I'm Considering Leaving myLot

@just4him (317040)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
April 11, 2020 10:02am CST
Yes, I am. The negativity I see here is making me super angry. There's no reason for negativity. And the idea that I can't be positive all the time about the situation, BUNK!!! If you guys want to live in depression land, I'm not going to join you. I lived with a mother who did her best to beat me to death with her negativity. Whenever I came home from a visit to my mother my husband couldn't stand it. I was negative to the max. I couldn't live that way and be happy. I don't know how you can be happy being negative. It's one reason I don't spend a lot of time here like I used to and why my notifications are over 200. I spent the morning clearing out the oldest notifications. Now, before my anger colors my comments, I'm getting off myLot for a while. I don't like being negative. I don't like being angry. I need to refocus and get my happy back. There's always a better way to live, and being negative isn't it. Thanks for reading. The image belongs to me.
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54 responses
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
11 Apr 20
I am hoping that I have not offended you in any way, if I did I am sorry and it was not intentional. I can say I am not a negative person, I love life and smiling, happy, loving each pother, lifting others up to be the best they can be. I would like to say... do not let the devil take your joy. Block those who are not happy people, I know I did. I love you Valerie, do what feels right for you, we are friends on facebook so you can always talk to me when you want.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I don't think you could offend me. You're always positive and upbeat and one of the hardest working people I know. I've got my joy back. Thank you.
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@LadyDuck (471272)
• Switzerland
11 Apr 20
Skip the negative posts and read only the positive, this is what I do. We are not obliged to read what we dislike.
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree with that.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@LadyDuck I know. It looks like I'll be picking and choosing from now on.
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@thelme55 (76851)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
That is what I am doing. I skip those negativity as it makes me sick. I try my best to be positive.
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@FourWalls (67703)
• United States
11 Apr 20
People don’t like people who have joy all the time. That’s their problem, not yours.
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@GardenGerty (160612)
• United States
11 Apr 20
Love this. Valerie, choose joy. Whatever it takes. I hope you do not leave, but if you do at least I will know why.
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@FourWalls - Thank you. Yes, it is their problem.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
11 Apr 20
I certainly hope that you won't go away. You are one on my Top 10 list. I always look forward to read your posts and find that you are a very understanding person.I am sure that I am not the only thinking that way
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
12 Apr 20
@just4him And I want you to say there. Thanks.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@marlina Thank you.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
Thank you so much for your support. I'm honored to be on your top 10 list.
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@paigea (36317)
• Canada
11 Apr 20
Easy to find joyful people here. Scroll past the rest. Take care.
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree.
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@LadyDuck (471272)
• Switzerland
11 Apr 20
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
Exactly! There are a lot of members whose posts I don't Like and Comment on but there are enough other members with the same wave length.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 20
You must really be upset as you are pretty easy going. It has become difficult here and all I can say is avoid posts that will potentially be irritating. I have come close to leaving here myself several times the past few weeks. Yes, I have made comments to others out of irritated reactions so I am also guilty. myLot needs you more than you need myLot and you have a busy full real life to satisfy you.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
Thank you so much for the pep talk. I love it here and the people for the most part. Yes, it was the post that broke the camels back. I don't do well with writing either when I'm angry. So, I didn't do much of that today either, but I did do something. I also got two walks in today.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
Whatever makes you feel better.
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• Germany
11 Apr 20
@kepweng Thank you my friend. How are you today?
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@m_audrey6788 I'll be staying.
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• Germany
12 Apr 20
@just4him I`m so happy to know
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@BarBaraPrz (47258)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Apr 20
Negativity? Where? You must be following the wrong people.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I try not to follow the wrong people.
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@much2say (55512)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 20
I hope you stay! Or if you need to take a break, we'd totally understand, but I'd hope for your return. We need your sweet spirit here .
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@much2say (55512)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Apr 20
@just4him Oh I'm so glad. This is supposed to be our happy spot - don't ever let anyone take that away from you. Happy Easter to you!!
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@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I hope she does too.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@much2say Thank you so much. Yes, I'm staying.
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@kanuck1 (4434)
11 Apr 20
Of course you are free to do what you like but I would say: Don't let the darkness blow out your light.
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@kanuck1 (4434)
13 Apr 20
@just4him I know you won't! Be on myLot to the degree that suits you but I hope you will stay.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@kanuck1 I'm staying. Thank you.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
Thank you. I won't let the darkness blow out my light.
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• United States
11 Apr 20
Lucky I am not seeing negative when I am here. I hope you stay, maybe just stick to your followers and those you follow. I really need to come here at times and talk with you all.
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• United States
12 Apr 20
@just4him Thank goodness, I really would hate to see you go from here.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@CookieMonster46 I had to get my happy back and seeing the response on this post makes me realize how much people would miss me.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
That's good you're not. Thank you. Right now, I'm not going anywhere. I got my happy back.
