A not so great Easter courtesy of my moronic brother

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I have kind of gone silent since Easter and even a little bit before with the odd post here or there but the truth of the matter is that a lot has been going on. I'm just tired of everything going on here. I really didn't have it in me to write much of anything. Anyone that has followed me knows about my brother and how he is an alcoholic and a user. My family has always enabled him and wondered how he could still keep doing the same stuff. The tension was pretty bad around here with him being here. It was easier to not talk about it sometimes. We pay for half of the rent actually a little over half but we have to live with my mom because our credit isn't the best thanks to some circumstances out of our control at various times in our lives (medical bills mostly before we had insurance). We are slowly getting it built up but in the meantime, we are stuck living with my mom but we pay our way. My brother hated us being here despite the fact that we were paying our own way and the fact that we were here first and we helped and he didn't pay for anything and was actually costing my mom a ton of money. He ate at least twenty times a day and great big meals. He was really thin when he was released from jail but since he came home he has easily put on over 100 lbs in a matter of months because all he does is eat and watch TV. My mom informed him she needed us here to help her pay bills and he needed to stop going on about our existence in our home. He didn't seem to understand without us he wouldn't have a home either. We were essentially being forced to help pay for him because the house is in my mom's name despite us helping pay for it because we didn't have good enough credit to get our own place. Anyway, it got really intense around here especially after I confronted his drug use in the house. Finally, on Easter he did what I've honestly been waiting to happen again. He stole my mom's car for the fourth time. I lost it. I told my mom he isn't coming back especially with COVID going around and us not knowing who or what he's come into contact with. I told her he can't come back because it's not safe not with the virus and not with him being the way he is. I told her I don't want him around my son any longer. I told her he can't be trusted and if she brings him back that she puts everyone in danger. What shocked me is that while at first, she kept trying to defend him she eventually stopped and agreed he can't come back assuming we ever find him. He also stole her credit card that he knew she was trying to pay off and put charges on it. Last I know he was in Kentucky so he left state. He's been gone since Wednesday and I have no clue where he is now since I called and had my mom's card reported stolen. Everyone is done with him except maybe my oldest sister who keeps wanting to defend him despite being angry with him. None of them want him back and refuse to keep paying for him so he sealed his own fate this time. We are all done. You get so many chances and he blew all of his. My brother said he told him he's best to just stay where he is and not come back. He wasn't happy here and used everyone. I told my mom I think he's a narcissist and my one sister says she has thought that for years. He is arrogant, entitled, and manipulative among other things. These can be in part due to being an alcoholic which can sometimes mimic a narcissist but in his case, I honestly think he is one. I just told my mom I'm done and everyone else basically said the same thing. We can't do this anymore. My mom is terrified he's going to come back and try and break into the house. I slept downstairs with her the other night to make her feel safer. It's a sad day when you have to be afraid of your own child but here we are. I don't know where he's heading I just hope he stays there. He's heading for prison and honestly, we've all given up on him. I have been waiting on this day and everyone ignored me when I told them they were enabling but I guess everyone has finally reached their breaking point. I just hope things don't change later. We still don't know where he is. With this going on they're hesitant to arrest anyone which is why I think he chose now but it wasn't well thought out as there isn't many places he can go and he has no money unless he picked someone else up. I guess we'll see. My brother knows how to really ruin a holiday. I'm done with him. He isn't coming back and my mom finally agreed after some fight. He did this to himself. Maybe now that his family has finally turned their backs on him it'll sink in. I guess we'll see what happens.