Just checking in....
@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
Perth, Australia
December 2, 2019 12:33am CST
Hello everyone,
Just wanted to check in to see how everyone is doing. I do check MyLot every single day but haven't been so active lately. Going through that phase of not really wanting to be social. There is a lot going on here which I will probably talk about later on but it's basically family stuff and my depression.
My dad has been going good in regards to his foot. ( sorry if you're reading this and you're not aware of it. Can explain to you if needed ) I had been having very quick glances at his foot to try to get used to it. I finally had a longer look last week. I was trying to avoid it because it makes me sad to see what it looks like now and it's a reminder of that time when he nearly died. But I know the only way to try and get past that, is to look.
The other things going on ( again, will probably explain in better detail later ) that my Nanny and Poppy aren't doing so good. My Poppy is suffering badly with Alzheimer's. Which then stresses my Nanny out. Not just because he is forgetting things. But he is accusing her of things she would never do and keeps thinking things have been said or done when it never even took place.
I just don't want anyone here to think I have abandoned MyLot or the wonderful friends here. I'm sorry for late responses as well as messages I have not replied to here yet. You are not being ignored. Just going through a tough time here which makes me withdraw socially.
Hope everyone is doing well.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
2 Dec 19
Real life always takes precedence over online stuff.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@JohnRoberts And right you are.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@LadyDuck Very nice to see you too! Thank you for understanding. Hope you and your husband are doing well!
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@LadyDuck (472213)
• Switzerland
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 we are doing well thank you. The cold weather is here now. We like to stay at home.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
10 Dec 19
@LadyDuck Glad you're both well. Hope you both stay warm. I have a cold at the moment lol during Summer. I normally get them in Summer instead of Winter like a normal person.
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@moffittjc (121775)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Dec 19
I know you would never intentionally leave us without at least saying goodbye! Plus, I know that when I haven't heard from you in a little while it usually means you are going through an anti-social period. I don't like to prod or pry, so I wait patiently for you to return (and you always do). But know that you are always in my thoughts even when you're not actively here! 
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@moffittjc (121775)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 I'm doing well. Just getting ready for the holidays. I'm taking my son camping again this coming weekend. We'll be back on the beach again, but this time in a different part of Florida.
It's been a nice start to winter for us here in Florida, as it's been much colder than usual. I thought for sure with global warming that we wouldn't get any cold winters any more, but so far so good this season!
How are you?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
16 Dec 19
@moffittjc Glad you're doing well! That makes me smile. I hope you and your son had a wonderful time together. I admire how often you and your children go camping and do adventurous things.
We had a very Winter too. In fact the coldness kept going into Spring. But now it's Summer and I'm complaining a lot lol I hate the heat. Been a lot of days with 40 degrees or more. (104°F)
I am doing alright thank you. Just have a cold at the moment which is normal for me having Summer colds. But otherwise quite good. Just trying to get things ready for Christmas.
What will you be doing for Christmas?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@moffittjc You're a sweetheart. You know me well and that makes me smile. Hope you're doing good!
You know me well and that makes me smile. Hope you're doing good!1 person likes this
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
2 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13
I am sorry with what is going on with you. So glad things are good with my father regarding his foot. So does that mean that they will not do anymore surgery on him? I remember something happened to your Nanny? I am so sorry about your POppy. That must be so hard. Does he remember who you all are? Dani, you have to take care of yoursel. How is Charlie doing? Dani you are very sweet. From what you said about your father it sounds like his foot is not good.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@Hannihar Hey Hanni. Thank you for your comment. Yes, things with my dad is going well. It is possible that somewhere down the line he may need more surgery but for now, all is going well.
My Pop does remember us thank goodness but he is forgetting where he leaves things, what he has done or said and what has been said to him and he is hallucinating things.
Charlie is going well thank you kindly. How is Sophie? Hope she is doing good!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
10 Dec 19
@Hannihar Thank you. Yeah forgetting where things are left happens to a lot of people but my Pop isn't just making little mistakes. He is having bad symptoms of Alzheimer's. He is forgetting things in less than a minute, losing things, hallucinating, accusing my Nan of things she isn't doing, and becoming a bit aggressive towards her. So he isn't being himself. Something is not right in his brain.
I am ok thank you but could be way better. Just a lot going on and I now have a cold so not entirely well right now. How are you? Glad Sophie is well.
Nice. I am aware of Hanukkah and that it lasts for 8 days. 
Have fun with Sophie and her new toys!
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
10 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13
I hope he does not need more surgery. I am glad right now things are going good for him. That happens to lots of people in forgetting where they leave things. I am so glad Charlie is doing fine. How are you? Sophie is fine. We are getting ready for our holiday of Hannuka which starts on the 22nd of this month at night and lasts for 8 days. I have something I got that I showed her and it will be fun to play with. I will hopefully go out today and get her another toy that she likes.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
3 Dec 19
I'm always happy to see you so please keep coming bavk
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@amitkokiladitya Thank you kindly. Sweet person you are!
