Mother-in-law's: Silent war over the son!
@17gracemalealea (252)
Maseru, Lesotho
April 24, 2020 11:45pm CST
Most women in Africa experience some form of struggle to create reasonable relationship with the mother-in-law.
I asked my psychology lecturer why this is the case which is almost accepted as a normal.
She said often mothers are happy but know that their son's love and focus would shift to the wife. To them this is a serious loss hence a subtle resentment.
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@17gracemalealea (252)
• Maseru, Lesotho
25 Apr 20
I applaud you for creating positive energy with a new member of the family. It often happens when we lower our expectations of compliance of the rules we created. We humans have a tendency to complicate our lives.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
25 Apr 20
This is very ubiquitous and it happens in almost every house that is why I feel it is very unfair to quote just Africa. In my home also I feel there is communication gap and the sync is not very appropriate between my mother and wife. My wife wont be that straightforward or vocal in case she is angry but her gestures and expressions would certainly reveal it to my mother that the lady is annoyed. My mother is rather blunt to put her opinions in front of anybody as she does not stick to formality , if mother feels something is wrong then she would escalate it rightaway which may not be admired by vast majority . All I would encourage is not to let them work concurrently in the kitchen for a long time ....
@17gracemalealea (252)
• Maseru, Lesotho
25 Apr 20
I comment your verification that the war thing is not cultural.
Your mother has a desirable approach not to carry a grudge because such energy results in resentment.
I also note that for the sake of peace you have established a way for sustainable peace. I like that.
