Escalation of domestic violence

Maseru, Lesotho
April 21, 2020 3:52am CST
Lockdown to me meant families will have time to improve on their quality of relationships. I was proved wrong by the media reporting escalation of domestic violence. Could it be other factors such as stress?
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Apr 20
Domestic violence has soared due to stress of this situation. Another example of the potential greater damage caused by this lockdown than the virus itself.
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• Maseru, Lesotho
21 Apr 20
Very sad indeed. One would imagine challenges like this would require amicable emotional support from spouses and intimate partners. Thanks for your insight.
• Maseru, Lesotho
22 Apr 20
Yes lockdown is creating new environment which we must learn to adapt to or find ways of making it livable.
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@earnnings (1325)
• India
21 Apr 20
Its is not good or not even bad. Some relationships are bad before only but the conditions more worse by the two people with bad relation in one place. Some have lack of time to spend with family those are at safe point in this Lockdown period. They can good time to build their relationship and enjoy themselves at home.
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• Maseru, Lesotho
21 Apr 20
I note your point that such partners/spouses don't know how to spend so much time in each other's company. Such revelation requires professional assistance as it impacts negatively on kids. Thanks for your contribution.
@pumpkinjam (8754)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 20
Stress, uncertainty, and many other things could be a factor. Domestic violence and relationship breakdown tends to increase around Christmas time as well. I would think it's a combination of lots of things. Some people would already be in that kind of situation, which would just become worse because of being trapped more so than they already were. Sometimes, people who don't usually spend that much time together are suddenly thrown together - it's bound to cause issues. Some people are just not so good at dealing with those issues. I've got my husband and youngest son with me. We have enjoyed some extra time together but there are times we still need a break or get annoyed simply because everyone is there all the time. I wasn't surprised with the escalation of domestic violence. It was one of the first things I thought about - I am lucky to be safe at home, not everyone is. I thought how much worse it could have been (I would not like to imagine how this would have been had I been with my ex).
• Maseru, Lesotho
22 Apr 20
From your observations, one could see that some of us have short time span to be attentive and therefore falls into a dilemma of having to play out acceptable behaviour. That would explain the source of stress then.
@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
22 Apr 20
I heard that and it's just so sad :( There's simply no excuse for it but I imagine being cooped up together 24/7 is bringing out the worst in some people.
• Maseru, Lesotho
22 Apr 20
I agree with you. It is somewhat questionable because love is supposed to be a common ground for spouses and partners to nurture their relationships.
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• Maseru, Lesotho
23 Apr 20
@Lushlala We must remember that so many people are hurting and have lived with emotional baggage. The sad truth is that most of us don't believe that counseling could help to UNLEARN unpleasant behaviour.
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@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
23 Apr 20
@17gracemalealea I also find it weird that this happening. I see no justification for it at all and think whoever is beating on the other is a waste of space, a coward and a bully.
@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
21 Apr 20
Stress can certainly cause situations to escalate but I would think the feelings were there before the lockdown.
• Maseru, Lesotho
22 Apr 20
The feeling that has been carefully locked away and supported by short time under normal circumstances. Meaning the lockdown is helping individuals to assess their level of emotional intimacy with their spouses or partners.
@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Apr 20
@17gracemalealea this is very true.
• Agra, India
21 Apr 20
Is that so? That isn't a good thing. This can be a result of lockdown stress
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
21 Apr 20
@17gracemalealea I am sure it is stress along with not having enough money to go out and get what you need to eat and losing jobs and fights break out.