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thank you! @amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 I'm.just like you
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@Starkinds (32712)
• India
2 Dec 19
sorry to know that and please don't get stress I am always with you and I can understand your condition right now but please be clam
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@Starkinds Thank you for your comment Jaya but having no stress during this situation is not possible. It's not a good time for us here.
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@Starkinds (32712)
• India
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 I hope you feel something better
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@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
10 Apr 20
I’m sorry about your grandparents.my grandpa is doing fine but my grandma is beginning to show signs of dementia. I hope your dads foot gets better soon. It’s been boring lately and I spend a lot of time asleep, but I probably would anyway.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
10 Apr 20
@babytaffster Thank you for your kind comments. I'm sorry about your grandma. 
I know that must be tough. Wishing you all the very best!
I know that must be tough. Wishing you all the very best! 
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
3 Dec 19
Good to see you checked in. Don’t worry I have been on much either I’ve been checking in here and there and participates when I can. Life gets busy with family
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 yep! We had a busy weekend and now it’s Monday
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@ShyBear88 Good to see you too! And yes life outside of the internet can sure get busy.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
9 Dec 19
Glad to find you Dani..I had been thinking of you all day yesterday for some reason
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
10 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes hopefully good. Maybe it was just that I had not seen you around is all. Glad you are fine..yes okay as can be.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
10 Dec 19
@TiarasOceanView Glad to see you! How odd I was on your mind all day yesterday. Hopefully it's for a good reason and nothing bad. 
How are you doing?
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@just4him (317385)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Dec 19
I'm sorry things are rough and you're pulling away. I'm glad you're giving your father's toe a longer look.
My mother had Alzheimer's and accused my father of infidelity, something he never ever even considered during their long marriage. That disease does strange things to the mind.
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@just4him (317385)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 My mother was using two canes when she went into assisted living. They took them away from her and she was then in a wheelchair. Dad started having bruises all over from her hitting him with them.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
10 Dec 19
@just4him That is so awful. I'm so sorry that happened. 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@just4him Thank you kindly. I appreciate your kind words.
I'm very sorry about the difficulties that occurred with your poor mum and dad for that matter. That is actually exactly what is going on with my Poppy. He is accusing my Nanny of being in-love with a neighbour which just isn't true. He is becoming aggressive ( not hitting her but I admit I now fear that ) but he is speaking rudely and aggressive to her and recently punched a wall. Not like him. It's sad and stressful for both the person dealing with it and witnessing it.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
2 Dec 19
Hello Dear so sorry that you are facing all this but the thing will normal soon and you are a very strong and understanding person so you will definitely manage all thing well. I always with you and no worry at all.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
9 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 if situation going worse more and as you said its not looking positive thing then i can only say that be strong and face the problem as we can't do else but Yes we all are with you and support you so be strong and take care yourself.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@birjudanak Thank you very much for your support. Unfortunately, things will not become normal again in regards to my Pop. It will just get worse so I will not be thinking positive about it. I'm not into fairy tales with real life. I'm more realistic. This situation will not become better.
Thank you again for your support. Much appreciated!
I'm more realistic. This situation will not become better.
Thank you again for your support. Much appreciated! 1 person likes this
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
2 Dec 19
I am glad that you dropped in. I'm happy to see you. That hard part of your father getting is over, and I'm glad he is getting better. Take care.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
11 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 Thank you for saying that. I need to take care of myself more.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84282)
• Rupert, Idaho
2 Dec 19
I am sorry to hear about what is going on....but I can understand why you need some time away and to not be social. Hope you feel better.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@MommyOfEli2013 Thank you for your comment, understanding and support. Really appreciate it!
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84282)
• Rupert, Idaho
10 Dec 19
@VivaLaDani13 My pleasure, anytime!!
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@Treborika (17853)
• Mombasa, Kenya
20 Feb 23
I am okay because I am doing great. My family and I are really doing very great. I think you are doing great too.
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@GardenGerty (161080)
• United States
3 Dec 19
I am so sorry. Real life is often very hard. We will be here whenever you want to talk.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@GardenGerty You are right about that Heather and thank you very much. I appreciate it.
@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
2 Dec 19
You just worry about yourself we will be here when you are ready to come back.
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@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
3 Dec 19
Hey Dani.. we can understand your situation. I'm kind of not so regular to myLot too. But, I miss being here and think of friends over here.
When we have some tuff times offline, we won't have a great mood to interact here. I so agree on this point and that happens to me as well.
Take one step at a time dear. You will be welcomed whenever you get some time for you here. Hugs ..
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@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@smileyhema You're so sweet to miss MyLot that much. I am the same as you in that regard.
And yes you're correct about that! Exactly how I feel so glad you understand where I am coming from.
Thank you kindly. Hope things are going well with you!
@VivaLaDani13 (60808)
• Perth, Australia
9 Dec 19
@cool83 Nice to hear from you too. And nah not busy. Just stressed about what's happening with family.
