Not Good News From My Neighbor

@CarolDM (203422)
Nashville, Tennessee
April 19, 2020 2:25pm CST
Have been updating you on my elderly neighbor. The couple that has been in and out of the hospital since December. She was doing better a few weeks ago when I checked on her. Her pneumonia was improving. And she was recuperating slowly from her surgery. I noticed a lot of vehicles coming and going lately. So I went over to check on them again. We talked through the door. Sad news. They are working on getting their house up for sale. Then they will either stay with family or a nursing home. I am devastated. Although at age 90, I guess it is to be expected. Just hard to lose such good neighbors and to see them go down so quickly. Just last year they both were working in their yard and gardens. She told me she would try to stay in touch. And I snapped another photo from her garden on the way back home. A beautiful white peony. Life is hard. But I have many memories of spending time with her, having tea, and learning about nature. Sort of like a grandmother.
Awhile back I told you about one of my elderly neighbors. She had complications from surgery in December. And now has pneumonia. She and her husband are both...
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@rebelann (112764)
• El Paso, Texas
19 Apr 20
Oh how sad, I'm so sorry she is in such a bad way. I take it she has no family to take her in? Will you be able to visit with her? I hope your new neighbors will be just as nice.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
Yes, that is what I said, either family or nursing home. She has a big family. Her daughter has been staying her them. Thank you.
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• United States
19 Apr 20
I know that you will find a way to stay in touch and you will be a blessing to them. I know because that is who you are.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@Writingghost Again, you are so kind and look how things have reversed, now you are helping me.
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@jstory07 (139386)
• Roseburg, Oregon
19 Apr 20
That is really sad news. I hope you keep in touch with them.
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@jstory07 (139386)
• Roseburg, Oregon
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM Your a good person to care about others.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
I hope I can. We will see what happens.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@jstory07 I cannot help it, she is just so special and has always been here like family.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
19 Apr 20
Yes I do remember this.sorry.What kind of surgery did she had?
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM Yes I noticed this happens a lot in older people.
@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
Bowel reconstruction.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50131)
• United States
19 Apr 20
Such sad news
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
I am so upset about this. I see her son-in-law already working on the house. She has been such a dear friend.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@Writingghost Oh wow, I don't know, let me check with her daughter. How kind of you!
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• United States
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM What can we do to help? Would cards and letters to their new home from all of us help when she gets moved?
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@Elizaby (6902)
• Pensacola, Florida
19 Apr 20
I hope family members are able to tep up and take them in especially now with corona cases in so many of the nursing facilities.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
I hope so as well. My uncle is in a nursing home and I am worried.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@Writingghost I hope so, I worry every day when I read the news.
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• United States
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM Hopefully your Uncle is lucky enough to be where people truly do care. We spend a lot of time at the nursing home here. Most of it now is writing on the windows and sending in notes.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
19 Apr 20
Oh, I'm sorry they'll leave. They must be sad too.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
Yes they are sad to leave their home.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM I hope you keep in touch with them.
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• United States
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM Maybe you could take some pictures for them to hang in their new location.
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@AmbiePam (92052)
• United States
19 Apr 20
I just hope no matter what, they stay together. My grandmother lived in assisted living, and occasionally a couple came in together. I just wish your neighbors could keep their house and independence.
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@AmbiePam (92052)
• United States
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM Maybe you can visit them wherever they end up after the quarantine ends?
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
I am pretty sure they will stay together, thank you Amber.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@AmbiePam I hope so.
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• Maseru, Lesotho
20 Apr 20
First, I would like to encourage you for the much needed act of unconditional love you demonstrated. This has become rare! Ageing is regarded as an inconvenience to some members of young families, including own children. It is sad that the sacrifices done for their welfare are forgotten like old trophies. Keep up your examplenary lifestyle!
• Maseru, Lesotho
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM I share the same for elderly. It is a source of wisdom and often knowledge not written anywhere.
@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
@17gracemalealea Sort of forgotten in today's world it seems.
