about this topic.
Thank you Clint. You too!
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
8 Aug 19
I get what you are saying, this post is very clear, and I do know what you mean.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
8 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 everything is good, but still good to explain it.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@CookieMonster46 Thank you. I feel good doing this post. I have people who say I shouldn't care what others think but that's just not me. If someone doesn't like me for who I am then fine but I wouldn't want to be disliked for something I'm not or from some misunderstanding.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@CookieMonster46 Thank you for understanding me. That makes me feel better. 
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
7 Aug 19
Some people are not capable of taking critiques, so instead of taking the critique processing it and applying it to make themselves better they instead go out to attack the person, ATTACKING and Critiquing are much different things, sadly some do not get that concept they take any feedback that is not 100% possitive as an attack which isn't the case.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@chrissbergstrom Very well said! I really loved your answer because it's like you have a better understanding of how a person's mind can work.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
9 Aug 19
@chrissbergstrom That is very true. Seriously Chris, you are such a beautiful person. I hope you know this. I'm not the only one who has said this either. Need more people like you. As cheesy as that sounds but it's what I believe.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
9 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Life is hard, it's even harder when you're angry most of the time, i try to keep love in my heart even when pain and sadness is constantly around me.... as end of the day hate and anger isn't worth it on us it hurts us to.....
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
10 Aug 19
I did. 
I did. I mean I read and answered the previous post so I am eligible. 
I understand thee last post and this one. However, I do not understand the people who didn't understand the posts. Psss.. Could it be coz they have been the braggers or could it be that some just like to stir things up for the heck of it or could it be coz someone's middle name is "Oh! I am so offended." Or (which is unlikely I think) could it be the language barrier? 
I did. I mean I read and answered the previous post so I am eligible.
I understand thee last post and this one. However, I do not understand the people who didn't understand the posts. Psss.. Could it be coz they have been the braggers or could it be that some just like to stir things up for the heck of it or could it be coz someone's middle name is "Oh! I am so offended." Or (which is unlikely I think) could it be the language barrier? 2 people like this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Aug 19
@Daljinder haha I knew you'd get me since you understand how my heart and mind works. You often like to get nice and cosy in my head. 
I'm not really sure either. There were just a few responses that gave me that vibe that I was being misunderstood. Could also be that my whole post wasn't read as I can tell quite a lot of people do that here. Especially one for sure who doesn't really read the whole post. 
I'm not really sure either. There were just a few responses that gave me that vibe that I was being misunderstood. Could also be that my whole post wasn't read as I can tell quite a lot of people do that here. Especially one for sure who doesn't really read the whole post. 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
17 Aug 19
@Daljinder I will show you later. Please remind me if you can!
OH Awesome!!!! So exciting to have a family member of yours here! I will save his profile and hit follow soon as I am caught up! Thank you for telling me!
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
15 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Who is that? And also that 'KD' person here on this post is my cousin. He had joined 2 years back and came here again recently.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
8 Aug 19
I think there is a clear demarcation between bragging and talking about achievements with pride and joy. I can not withstand braggers. I often feel that there is an underlying insecurity in people that makes them brag. Or something missing in them. They use bragging as a mask to hide what is actually missing in their life.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@arunima25 I agree with all that you said! I also believe that there are also just some nasty people out there who enjoy making others feel bad.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Aug 19
@arunima25 lol that's a good idea! Being happy actually annoys them more too so double the bonus!
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
13 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes they are. They are happy if you feel bad. So I pretend to be happy about their bragging and even brush their ego a bit.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Sep 19
No way could I take it that way.
I was just thinking of a natural show off whose head is filled with fantasies all day long it seems.
He was on that Big Brother VIP program boasting away that he knew such and such about famous people.
There were two ordinary guys sitting there trying to listen to him and the looks on their face made me crease up with laughing and I thought to myself yeah not in a whole lifetime could you get to do what you say you have already done just no way.
Nonetheless he was funny to listen to as he was so boring to listen to.
In the end I thought yeah and I am the Fairy Godmother too.
Glad that your Dad is much better now.
Glad that your Dad is much better now.1 person likes this
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13
It was on the Spanish Big Brother V.I.P. Show actually and always plenty of drama going on in the Spanish one.
Great to see him on the mend.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
3 Sep 19
@lovinangelsinstead21 ah ok well dang. If I knew Spanish I would have looked it up lol Some of the arguments these people have on that show can be so stupid lol
And thank you so much!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
2 Sep 19
@lovinangelsinstead21 oh man! I want to see that! lol I never rally watched Big Brother but every now and then I will look up highlights from the show or when drama struck in the house lol
And thank you so much for understanding where I was coming from as well as what you said about my dad. He is going good for now.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
8 Aug 19
I did understand what you meant by "bragging" in your previous post but haven't read what others commented and they probably misunderstood you.