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@JudyEv (339464)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Apr 20
I do hope you don't leave. Hopefully, there are more positive people than negative on here and perhaps you'll be able to just ignore the Negative Nellies.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I will be ignoring the Negative Nellies from now on. I don't need another meltdown like yesterday. Thank you. I decided to stay.
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@JudyEv (339464)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Apr 20
@just4him I'm really pleased. That's good news.
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@JhovanPH (2672)
• Philippines
13 Apr 20
Indeed.. If Ms. Valerie will leave. But if she chose to leave just to breathe in and relax. We can't force here.. We support you @just4him
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
11 Apr 20
Negativity is a part of life but people shouldn't be all negative, or pushing their negativity on to others by being rude all the time. Smh. I hope you don't leave. But I'm glad i have you on Facebook in case you do.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
You're right. People shouldn't push it on others. For now, I'm staying. I'm glad you're on Facebook and we can connect there.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
12 Apr 20
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• Rupert, Idaho
12 Apr 20
I am sorry to hear that you were feeling that way to the point of thinking of leaving! I can understand when some people are just always negative. I have moments, but try not to just be negative.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I'm glad you work at not being negative. I'll be staying. I got my happy back and the response to this post is very positive about my staying.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@MommyOfEli2013 Thank you.
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• Rupert, Idaho
13 Apr 20
@just4him I have my moments, but I don't really make posts about it. If I am commenting then I might sound down....but that's about it. And that is great news! I am glad that you are staying...and that you got your happy back :)
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@TheHorse (218463)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 20
I certainly hope you don't leave. Although we are mortal enemies (you are a Packers fan and I am a '49ers fan) we somehow manage to overcome our differences and maintain a MyLot friendship. I see disagreements as an opportunity to learn. Sometimes we think we disagree when we actually don't. That's when the most interesting discussions occur. Vanny (@Vandana7) wonders why Iike sad songs so much. I think it's because I am an optimist. I will find the good in any situation. But it takes time. I will not deny the part of myself that has experienced, and needs to acknowledge, sadness. I will leave it at that for now.
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@vandana7 (100223)
• India
13 Apr 20
I think you and I need to have a seriooooooooooooooooous chat to lighten up the mood out here...issue is, no househelp and lots to do and the net telling me ..don't be lazy your girth is increasing kinda. But I will try. You do have humor and I am the sensible person.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@TheHorse I have to laugh at your 'mortal enemy' statement. More like intense rivals during football season especially when our teams play against each other. I actually started a book a few years ago where the main character grew up in San Francisco and is a 49er fan. It makes it very interesting when she moves to Green Bay and is immersed in Packers country. I haven't gotten too far on that book. Sad songs give you pause to reflect on life and see the good that came from the situation.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@vandana7 I'm sorry things are as difficult there as they are here.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Apr 20
There are many more wonderful people here to myLot with. I haven’t been here much the last two days, so I haven’t seen much of anything. Chin up!
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Apr 20
@just4him I’m glad you’re feeling better. It was good to vent, I’m sure.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@DianneN Thank you. Yes, it was a good vent.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I'm doing okay now. Thank you. Yes, there are a lot of wonderful people here.
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@thelme55 (76851)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
OMG! What happened? I will be missing you here if you leave. Please don't. I have read also negative posts here and so I didn't comment to those.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
It was one negative post too many for me. For now, I'm not leaving. I appreciate that you would miss me if I left. That's so kind.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@thelme55 I hope you're having a Happy Easter too. Thank you.
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@thelme55 (76851)
• Germany
12 Apr 20
@just4him Thank you that you stay. Happy Easter to you.
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@Spontaneo (14700)
• United States
12 Apr 20
Do whatever brings you peace.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I will be staying. I have a lot of good friends here.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@Spontaneo Thank you. Happy Easter to you too.
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@Spontaneo (14700)
• United States
12 Apr 20
@just4him Yay! Many blessings to you this Easter Sunday! Thank you for staying!
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@dya80dya (36578)
11 Apr 20
In my opinion negativity and depression are part of life. People can't be happy all the time. But too many negative discussions can affect us. Maybe you need a break. I hope I didn't upset you.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
No, you didn't upset me.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@dya80dya I know many people only read the title and miss what the post says. It's a shame.
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@dya80dya (36578)
12 Apr 20
@just4him I am glad to know this. You read discussions. Many people don't. They only read the title.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Apr 20
I hope maybe you could take a break and then come back with a different opinion. I look forward to your positive posts. And there are many on here I don't care for. I just ignore them and find the ones I like.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@CarolDM Thank you. I will.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I took a break, took two walks, worked on two books, and now I'm back feeling much better. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Apr 20
@just4him That is great news. Glad to hear Valerie.. Have a good evening.
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