When you want to separate to your in laws but your husband don't want to..
By janice
@renicemae (4883)
Philippines
May 14, 2020 10:33pm CST
I sometimes pity myself for not having a house of my own. I have a good job and I can purchase a house for me and my husband but the problem is, he doesn't want to separate from his mother. So I am the one adjusting.
I understand his reason that his mother will be completely left alone if we separate but you know we could just find a house and lot nearby so we can visit her every now and then. And I don't care if it's a small house as long as it's mine. As long as I am comfortable with it.
Am I asking for too much?
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
17 May 20
@rsa101 It would be great if he's open to that idea.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
17 May 20
@kepweng Yes it's common in my country but I don't like this kind of set up.
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@hereandthere (45643)
• Philippines
15 May 20
if you find a house nearby, can your mother-in-law manage alone?
when she passes, will the house be inherited by your hubby?
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@hereandthere (45643)
• Philippines
17 May 20
@renicemae maybe you can have a house nearby where you and the kids stay, while hubby reports to his mother's house daily and helps her during the day? so that in the future, when your sister-in-law comes home, she can stay with their mother, while you already have your own place.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
17 May 20
He thinks that it will be inherited to him since he's the only son in the family. But he's elder sister has no plans of marrying so that means, she'll be living with us if she comes back from abroad.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
23 May 20
Thank you for understanding my situation my friend. Have a good day!
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@LindaOHio (183840)
• United States
15 May 20
You could even get a house with an in-law suite or, as you said, a house next door.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
17 May 20
Yeah. That would be okay with me but my husband is the problem.
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
15 May 20
I understand your feelings.. In my opinion take your mother law with you then your problem will solved..
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You didn't get the point my friend.
@GreatMartin (23671)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
22 May 20
Reason #98,427 why I am glad I am not married and living alone!! Bet your mother-in-law would like to live alone, too! It is fun!
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 May 20
no, i think you and your husband should live apart from your 'biyenan'. maybe a weekend with them is good.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
23 May 20
It is really hard when you want some privacy. Tell your husband you can build a home adjacent or near his mother's home so he can always visit her.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
23 May 20
Oh i already told him to build a small house for us just around the area of his parents house but there's no action.
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
15 May 20
I understand. Even I go through this phase at times. But in the end we can't gather the strength to seperate a son from.his mother.
Is his mother bothering you a lot.
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