What is one question you hate being asked?
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
United States
December 9, 2019 12:43pm CST
Hmm, I think a question I hate being asked the most is about my age. That's probably the most common question that people hate being asked.
I also hate being asked how I am when it's obvious that I am not doing well.
Thirdly, I hate being asked anything when I am reading.
What about you?
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@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
9 Dec 19
Honestly, the age one doesn't bother me at all. Mostly because i'm still young, but also because we shouldn't be ashamed of getting older, it's a privilege a lot of people don't get.
I do hate some questions though, like "do you have kids", "why don't you work"
As neither are anyone's business, the kids ones could be a very emotional thing to talk about, like in my case, or of anyone whos had a miscarriage - plus hard to explain of yes but no like in my case.. and the work one could have a number of reasons. not just people being lazy like most rude people jump to conclusions about.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
@Courtlynn My mom even demanded grandbabies when I got married many years ago. I mean, she didn't ask and she was somewhat joking.... I'm unsure of my ability to reproduce, I've had menstrual cycle problems, and I know I have a higher level of estrogen... Luckily, I don't get asked this anymore and I am single at the moment anyway.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
I agree with you on the kids question. I think that's a holdover for when a woman's value was based on her ability to become pregnant. It's wrong and hurtful! You really do not know a persons' struggle and whether they've struggled with becoming pregnant.
As for the "how old are you?" thing. It didn't bother me at first, but the older I get the more bothered I get. Of course, it also depends on the age range and tone of the person asking. I've gotten the "How old are you?" question from a snarky person who thought they had more experience solely based on their age.
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@Courtlynn (67080)
• United States
10 Dec 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum exactly. What's even worse, is the "When are you going to have kids" question. Which I've gotten a few times myself. But have heard alot of people complain about because they either dont want kids or cant. And it's sad.
Oh I've come across a few of those people. Think we all have at one time or another. Ugh
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
9 Dec 19
I am the same as you I hate being asked my age especially when the person sometimes is someone that knows my age already
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
9 Dec 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum Wow. I don’t think we have that store up by us anymore.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Dec 19
@Tina30219 I guess you probably have a different type, they are prevalent here.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Dec 19
@Tina30219 There are some ABC stores that will ask you for your birthdate, but I go to one that doesnt' ask at all, and never did ask.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
I think that's the most invasive question, the "What do you do for a living?" question. I know it's meant to be polite, but it's anxiety inducing.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
11 Dec 19
@LadyDuck I do wonder where / why it came about.
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@LadyDuck (472160)
• Switzerland
11 Dec 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum This is a question that you will never hear in Europe, but it was common that people I barely knew in the States asked that. Rude and offensive question, I never replied.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
I am sure those questions gets so tiring after awhile, even if they mean well.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
Ah yes, that is an annoying question. People seem to assume that because a person does not work in the traditional sense that they are lazy and / or wasting their time.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
@amitkokiladitya It has made me feel low when people have asked me in the past. Especially as they give me a disapproving look.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
10 Dec 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum yes..and I hate being asked this.
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@Nakitakona (56484)
• Philippines
9 Dec 19
I don't to be bother when I am working especially here in myLot. You let me finish first before you ask question or talk to me.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
Yes, I hate when people interrupt me, especially when I am in mid thought. I get flustered and annoyed and end up forgetting my train of thought.
@jstory07 (140123)
• Roseburg, Oregon
9 Dec 19
I hate people wanting by attention when I am on the phone. Wait until I hang up.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Dec 19
I can understand that, I hate it too.
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@Marilynda1225 (83153)
• United States
10 Dec 19
I can relate to not being talked to when I'm reading. I hate interruptions when I'm engrossed in a good story.
I can't say I'm asked questions that I hate and it doesn't bother me anymore for people to know how old I am.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Dec 19
So, when people ask you common / repetitive questions?
@thislittlepennyearns (62954)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
9 Dec 19
I hate getting asked what your plan is. I never have a plan lol
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
I'm somewhat guilty of this to be honest. I come from a family that usually has / makes a plan.
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@freelancermariagrace (28687)
• Philippines
10 Dec 19
I hate it when they always ask me why am I not married yet. lol
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 19
Yes, that is the most annoying of questions! I got marred once and I was too young, i should have waited. Now that I am older and divorced, I am not sure if I will ever marry again.
@jennspoint (17)
• Broken Arrow, Oklahoma
9 Dec 19
I'm currently going through a career transition, so I've really begun to dread people asking me what I do for a living. I understand they're usually just trying to make polite conversation, but it's a touchy subject, and I'd rather talk about almost anything else.
I also don't like being asked if I'm married (no, I'm not), or if I have children (again, no). Frankly, unless we're planning to go on a date, these are never questions that should be asked of a total stranger, because they're often potentially painful subjects for a lot of people.
Better ways to phrase these questions might be: What do you like to do? (This question is open-ended enough to allow me to discuss hobbies and interests...which carry a conversation forward without creating an embarassing or awkward situation for any of us). As for family, a person might ask, "Does your family live around here?" (This gives me the freedom to share what I want to share without putting me on the spot.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Dec 19
I agree with you on your last paragraph, those are definitely better alternatives.
As for the career question, that is definitely not a question I like to answer either. I quit my job several years ago and I still get questions about it from people just trying to be polite. I hate it.
The marriage question doesn't bother me so much anymore (was married, so the questions I hated the most were ones surrounding my divorce), but the baby question does. People should take more care as they just do not know whether that is a sensitive topic.
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