what would you say?
By Yumeko
@aureategloom (11046)
Bosnia And Herzegovina
October 22, 2019 12:31pm CST
it's some kind of rule that your friend shouldn't date your ex.
i always thought that's a weird rule because why wouldn't you date someone just because your friend dated him/her?
of course, it depends on how long their relationship was - if it wasn't anything serious, why not?
but if it was something that lasted for a long time and if it ended badly, then i guess it would be weird if you dated that person.
but last night is that my friend sent me a photo of tattoo of a boy i liked and he liked me, but we weren't dating because of distance. in the end, we just stopped talking.
however, after that photo she asked me do i mind it if she hooks up with him.
it was so weird, but i said "do whatever you want" even though it's so weird that now she's with someone i liked and had some good time with.
i still think about it a bit and it's just so weird. what would you say?
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8 responses
@sweetashoney (3597)
• United States
22 Oct 19
Like you said, I think it would depend how serious you were about the relationship and also how close you and your friends are to. I know as for me, I wouldn't want my friend to date him because that would mean I would still have to have encounters with him, if I still want to spend time with my friend. The only way out of this is to never be around your friend while your x is with them, which I believe would put a strain on your friendship.
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
22 Oct 19
so true. but i think that i could stand even seeing them together or talking to both of them.
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@samysotelo18 (7744)
• Mexico
22 Oct 19
I don't think I would date an ex from any of my friends....I think we have very different tastes in men all along
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
22 Oct 19
but if you liked your friend's ex, would you date him?
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
23 Oct 19
Boyfriends are everywhere, If you weren't dating because of distance then I would be looking for a real boyfriend near your home. And if you know the woman who likes the old one, so what? Men are everywhere...and the right one is waiting for you.
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
23 Oct 19
i have a boyfriend and he's away from me, but that's not the point. many fishes in the sea - yeah, that's right and that's why she should've found some other fish, not the one i caught first. but it doesn't matter.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
22 Oct 19
@aureategloom not too bad since u never got together!!
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
22 Oct 19
not really, because i have a boyfriend. but still, i'm not too happy about my friend dating my ex-something.
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@alexjessi (1033)
• Hanoi, Vietnam
21 Apr 20
oh. i will feel a bit broke in my soul but just DGAF and let they do what they want 
we just accept it and go on, living gud living well 
we just accept it and go on, living gud living well 1 person likes this
@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
21 Apr 20
well, few days before that happened i accidentally met an amazing guy and we started dating few months later, so it REALLY doesn't matter and i'm totally fine with them even getting married now 
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Some people follow these rules, some do not.@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
22 Oct 19
and what do you think is right?
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
22 Oct 19
@aureategloom I don't know, I've never been in that situation. If there are still emotions among former partners, then I don't think friends should try to have a relationship.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Oct 19
I think it would depend on the type of relationship I used to have with that person. I had 3 long term relationships before I met my husband.
Ex 1: It would be fine, we broke up a long time ago and we are just friends.
Ex 2: The relationship didn't end well. I would not be jealous if a friend dated him, but it would be a little awkward to see him again.
Ex 3: No, I wouldn't like it because we were together for a very time and it would be strange to see him with someone else.
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
23 Oct 19
i think it would be weird seeing them together and knowing what her boyfriend looks like without clothes or be reminded of good times you had with them, but you know "do whatever you want"
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
23 Oct 19
I would have handled it the way you did, I would have said do what you want but would be a bit weirded out by all of it.
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@aureategloom (11046)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
23 Oct 19
i think that's a normal thing to do
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