If Only She Listens...

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My niece got a boyfriend at 16. It was during her 4th year in high school. We get to know the guy because of his frequent visits at my sister's house when he accompany my niece upon going home. We then heard that the relationships did not last long when they took different paths during college. No regrets for the family because school was the top priority. My niece's able to finish her college degree but before that we discovered another boyfriend of her. We do not like the guy but we do not want to be villains of her love affair. The least we could give are advice. Again the relationship did not prosper. Then another guy come and that was a big surprise because the person is our neighbor ( it is somehow true about the saying love thy neighbor) someone we know more and heard of many unpleasant things about. We even heard that the guy has already had a child with his former relationship when he's working at another city. Our discouragements were no way in effect because they got engage and eventually married and had a child before she finished her degree. She got a permanent job while the guy had gotten also a temporary from time to time. Like any other marriage, theirs are not perfect and not ideal also. However, their differences triumph over them leading to separation when the guy started to hurt her physically. There were rumors we heard that her husband had engage in a vice which is very rampant at the society during that time. My niece decided to work abroad; one thing her parents considered a good decision to be able to have a very long distance between the two. The two kids were left and taken cared by my niece's parents. Even if she's far, because of social media they're still able to throw shades especially that the guy"s family more on his siblings sided to him. They even accused my niece of infidelity. Today, the guy has another family making it more difficult for him to support his kids with my niece. Niece really needs to work hard. We had a chat last Christmas telling me that she's sad and missing her boys very much. I advised her just to come home and start a business here especially that her parents are also aging and it would be hard for them to take care of the growing boys with their health concerns both. If only she listened to us beforehand, things might be different but we can"t really bring back the fast so time to face the present and look forward for the future.