Marriage

@rossmy (89)
Canada
August 14, 2019 9:51pm CST
Traditionally, marriage precedes a family. However, it seems that nowadays, single parent and couples living in a common-law relationship are not unusual. Undoubtedly there are numbers of successful people who were raised by a single parent. Similarly, there are many broken so called traditional families with detrimental consequences to the children. One can argue that a traditional family can work but sometimes it can also fail. However, the proverb "it takes a village to raise a child" suggests that there's so much required to raise a child, and to experiment on a "new way" because the traditional method is not perfect, carries a tremendous risk. Perhaps, only a strong adherence to freedom and unwavering commitment self determination can convince someone to consciously take a risk on bringing up a child in this world without the wisdom of the traditional family or "village".
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Aug 19
Raising kids does take a village but nobody said the village had to have two parents or two parents together. There are many different types of family some by choice some not. No way raising a child is wrong when it comes to family dynamics as i like to say. I explain to my children there is all types we have one type but other friends might have different.
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@marguicha (223801)
• Chile
15 Aug 19
I can see what you have mentioned. What is your idea?
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@rossmy (89)
• Canada
16 Aug 19
Unless one has stable economic and emotional support, do not raise a child. Just because one has a choice to raise a child is not enough reason. Maybe, it is not wise to exercise the freedom of choice and gamble with the well being of child.
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@marguicha (223801)
• Chile
16 Aug 19
@rossmy You are very right, as logic goes. But then, some of the reasons you raise a child are because you are in love and because you think you can do it.
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@pumpkinjam (8769)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 19
It always bothers me when people associate negative outcomes with children being from a 'broken' home. Any type of family can work. It depends on the individuals and the dynamics within the family. a 'friend' offended me recently because she said something about my eldest son being better because he had his father around. The reasons I was offended were 1) because I raised them both - yes, I had some help but I was (or may as well have been) a single parent for most of the time. I had raised them the same - taking into account their different needs and personalities and 2) because the inference was that there was somehow something wrong with my youngest. He's always well-behaved so I really don't know what my friend's issue was. Anyway, yes, there are lots more non-traditional families now. I'm about to marry my partner. We have a very mixed and blended family but it works precisely because of our experiences.
@yanzalong (18987)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 19
To me, I don't see any problems raising children except one thing: money. Parents usually work hard to earn a living to bring up children.
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