@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Thank you Theresa. I have a special place in my heart for the elderly and I have gotten very close to these neighbors. lIke family. You are very encouraging.
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@LadyDuck (470942)
• Switzerland
20 Apr 20
I am so sorry. After what I have read recently on Nursery Homes I would not want to end my life there.
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@LadyDuck (470942)
• Switzerland
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM I really hope your uncle is fine.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
I know, it is sad. I worry about my uncle every day who is in a nursing home and on lockdown.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
@LadyDuck Thanks, me too.
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@GreatMartin (23672)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
20 Apr 20
The last thing I ever want to do again is move but if I live another decade probably will have to as out property would be underwater!!
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Take care.
@moffittjc (121514)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Apr 20
I think something like that is to be expected at age 90. I agree, it's sad to see, but it has to happen at some point. My neighbor across the street is in her 90s. She took a nasty fall and was in the hospital for the longest time. When she got out and was back home, I didn't give her 6 more months before she passed. She just looked that bad. But that was a year ago, and she seems to have recovered fully and is back to her normal self. But I can see that daily life is getting harder and harder for her. It won't be long now before she is going to need full-time assistance, whether it's a live-in aide or whether she moves to a nursing home.
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@moffittjc (121514)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM Sadly, we are all heading in that direction.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
I know it is, life can just be hard. People are around for so long, it is hard to imagine them not being here. I know they will be taken care of. Will be hard to get old.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
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@thelme55 (76851)
• Germany
19 Apr 20
That is indeed sad. You can visit them in their new home. I am sure they would love it.
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@thelme55 (76851)
• Germany
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM Yes, of course.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
Depends on where they are going.
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@LindaOHio (176953)
• United States
19 Apr 20
I'm so sorry to hear this; but there will be someone to watch over them. We are all going to get to that point at some time. I told my husband's second cousin (our little housekeeper) that she must keep an eye on us and check on us from time to time. :-) Beautiful capture of the peony.
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@LindaOHio (176953)
• United States
19 Apr 20
@CarolDM I hope the new neighbors are just as awesome.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
@LindaOHio Me too thanks.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
Yes I am sure they will be taken care of, that is the happy part of the story. It is just hard to lose good friends that are like family. But it is for the best. Her garden is gorgeous.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
20 Apr 20
i am so sorry. Good neighbors are a gift.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
It is very sad to see others get old and not able to take care of yourself.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
@DocAndersen Yes life is hard at times.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM it is terrible. my wife and brother-in-law talked on the phone every day for two months before deciding it was time for my in-laws. that was really hard on both of them
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@bestie (3272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 20
So sad It's really a hard feeling when you get attached to someone. I feel you hugs
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Yes but that is life. Thank you.
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@bestie (3272)
• Philippines
21 Apr 20
@CarolDM life is so unpredictable
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
21 Apr 20
@bestie Yes it is.
@LeaPea2417 (37343)
• Toccoa, Georgia
20 Apr 20
That is sad
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@LeaPea2417 (37343)
• Toccoa, Georgia
20 Apr 20
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
I know but I have to hold onto the memories.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
19 Apr 20
That’s very sad to see them go downhill so quickly. I hope they will be okay.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM I hope you can stay in touch to see how they are doing. The poor souls.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
19 Apr 20
I know I am worried.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
@DianneN Thanks so much.
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@just4him (317002)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Apr 20
I'm sorry things have deteriorated so quickly. The picture is lovely.
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@just4him (317002)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Apr 20
@CarolDM I'm sure you will.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Thank you, I will miss her gardens and having tea with her.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM I am sorry they will be leaving. You are right it is very hard to have good neighbors.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
20 Apr 20
@CarolDM You are welcome. It is very hard to say goodbye to good neighbors and wonder what you will get in their place.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Apr 20
Thanks.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
25 Apr 20
Sorry to read this.. I hope you will stay in touch with her
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
25 Apr 20
I think they are gone now.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
25 Apr 20
@CarolDM Sorry..
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