When your daughter sleeps with a friend of her dads!

Mesa, Arizona
February 25, 2020 10:18pm CST
Hi,, ok so I am just going to dive in here. My daughter came out to stay with us for a few months, (she is 28). My husband's friend came over and they met no big deal. Now having already spoken to said friend, and telling him do not go there, ( he is 45). We thought nothing of them talking. Also, I talked to my daughter the next morning and told her how it would end my husband's friendship. She agreed as well not to go there. After them hanging out some, my daughter comes home crying this morning. Asking what was wrong. She told my husband and I that she and said friend had sex. I am angry at both of them and now my husbands friendship is gone. It was the only friend my husband had due to the fact we just don't socialize much with the outside word. My husband thought this man had more respect for the both of us.
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@Janet357 (75646)
26 Feb 20
I would feel the same.if I were you but @Bensen32 is right
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• United States
26 Feb 20
That’s so wrong of your husbands friend to do that....and that was so sudden. I understand if they had a relationship and all then thatd be a different story.
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• Mesa, Arizona
26 Feb 20
My husband is devastated and I am angry with both.
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• United States
1 Mar 20
@ShelbyS I am sorry to hear that you are all in this position.
• United States
1 Mar 20
@hardtimes1958 It depends who is more at fault, regardless both adults but how long the dad's friend has been his friend. Because what if the dad's friend was around when she was a little kid? And this sound like a one night stand?
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
26 Feb 20
That's very strange happening. And why your daughter sleep with him. But I thinks it's your husband friend fault.
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@zoe316 (414)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 Feb 20
I think no one to be blamed here , your daugther is old enough . That is her free will to sleep at the man's house. But you should talk to this man , ask them both if they have relationship more than friends. Then if the man is single and they both love each other, whh not give your daugther blessing to go date with this man. 45 isn't too old for 28 yrs old. But I wonder why your daugther was crying, unless if the man forced her.
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@sh2ker (503)
• Bury, England
28 Feb 20
@ShelbyS I agree it is an awkward situation but they are both adults. I don’t think your husband should end his friendship because of it.
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@zoe316 (414)
• Cebu City, Philippines
29 Feb 20
@sh2ker thanks for agreeing Thomas , you're right the father should not end his friendship to that man.
• Mesa, Arizona
26 Feb 20
She feels guilty.
@Starkinds (32712)
• India
26 Feb 20
I'm sorry to know that but your daughter should understand what is wrong or what is right for her
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@Ranby07 (16)
• Winnipeg, Manitoba
26 Feb 20
Thats weird!!! Your husband's friend should have turned down the love for sake of your husband's friendship.
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@AmbiePam (93883)
• United States
26 Feb 20
I would be so angry with both of them. I don't even know what to say. It was such a selfish act.
• Chatsworth, California
18 Apr 20
I’m not sure how I would respond. I mean, they knew the consequences of their actions, and they are responsible for whatever happens next. They are adults and they made the choice together, neither one had to say yes, and they both did.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
26 Feb 20
That friend is not a friend but a snake, being mature he could have turned her down for the sake of his friendship with your daughter's family but he went with his plan and probably her weakness just the same. I really feel both of them has a fault.
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• United States
27 Feb 20
They are both adults, just that it happened to be a friend.
@moffittjc (121714)
• Gainesville, Florida
1 Mar 20
Well, that went downhill fast.
@Bensen32 (27753)
• United States
26 Feb 20
Seems you knew something was going to happen before it even happened so you can't be to surprised.
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