Why not make a marriage contractual since its a marriage contract?
By Zxyl
@Allionnazxyl (279)
April 23, 2020 11:08pm CST
Just for discussions, what do you think a marriage would be if its contractual. Imagine it being on a 6 months to 1 year contract only, if it is working, then you can renew it. If it's not, then not. In that way, we can minimize arguements that result to divorces and the like. Well, that is, if we put aside religion.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
24 Apr 20
I'm afraid it might promote trial and error without real genuine commitment IMHO
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@Allionnazxyl (279)
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24 Apr 20
It could, yes. It would definitely make a lot of pros and cons.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
24 Apr 20
What i have seen in my society is that conflicts begin after 3-5 years of marriage.
Love marriage where couple know each other for years sometimes also ends up in divorce. So i think contract marriage is not the alternative.
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@Allionnazxyl (279)
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24 Apr 20
Well, let's say 5 years contract considering what you have seen. It could be an alternative since, as what you have said, it also ends up to divorce. More likely, we are just trying not to come up with divorce. By the contract, we are already saving the relationship before it comes to worse.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
24 Apr 20
@Allionnazxyl End of contact is synonymous to divorce. I mean both meant for seperations
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
25 Apr 20
Essentially, that is what a lot of people do today - they get married, and if thing don't 'work out', they move on.
The concept of 'working out' is in question. It implies passivity, as if no effort is involved. Like buying a house and never doing any maintenance work. It's unlikely that the bank will let you off the hook for the mortgage- and if the house has not been kept up, you're not likely going to get a good price, if you sell it.
Interestingly, if you DO work at a home, maintenance, improvements, it is highly unlikely you'd WANT to sell it.
It becomes a lovely, warm, cherished environment.
Thus should it be with the relationship in marriage.
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@GooglePlus (3830)
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25 Apr 20
Anil Kapoor Movie? And did you see what society started behaving with the girl?
I am in... for Subscription kind of thing... if you dont like it dont renew it go for another one.
On serious note, Men will never have problems later when contracts end. It would be women who has to go through all the traumas which society will put it on them!
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@ExplorewtMe (6332)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Apr 20
@Allionnazxyl This topic nee much more debate, Welcome here to mylot. Have a good time here.
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@Allionnazxyl (279)
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25 Apr 20
@ExplorewtMe Yes, there is a lot to consider too. Thank you, likewise.
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@Fa_Maverick (9488)
• Australia
29 Apr 20
If it has a contract does that mean I am getting paid? I kid I kid.
I would find it cute to have a "contract" like you write out your personal vows and like sign it as a commemoration of your wedding but not a literal business agreement.
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@maggs224 (2320)
• Alicante, Spain
25 Apr 20
@Allionnazxyl '?: No matter what the length of time or kind of contract it is only an outward visble sign of an interior invisible commitment between the two people. When they make that commitment most mean everything they vow or contract to do love, honour, etc
If that commitment is followed through in the thousands of little things we do daily then that commitment strengthens and grows and sustains us. In reality we have the freedom to stay or go at anytime no matter what the contract says. Of course that too has consequences many of them unpleasant unpleasant.
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@Allionnazxyl (279)
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25 Apr 20
Maybe that would free you for sometime. Think things over for a while.
@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
24 Apr 20
You hold a good point dear but it sounds like a movie script
@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
24 Apr 20
@Allionnazxyl sorry if am getting personal but have you already tried one because you have a daughter?
@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
28 Apr 20
I don't accept your advice.. Once we get married we must live with him in your hole life.. This is my opinion..