Am I nice or stupid?
By Izs
@Jaltheia (54)
October 2, 2019 12:49am CST
What is the difference between NICE and STUPID?
I just came from a 360 degrees event in my life that made me realized what kind of person I am.
I keep on asking my friends and people close to me this question but it seems that there is really BIG confusion and a lot of explanation needed to satisfy ones curiosity. Am I just nice or plain stupid? WHY? because It's easy for me to forgive a person who did me wrong. I always see the positive side of everything which for me is good and for others not. I hope we could enlighten each other and share each others thoughts in life.
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15 responses
@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
2 Oct 19
We have to forgive those even if they don't ask for forgiveness. I did that with my ex. I did it to find peace within myself. I was tormenting myself by everything he did to me when we broke up.
I forgave him but i would never get back with him.
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@anhsy1011 (56)
• China
2 Oct 19
There is an idiom in China.The broken mirror is difficult reunited to be a round one again.
It's not difficult for us to forgive others, but the relationship will never go back.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
2 Oct 19
There are people who takes our good attitude for granted. I think it is good to give a second chance but a third chance, simply no...
@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
2 Oct 19
@Jaltheia Each person is a separate case. Sometimes more chances are warranted, but it also depends on the person's attitude and if they are seriously attempting to make changes or just giving it lip service. Hard to tell which is which sometimes.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
2 Oct 19
@cperry2 I agree... Sometimes, hypocrisy can be seen as real because it is well rehearse for a bad intention...
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@Jaltheia (54)
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2 Oct 19
@Sojourn Wow! Glad to hear that. I just believe that life is a choice, it's either we see the beauty on everything for us to be happy. Forgiveness is part of my choice no matter how painful it was. It gives me a reason to smile and celebrate how blessed I am that I may able to forgive those who did me wrong ;)
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@victorkrish (1614)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 19
It is better to forgive people rather than revenge or keep on remember the past ruin their mind finally. Life is must move on. Past is past.
@Hannihar (130222)
• Israel
4 Oct 19
@Jaltheia
Welcome to My Lot. That does not mean you are stupid if you forgive someone. You must have a reason why you do not. Not everyone can forgive someone for something they did to upset them. That is neither nice or stupid. It is how you personally feel. A person is nice because they treat people with respect. A stupid person is very ignorant and does not know how to think.
@ZedSmart (19751)
• Philippines
2 Oct 19
It's not wrong to forgive, to give people another chance, being considerate and anything that shows positive traits but I believe that it's better to be more cautious and aware of those people who once hurt you or broken your trust because they may take advantage of your being kind. They will tend to abuse that kindness once they see or feel that it's just OK for you without being affected that much.
@ZedSmart (19751)
• Philippines
2 Oct 19
@Jaltheia There are people who will ask for forgiveness but they do not mean it and I think that if they'll repeatedly do wrong with you because you always offer them forgiveness, then I think that they are taking advantage of your being kind. I also believe that genuine and sincere apology can be feel.
@Jaltheia (54)
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2 Oct 19
Can we give forgiveness only to those who ask for it? I think forgiveness is a matter of accepting the reality. How would you know if you are being taken advantage if all you think about is the positive side and don't want to be affected by aything negative.
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@Nakitakona (56299)
• Philippines
2 Oct 19
It's simple nice connotes good or wonderful and it's more on positive point of you. And stupid of course deals on negative side. It's bad. Therefore nice is good and stupid is bad.
@Nakitakona (56299)
• Philippines
7 Oct 19
@Jaltheia All good things don't infer stupidity.
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@Writingghost (5196)
• United States
6 Oct 19
I am both! Sometimes I am nice sometimes I am just plain stupid. Forgiveness, in my opinion has nothing to do with the other person. It is simply making a choice that you don't allow their actions to cause you further discomfort and you don't set yourself up for failure. Most people don't even know I forgave them. There is no need.
@Jaltheia (54)
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7 Oct 19
We are all stupid and nice that's true! But it all depends on the situation. There are instances we though we are just being nice but the truth is we are becoming stupid based on the the actions that we do.But what's far more important is how we see ourselves not by others.
@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
2 Oct 19
I do not think you stupid at all. My wife is very similar. But I would state that while forgiveness is very important and a laudable trait, one must protect themselves. It is perfectly okay to forgive someone and then cut them out of your life too. People who are unhealthy and cause me a lot of pain on multiple occasions may find themselves cut out of my life completely. I hold no grudges, just I do not care to be hurt again.
