I don't know how to relax
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
United States
January 18, 2020 7:44am CST
Okay, I'll admit it.. I don't know how to relax.
If you observed me, you'd probably think that I was rather good at relaxing but that is far from the truth. My mind is always working and worrying. I've always got something that I need to consider, or something that I am stressing over.
Oh sure, I lay down and turn on the television, or open a book.. but that doesn't last long. Soon enough I am up and doing something else, worrying over something else.
Just once, I'd like to wake up and do absolutely nothing for a day and not worry over it.. Just once!
It seems the only time I am able to do that is when I am with friends, but once we've slowed down again (after eating, shopping etc) then I am back to worrying over things.
Are you a worry wort?
Can you relax?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
I haven't tried them in a long time, but I have done them before.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@dya80dya Has your doctor prescribed you nerve pills? I have taken those before.
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@dya80dya (36657)
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19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I have more than worry. My anxiety is physical. I feel adrenaline now. And my body is very anxious. Mindfulness is a way to take a break. It helps. But sometimes I feel severe anxiety even if I am trying mindfulness exercises or relaxation exercises.
@Tina30219 (81948)
• Onaway, Michigan
19 Jan 20
Yes I am a worry wort but I know how to relax my relaxing is reading
@Tina30219 (81948)
• Onaway, Michigan
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I am the same way when I stop it is either to do my game or other sites to get to my goals
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@Tina30219 I only do a few sites, and I've spent a lot of time here on mylot this month. I want to read more.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
Mine is too, but lately I haven't been able to read without stopping every little while and going to do something else.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
20 Jan 20
When I get into worrying, I tend to not be do much else but worry.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
20 Jan 20
@Courtlynn I used to have really bad anxiety and panic attacks. I am just glad that I don't have those anymore.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
20 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum same. It takes time for it to come down to where i can relax.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
By "relax", I mean just doing things other than worrying / household chores / earning money.
Like, I can't just sit and read a book anymore, I am constantly getting up to do other things every 20 or so minutes.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@Marty1 You should try to write. Even if it's just a few words on notepad, maybe that will help your racing mind. I do find that if I allow my mind to make up a story, it helps calm me down and makes it easier for me to get things done.
@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
18 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I know. I haven't read a book in a year; and I used to be a voracious reader. I can't concentrate on a book.
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
18 Jan 20
It appears we both are alike. My thoughts and mind never go for a break
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Yes, always something on my mind, always a "list" in my head of things to do, things to buy etc.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum yes...and for me it is usually all the pending expenses that drive me crazy
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@amitkokiladitya yes, money is such a big stressor. It's not as bad as it once was for me, but I've had lots of stress over it in the past.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
22 Jan 20
It can be hard for me to relax, but I am glad you are able to relax. It's important to relax.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
22 Jan 20
@Moon24 Our bodies can only handle so much stress before we start exhibiting physical sentence to our stress..
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@Moon24 (22396)
• Serbia
22 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I agree. It is important to relax.
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@snowy22315 (180830)
• United States
18 Jan 20
I tend to worry as well. However, I try not to worry about things I can't control. However, it doesn't always work.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Yeah, same here. Oh, how I'll try not to worry, but it's so much easier said than it is done.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Well, for me, as long as my friend and I are active doing things, i do not worry. Once we are sitting down and watching t.v., or just talking, I start to worry again.
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@msdivkar (23359)
• India
18 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum i think interaction is thr key. Just being with friends is not sufficient.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
@msdivkar This is true, and I do interact with them, but there are times when things slow down, and I start to worry again. Let me explain, my best friend is like a sister more than a friend. She may leave her house and leave me there to go get something, or be in her room for an hour while she showers. I'll be in the living room, and be left to myself during these times.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
It's mine too. I've been called a worry wort for most of my life. I don't think I'd know what to do if I didn't worry. It's just lately that it's caused me not to be able to relax.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@LadyDuck That is one reason why I can't really get into television, my mind is always working.
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@LadyDuck (471454)
• Switzerland
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I overthink all the time, even while I read or I watch TV.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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20 Jan 20
Very much a worrywort here. My head is always spinning from too much thought. People think I'm calm and composed, but inside I'm a stressful blabbering wreck.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
20 Jan 20
Many years ago I taught myself how to make up stories about things so as to distract myself. Sometimes that works, but here lately it hasn't helped at all.
@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum
Yes, I worry. I can relax though. I can watch Tv and work here at the computer and relax.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
I can do it too, but I can't seem to just relax for a few hours. I have to constantly get up and do other things.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@Hannihar I certainly hope so, thank you.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum
Maybe one day you will find a way to relax.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
I hate when people say "relax" as if that will make us stop worrying.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
19 Jan 20
@JustBhem Yes! They should not judge because they do not really know.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I feel the same. When they don’t know how we feel.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
I turn on relaxing music sometimes, and it helps. Reading helps too, but now it seems there are times when that gets disrupted too. Today was a stressful day.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
@CarolDM Yes, there are songs that I can't listen to without crying - some for romance reasons, some because it makes me think of my brother.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
18 Jan 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I do that as well but i have to be careful, I love music but many songs will bring back memories. If I am trying to relax usually silence works best for me.
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Good morning.I am not but understand what your saying there.Guess need to get the mind busy on other things.
What are you worry about.Health,money,etc.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
I can't get my mind busy on other things, unfortunately. I try, but then I start worrying again.
It's both Health and money, but more so the health.
@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Jan 20
I am very much like you. I would I could relax and it has gotten worse with age.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Yep, worse with age for me too. Used to not be like this, but now it's very hard for me to sit down and relax.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
Oh my! Yes, I know how that feels. I've had to pay down high medical bills as well. Can you call the company and have your mom's bills put on a payment plan?
@Fa_Maverick (9487)
• Australia
18 Jan 20
I'm in the same boat. I also get anxiety about getting home late after being out so I can never just enjoy myself when out with my friends or something.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
18 Jan 20
That's terrible! I'm sorry you have that anxieties. I know how awful anxiety can be, and how disruptive it can be to one's life.
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