My mother keeps saying harsh words to me

She should learn to shut up.

Sometimes i feel like Mother's like that don't love their own child. You know what i did? I left at 18 from my entire family. I left away from everyone. I don't like being around people like that.

Well you can try separating with her in the meantime. I guess the reason why she is like that may be because you are too familiar with yourselves already. I think living on your own would help that toxic environment clear up things for the both of you.

Move out into you own home and rule it as you please. When we live with out parents its their house and their rules.

You're in a tough situation. We are raised to listen to and honor our parents. We are brought up to believe our parents words and now that we are grown up we are finding our parents words are extremely painful and hurt very very deeply. I am assuming that there is no way that you can get away from her words, as in moving into your own place. Is there a possibility of doing this? Do you have any source of income? Do you have any relatives that would provide you with a place to stay? Next question is are you under a doctor's care? If not is it possible to obtain a physician's care and be referred to a psychologist? You're going to need help to get past all the toxic input that you have received from your Mother. You're receiving contradictory input, first the negativity of the judgement and the criticism and the words that scare you so deeply and then her feeling that everything is okay when she tells you that she loves you. To have someone that continually criticizes you no matter what isn't right. She needs professional help more than you do, but she needs to admit that she needs the help before the psychological help will do any good. Unfortunately living with her makes it nearly impossible to avoid her. She will find you no matter where in the living conditions you and your mother have, and if she has to find you the words will be worse because of the anger and resentment from her having to find you. One important question that you need to answer truthfully, does she or has she struck you when she says these horrible things? You do need to be honest about the last question, it is important for your well being and safety. As it has been said many many times, words hurt and they cannot be forgotten. I carry with me to this day many of the horrible things that my parents said to me when I was growing up. They too would say something extremely horrible and rant and rave continuing to say the horrible things and then when their anger subsided they would tell me that they loved me. By the time they got to the point of telling me that they loved me it was too late, the horrible things that they said already scarred me for life. I remember when I was 10 years old one of the wooden spoons didn't get washed properly and completely. My Mother told me that I was a trashy, dirty, piggy, slob. Then she had me hold out my hand palm up and proceeded to beat my hands until they were bloody. Then she took all of the silverware and kitchen utensils out of the drawer and made me wash each and everyone of them three times before I was allowed to finally go to bed at 2 in the morning. When she finally allowed me to finish drying the last of the utensils and put them away she hugged me and told me she loved me. Like that made a difference. It took over a week for my palms to heal up and more than a month for them to quit hurting. You may need to seek assistance from outside the home with your situation. I am worried for you as you don't need this kind of abuse, and it is abuse. If you have a family physician talk to him honestly and see what he has to say about what is going on, with the understanding that he is NOT to mention it to your mother. Please, please keep us informed with how things are going on with you.

I am so sorry to hear about you. But I have some feeling that your mom too has some emotional issues that needs to be handled. Maybe she too needs a professional help.

Is there someone- a minister, an older person that you trust, someone to talk to that would then talk to your Mom?? Maybe that person could suggest that your Mom go to counseling.

Unfortunately hurtful words are more painful than the physical blows.

I know how you feel and I'm sorry about that.

My husband has a mood disorder. Recently he went about 15 months with depression and freaking out and screaming and crying etc. It gave me such bad anxiety that I got nauseous and tense stomach and couldn't sleep. He wont take meds. He was angry when I told him I don't want to discuss it with him because we only talk in circles with no resolution. Our pastor told him to quit saying negative things to me and within a week I felt mostly better. Now he is back to his mania but it is better than the depression - I am learning to take more care of myself and to worry less about him - but your situation sounds much worse than mine. I pray you can find a place to live away from her and then begin nurturing yourself with healthy food, rest and things you enjoy. Even a pet if possible