Trying to let this go, but still feeling aggravated / myLot

United States

August 8, 2019 12:15pm CST

You know I had mentioned about my friend having a stroke awhile back, and he was told to do 3 things when he got out of the hospital, schedule a visit with his regular doctor, which I believe he did finally, see a cardiologist, and get a blood pressure machine,(check) and I believe he was advised to keep better control of his blood sugar as well..Anyway, even though they told him in the hospital his heart was not pumping adequately..he still has not been to a cardiologist..

. It isn't a question of not having enough insurance, or a financial motive..I don't know what it is..but it has been driving me crazy. I mean if I had a stroke and was advised to see a cardiologist, this would be the first thing I would do. I just don't understand his attitude. My sis told me to just make an appointment for him..but he told me this morning, he wants to be the one to decide on it..it could be one of those things..that they might charge if the visit was cancelled also..Although he says he does, maybe he just doesn't care if he lives or dies..I don't know what to think..It makes me stressed and sad. I guess I could explain to him how I feel, but not sure if it would change anything. To me, it isn't business as usual until he gets this done.

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6 responses

CarolDM

@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

8 Aug 19

Have been in that situation before. Lots of worry and heartache. Unfortunately all you can do is all you can do.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (182204)

• United States

8 Aug 19

Yes, it does bother me alot..mostly because I just don't understand the reasoning. xo.

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maezee

@maezee (41988)

• United States

8 Aug 19

Oh my. That is a frustrating place to be in. What’s it going to take for him to see a cardiologist?

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snowy

@snowy22315 (182204)

• United States

8 Aug 19

I don't know. I think my best bet is to tell my son, who I think is the only one he might listen to. If anyone could get him to go, it would probably be him.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (61640)

• Centralia, Washington

8 Aug 19

Hugs. I hope he works on this soon.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (182204)

• United States

8 Aug 19

I hope so as well. TY.

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NJ Chicaa

@NJChicaa (120136)

• United States

8 Aug 19

Nothing you can do about it unfortunately

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snowy

@snowy22315 (182204)

• United States

8 Aug 19

Other than saying how I feel, no. I just can not understand this.

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78871)

• East Tawas, Michigan

8 Aug 19

It would be wonderful if he wouldn't be so lax, over setting up this vital appointment. But as a man, the more you say, the less apt he will be to do it! That's male pride, they always want to be in control

If you say anything he misinterpret it as, 'you want to control him!' They are stubborn beings, at times.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (182204)

• United States

8 Aug 19

He can be stubborn about something else. This is vital, we went through this a couple of years ago..whereas he was given the same basic recommendation and he never followed up..saying something like his doctor gave him an EKG and he was OK. If he wants to be an idiot, just let him do it over something non vital. I have to just put this out of my head, bottomline he is probably not going to be seen, and what will be, will be.

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78871)

• East Tawas, Michigan

8 Aug 19

@snowy22315 As grown men, they will do just EXACTLY what they feel like doing

We can't convince them, they're actually playing with dynamite!