When I have achievements I share it and no I don't consider it bragging at all. But when someone is ego tripping, I sometimes would want to put that person down by slapping it to his or her face, that hey I'm someone better than you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@toniganzon I am glad you understood what you meant. No one was being mean to me or anything but I think some people were under the impression that I meant I didn't care to hear about people who brag about things that have made them happy. Whereas I actually meant I don't like when people brag about how good they are and believe they are better than everyone else.
lol fair enough but yeah people who act and think they are better than everyone else just bothers me.
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@RasmaSandra (79858)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Aug 19
I never brag about myself if someone asks me if I can do something I answer truthfully and if I can do the thing they are suggesting then I just tell them my method of doing it but I never say I do it better than anyone else.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
8 Aug 19
i appreciate when someone is like that, and answer when i have further questions.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@RasmaSandra That is sweet of you. I don't brag either but when I have accomplished something I do share it with family and close friends and people who just care as I know they will be cheering with me. But I have never in my life said "I am better than you" in regards to anything. It's just mean.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
10 Aug 19
I AM the best looking guy at the party. No question about it!
{I was going to say I was the best myLotter, but John Roberts beat me to it haha}
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 You wouldn’t want to be at a party where i’m the best-looking guy?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
14 Aug 19
@moffittjc Oh I know you wouldn't for sure! I didn't even want to be there. I actually walked out of it. Was sick of some people offering it to me and not listening to me say "No I don't do that."
I would have rather us go off somewhere and actually feel safe and have fun than with those losers.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Aug 19
@moffittjc lol at this party, I would have had you take me away from there! I didn't even want to be there!
lol you two are both funny I swear!
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
8 Aug 19
You made yourself very clear, Ms. Danielle :) I also dislike the braggarts that you enumerated and try to keep away from them. Have a great day!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@sunrisefan Hey! I have not seen you around! I hope everything is going alright for you!
And thank you very much for understanding what I was saying. You have a great day too!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@sunrisefan aww lovely! I hope you have a wonderful time! I'd love to visit NZ one day! It looks so beautiful there.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
8 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Thanks, Ms. Daniellle. I'm just here popping in and out :) I'm just 3 hours away from you as I'm here in NZ at the moment. My wife and I arrived here on August 1 and will be staying for a few months. It's winter time though so we're stuck in the house to help keep an eye on our daughter's baby boy.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
8 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13
Dani, thank you so much for explaining that. I believe you made it perfectly clear what you meant in that post. You are a very good person and special and caring and do not let anyone take that away from you. I am going to write you a private message now.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@Hannihar I am so glad you understood what I meant. I was worried I would be misunderstood. Thank you so very much for your kind words. As always you really do make me feel good about myself. I haven't looked at my messages yet as I have been trying to catch up with notifications but soon as I am done, will come check.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
9 Aug 19
@Hannihar I answered your message. And thank you so much. You are very special to me also. You're one of my really good friends and I am thankful to have met you.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
9 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13
Dani, You are very special and I hate to see you take on other people's worries because you have enough to deal with. I understand very well and see we are a lot alike. Don't worry. Do what you have to and do not over do it. I do want to write you a message on something.
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
30 Aug 19
Aighty I get you and thanks for sharing....I will refrain from telling you how awesome I gargle and cough next time 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
30 Aug 19
@Loverabbit haha well no I just mean....I've never seen anyone want to talk about gargling and coughing before lol If you can make music out of it then maybe you could try out LOL
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
30 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 really you like my gargle that much? Should I save my talent for GOT talent global next year 
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
7 Aug 19
Sorry I haven't following up your previous post on what you are complaining about bragging.
I don't like hearing bragging statements you mentioned. What I want to hear about and I am happy is the success stories putting oneself humbly behind.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@Nakitakona No worries at all. I am glad to have you here on this one.
I agree. Those sorts of stories are always so nice to listen to.
I agree. Those sorts of stories are always so nice to listen to. 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
11 Aug 19
@Nakitakona To some degree I agree with you. I mean yes to do great things of our own but no to not being egotistical about it all.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
10 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, they are not only worth listening to but worth emulating. Aren't they?
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
18 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 You're welcome. And I totally understand why you wanted to clear up your other post.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
17 Aug 19
@inertia4 I am glad you understood me. Seems more people understood me than people who I feel didn't. I still felt like I wanted to make myself extra clear as I didn't want anyone to misunderstand me. Thank you for reading and answering.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
14 Aug 19
Yes I am glad I am not around those types
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
2 Sep 19
@TiarasOceanView That is good! They sure can be a nuisance!
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
8 Aug 19
I perfectly understood the meaning of your previous post and the kind of braggarts you describe here are exactly those who get on my nerves, the "I am the best" "everything I own is the best" and if they are sick "nobody ever suffered like I did". do not think that anyone could have taken your post the wrong way Dani.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@LadyDuck I know you understood me for sure. Thank you.
Exactly right. You have great examples and those sorts of sentences make me so angry too.
Exactly right. You have great examples and those sorts of sentences make me so angry too.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Aug 19
@just4him Thank you for understanding me. And I agree. Not a healthy encounter indeed!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@Janet357 I agree. Majority of people here are so wonderful!
