Life as an adult
@Ladanger (14578)
United States
August 11, 2019 2:06am CST
The only reason why i am still active on my social media is literally for memes and vines. I follow my favorite actors as well. I share memes all day. I never post anything. Not even about my life. Here on mylot i post more than i have ever posted on my regular social media.
Sadly the people i know from school are all ignorant. I can't really say i have mature people on my social media at all and i read about them constantly complaining about their life. We all have problems but i rather post here where i know nice people can give me good advice.
I am still in my 20's so i rather get advice from mature people than people say stuff like go fight and other bad things. I know to some it might be like shocking because they think where did i meet these people but they are all from trade school and high school.
As an adult it's harder to make new friends because it's easier when you are in school or growing up you are raised with them. The friends i have made now as an adult are virtual ones.
I know that this isn't everyones case because some are lucky enough to have nice people around them but sadly i have a bunch ghetto students on mines. Ghetto is like saying they are hood rats. People who love the streets and don't think about consequences.
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15 responses
@moffittjc (121586)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Aug 19
I am proud of you for recognizing that there is more to life than being a hood rat, and that complaining about your life on social media accomplishes nothing. You have separated yourself from the others and have chosen not to let them dictate the circumstances of your life. That shows maturity right there Christina!
MyLot is a wonderful community of virtual friends, and you have found a safe place to express as much or as little of your life as you feel comfortable. The majority of the people on this site won't judge you, but accept you for who you are. I, for one, enjoy reading your posts. Keep up the good work!
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@moffittjc (121586)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Aug 19
@Ladanger Yes, it is very important to vent and get things off your chest. This is a good site for doing that in a safe setting. There may be a few people that judge, but for the most part everyone here will be accepting and understanding, and work to encourage and support you.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
15 Aug 19
@moffittjc i appreciate those who are nice to me. The ones who don't are few but for the most there are many who have kind hearts.
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@Sojourn (13837)
• India
11 Aug 19
I know how you feel. My next door childhood friend + brother has now went onto become a drunkard and mixes with lowlifes. I liked him during childhood but I detached with him now. Many others have moved on their lives and they are not much active on social media.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
12 Aug 19
I well remember that, when I was 18 and first entered the 'adult world' of work, I was somewhat shocked to find that my bosses, who I thought were 'adults', though I suppose that they were only a few years older than I.joked and larked about more childishly than the people I had been at school with!
I only use Facebook to keep up with members of my family and certain friends. There are a few others I am connected with but, if I find that they post stuff which doesn't interest me or I think is in bad taste, I remove them, just as I would make sure to avoid toxic people in real life as much as possible.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
12 Aug 19
Yes and in my social media i communicate with old friends. In the work place it can be hard to get along also sometimes. I am working on removing those toxic people out because they bring nothing but negative energy around me. Facebook use to be mostly for that but now people created pages with videos on it. Some are good and some aren't.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
12 Aug 19
I think that is a mutual thing to have new friends in our life even when we are matured or have become adults! Just imagine those people who go and join their offices to meet new unknown people there and within no time they get very closer!
Here on this site as said by @hereandthere we all are virtual friends, but we interact as if we are known to each other for years together now. We know more or less the nature of many friends here along with many traits of theirs through the interaction!
We can learn many new things, many new experiences and many new traditions and cultures by having such adult virtual friends! Be positive and interact them with positive attitude to enjoy your life! All the best!
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
12 Aug 19
@Ladanger , Wit the time these school friends also get changed! In fact these people behave like kids in the presence of their childhood friends only, otherwise when it comes about behaving with others they must be behaving very soberly!
Like we are 5 childhood friends who have had a good reputation in the society and we allwere/are professionals! When we meet other people we are very sober and very polite with others. But when we meet once or twice in a year to become kids at this age of 60+!
I think this is also a phase of our life!
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
12 Aug 19
Yes and i enjoy my virtual friends on here more than the people i have in real life because separating myself and people new people is harder than when i met people in school. My last job my co workers weren't all that nice and they treated me like a kid. They were much older than me.
Some people ask where do i know such childish people from but that's because of school. Anyways i rather have a lowkey life and interact on the internet like i am now.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
12 Aug 19
thanks fer suggestin' this, ms. @Gillygirl.
i'm glad that yer seein' that these folks ya grew 'p with, went to school with 're not the folks ya need to've there'n yer life. ya seem to be lookin' fer a good path to follow'n i hope ya find such. my suggestion to findin' new friends who'll help ya grow'n the real world 'd be to volunteer. e'ery community needs volunteers fer many thingies. doin' such gives a sense 'f purpose. ya get to help folks 'n thus yerself. meetin' folks who'll lift ya 'p, rather than put'cha down.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
12 Aug 19
@Ladanger yer welcome :) there'd be too many folks who feel entitled. 'tis most humblin' to be 'round folks with true needs. when ya can help ease their woes (be 't food, shelter, readin' to young'uns, helpin' with the elderly, etc), one's a clearer vision.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
13 Aug 19
I have friends in both spectrums, real and online. You will find the occasional nasty one here, but admin is good to help keep it under control. I hope that at some time you can find yourself in a better place in real life, too.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
12 Aug 19
i feel that here i'm learning from people from all ages, from all places, who've been through all kinds of situations, even if we never saw or met each other.
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@Namelesss (3365)
• United States
16 Aug 19
Your social media group will mostly grow up in time (maybe). In the mean time you're smart to seek more mature advice and knowledge. And in doing that you are also helping us old folks (
) feel more useful and valid, so Thanks HON! 
) feel more useful and valid, so Thanks HON! 2 people like this
@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
12 Aug 19
You are so true. Making friends as adult is so tough as we have so many prejudices coming in the way. I am lucky to have a few friends from childhood days who are still in touch. But we all are so far away and so busy with our lives. The interaction is so limited.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
13 Aug 19
@Ladanger Nope they are not. They in fact are quite good to interact. I have so many virtual friends here and they have been a blessing.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
11 Aug 19
I only have virtual friends as well.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
12 Aug 19
@Ladanger It's better than having real life friends who are negative.
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