Come and Go

September 28, 2019 1:48am CST
I'm 26 and I realize that as I grow older, I start losing friends. Not that I am not keen on burning bridges. As a matter of fact, I know how to let people go when I feel like we're growing apart, not sharing the same interests, or simply because I feel like they're stunting my growth. But looking at it now, I only have like 3 friends I know I can count on. Is this the harsh truth in life? That people do come and go?
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
28 Sep 19
First of all, Welcome to Mylot... Life is a constant change, my friend... As time goes by, we and our friends will change priorities because of some reason...
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28 Sep 19
Thank you! But yeah. I guess what makes it harder is the fact that everything has just slowly started to sink in.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
28 Sep 19
@none12345 You will be used to it... That's the way of life...
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• Kuta, Indonesia
28 Sep 19
Hi, Zoe. I understand how you feel. I think that's natural when people come and go. I used to have many friends when I was younger. Now that I grow older, I only have 2 friends. It's sad, but I accept the fact.
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• Kuta, Indonesia
28 Sep 19
@none12345 Sometimes I miss those too. Anyway, welcome to myLot!
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28 Sep 19
@Kitty_Lover thank you! :)
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28 Sep 19
I know right? I feel like sometimes, I can't help but miss those I've been very dear to.
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@psanasangma (7280)
• India
28 Sep 19
It is a natural process to be growing apart from our own circle of friends.. Keep focusing in your life not on others. Be good to everyone and helpful if you are capable whenever person is in need.. Last but not the least welcome to Mylot
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28 Sep 19
Thanks for welcoming me. Really means a lot.
@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
28 Sep 19
Friends come and go. Just focus on your career direction.
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28 Sep 19
Thank you :)
@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
28 Sep 19
i believe that who's meant to be in your life will always somehow end up as a part of it.
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28 Sep 19
Only time can tell, right?
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@andersonc (124)
• Santa Rita, Venezuela
28 Sep 19
hello welcome to mylot. I believe that all people in the world have this experience in life at some point. but it is something that you have to face in a positive way because it can also help you improve some aspect or attitudes that you may be developing in your environment, both family or friends and you do not realize to correct it yourself. so if at any time you feel alone this is a great place.
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28 Sep 19
thank you, that makes me feel better!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
I think that in our schooling days we have plenty of friends. As we get older we seem to have less friends. People get married and then have children therefore there is less time for meeting up. Interests can change like when a teenager the young lady like horses and horse riding. When she leaves university she has to get a job and she forgets her pony club friends. Friends need to share common interests. They come and go throughout life it would seem.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
4 Oct 19
@none12345 Welcome to My Lot. I find that people come and go in my life. You do not need a lot of friends in life. What you need are real friends that are there for you through thick and thin.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
4 Oct 19
@none12345 Sorry yes it can happen that people come and go in our lives. 3 friends is good. You do not need a lot of friends in life. What you need are a few real friends that are there for you.
@sarik1 (7283)
28 Sep 19
Welcome to Mylot. I understand you situation. i was very friend. but same situation come and go. be happy.enjoy Mylot.
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@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
1 Oct 19
Yes, this is one harsh truth that I have come to accept too. People do come and go.
@Janet357 (75646)
28 Sep 19
But you are not alone. It happens to a lot of people. And don’t you like that? You get to meet new people.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
29 Sep 19
Friends are not a problem to find them. Yes, that true. They may come and go.
28 Sep 19
It's not so much a harsh truth, it just is. The fact that you have the ability to know when friendship changes, how actions affect people, and respond accordingly means you aren't superficial. It's just a process of age and experience. Because those changes happen on both sides of the friendship, we aren't always meant to understand why friends fall away. As humans, we are in a constant state of change. ;)
28 Sep 19
i do understand that change is inevitable. but i guess i was not prepared to undergo these kinds of changes.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Sep 19
Yes it's how it goes. Life moves and changes in every way with only a very few hanging on for the ride with us. =) I only have one true friend God Blessed me with and I pray it stays that way-I love having someone I can truly count on if needed.
@LeaPea2417 (37383)
• Toccoa, Georgia
28 Sep 19
It is a fact of life. It has happened to me. My 23 year old son has a best guy friend. They have been real friends since they were around 10. His friend is getting ready to join the military, has a girl friend he wants to marry, and I see how he will start drifting away from my son when this happens. I hope they can remain close despite life situations.
@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
28 Sep 19
I have like 2 real friends. I dropped alot of fake friends.
@cool83 (4467)
• Sri Lanka
29 Sep 19
HI welcome to myLot .. It`s ok .. me also do`nt have many friends ... but i like to help people ...now the society is changed and people also changing like a whether so we can`t still belive what kind of people we are talking to .. i think it`s not a big problem ... be a good at every time ...