Internet dating and relationships starting on the net.
@KeepCalmdrinktea (29)
May 14, 2020 9:09am CST
I am 35 and I find it hard to meet people that I want to date. It seems to be a global problem recognised and felt by many. So we tend to look on the internet for that companionship that we feel we are missing in our lives. But just how safe is it really???
In my experience in this world of internet dating, you can end up getting used. Much of it, if you are unlucky enough to pick people who have hidden motives its likely that your self esteem will suffer a great deal. Finding Love is difficult, and this process is always going to have its ups and downs. I have experienced both ends of the spectrum with this. I have never tried to date anyone that does not live in Jersey channel islands. I would just find a distance relationship impossible to make it work. I have suffered at the hands of trusting Men not to hurt me, and found myself meeting in places that would seem quite dodgy at a stupid time of the evening. I have learnt from these experiences, I am fortunate enough to have also met some very nice people, and have come away making and keeping friendships. The situation I, myself and my friends have encountered is being ghosted after having been getting to know someone for a period of months. I guess this happens in normal relationships not started on the internet too. My Cousin has been very fortunate to have met her boyfriend of 4 years on the internet and they are extremely happy. What is your opinion of internet dating and are you internet dating yourself? are you in a relationship that started on the internet and do you recommend it? any tips perhaps?
Thanks
Jo
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15 responses
@paigea (36317)
• Canada
14 May 20
I met my husband online 20 years ago.
The day I met him in person is the day I met him. The chatting before meeting was just getting us to the point we wanted to meet.
I took a cab to the restaurant where we met. He didn't know my real name or address until we met.
Those were my precautions.
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@iniaku (2157)
• Indonesia
14 May 20
yes i always do this too. better woman always make simple precautions like this. usually i will make an meeting at some mall and i drive bymyself so he will never know my address. we can see if he really worth it to be at least as a friend or more than that
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@jefferson126 (3262)
• Shenzhen, China
15 May 20
You are so lucky and smart,and you succeed in the end.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
14 May 20
I don't use dating sites at the moment, but I have.
One thing I do is make the guy wait awhile before I will meet him. If he isn't willing to talk to me for atleast a month before meeting me, he's not worth it in my opinion.
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@17gracemalealea (252)
• Maseru, Lesotho
15 May 20
I get your approach. You want to pick any red flags from facial expressions, voice and consistency in his presentation of personal background. That's? seems to be the best way for checking up social and emotional intimacy.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
14 May 20
'i have met several ex's online as well as my current partner. One ex was a "boyfriend" in all retrospect I had NO chance of ever meeting and despite the chat about me potentially moving.... I dont think I would have moved to the otherside of the world. We did spend many hours talking on the phone and exchanged birthday gifts. I still have the watch and bracelet.
Another ex... well he ended up being a creeper who was also a big time cheater. I found out from a friend that he was dating me, her and she had found out he had a live in girlfriend with a baby on the way. I ended things immediately with him. To this day he STILL tries 10 years later to add me on Facebook.
My current partner, Fiance/Common-law spouse... I met online 10 years ago. We started off as chat friends. And progressed from there. We met in person. We dated long distance for a year and a ahalf. 8 years ago this coming September I moved away from home and in with him. The adjustment to being as far from "home" is probably the biggest thing for me. Same country but still 14 hours drive to see my family
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@KeepCalmdrinktea (29)
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15 May 20
wow, thank you for sharing your experiences. I was getting to know someone for over 5 months but he has suddenly gone offline and I have not heard from him for a month now. I am gutted and hoping I might come across him another time but I feel I aught to move on for now.
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
14 May 20
I gave up dating for a long time now.
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@iniaku (2157)
• Indonesia
14 May 20
i'm this kind of situation too. i used to more active to find a man for me. active in my church (even this not the point i'm joining serve in church), then meet my sister travelling group.
but these days, because of covid-19 makes me stay always at home. i used some online dating but just match some and just start conversation. its hard to find man that we could comfortable talk with
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@17gracemalealea (252)
• Maseru, Lesotho
14 May 20
Internet dating has its bottlenecks from the evidence in reality television programmes. The major one is developing trust, social and emotional intimacy.
Yes it seems single ladies seeking relationships are likely to meet people with doggy motives especially if from foreign countries.
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@moffittjc (121540)
• Gainesville, Florida
14 May 20
I tried a few dating sites many years ago, but I found that many of the women who were trying to date me were either looking for a sugar daddy or baby daddy. I'm not opposed to online dating, but that left a sour taste in my mouth. Fortunately for me, I'm very social and outgoing and am always meeting people wherever I go. I'm in a relationship now, and I met her in a park when she was playing with her dog at the dog park.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
14 May 20
A good way to practice social distancing
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@nawala123 (20871)
• Indonesia
16 May 20
I have a friend that his marriage was started by facebook chat and now they have a little cute baby. But there are so many online predators too.
Be aware
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
15 May 20
Don't get frustrated and don't say that finding love is difficult. There are practical ways or opportunities to find love. Answer the following questions:
Are you friendly?
Are you loving?
Do you express your affection?
Do you attend any social gatherings?
But if you're idealistic then you're right that to find love is difficult.
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
14 May 20
Don't know about it.. I have already good family. No need for me.
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@jefferson126 (3262)
• Shenzhen, China
15 May 20
in my opinion,each thing is relative.So is internet.on the one hand,the net provide a nice platform to us for communication,on the other hand,the network is virtual platform with some danger unknown.maybe you can meet a good man,otherwise,meet a bad man,the outcome mostly
rest with your luck.when you decided to meet a person from the net,it is necessary taking precautions in advance.I ever met a girl from the net,as friend,we get along well mutually,but we are not fit for lover.I recommend internet dating,but there is a essential precondition that you must be careful about cheater or bad person,having meeting with caution!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 May 20
I met my husband who I've been with for 16 years on the internet.
Every relationship has it's ups and downs, requires selfless love and compromise no matter where we meet.
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