Cat and Dog...

@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
May 23, 2020 4:21am CST
If anybody of you recall some of my discussions, I often touched the idea of my relationship with my sister. Yes, my only sister who is 11 years my senior. When my 2 older brothers from the capital city came home for the Christmas break, and my 4th older brother came with them, I thought I and my sister will be okay. But there was one time that she spoke sarcastically again and I had to answer her back (the umbrella her daughter gave me was already destroyed and beyond repair). I told her I will have to throw it but she shouted at me and said " i get it back, it is given to you by my daughter". Of course I had to get the umbrella back from her hands, and she talked sarcastically. I replied shouting until I felt some shaking and difficulty of breathing, I thought I was going to die. She did not want to be 'overpowered' so she suddenly lied down on the floor shouting "Don't touch me" to our brothers. I told our brothers, "it is always like this, manongs." She then said, "I will kill myself". I responded, "then go out of the house, not here at home". "I live here I can do whatever I want", she responded. "Then you will let us fix your body?". My oldest brother said, "If you want to go to your kids, come back with us". She replied", I do not want to keep my kids see me like this", to which I said, "you want me to always be seeing you like this?" She lifts the burden off her kids, and she wants me and my son take care of her "corpse after she commits suicide?" So selfish... After that, I made my own promise... a promise I am keeping it until now! LESS TALK, LESS MISTAKE... NO TALK, NO MISTAKE! Tthe lesser I interact with her, the lesser we will have the head-on collision. She can now sense that I am slowly losing my respect for her. RESPECT IS NOT ALWAYS IMPOSED... IT SHOULD BE EARNED!
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 May 20
I am sorry your relationship has disintegrated so far. Your brothers now see what she is like. I'm sure they don't respect her either.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
yes, they saw how worse she is in interacting with me. i always thought she should be the better sibling to me because we are only 2 girls in our brood of 6. i am mistaken
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 May 20
@ridingbet That's so sad she is like that.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 May 20
@just4him i could not say it is because she might be entering the senile stage. she is actually like that.
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• United States
24 May 20
I am so sorry about your sister. It sounds like she needs someone to talk to, that she has a lot of grief, anger, and sadness.
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• United States
27 May 20
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
i agree with you. right now, she is as meek as a lamb asking me to start netflix in our TV. i did it, and now, it is silence between us again
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
23 May 20
There are siblings who have opposite personalities. In our family, we have 2 sisters, they are the youngest after 4 elder boys. I can relate to what you have said about the incident of misunderstanding with your sister.
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@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
27 May 20
@ridingbet maybe it is better to avoid instead of having a chance for an encounter.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
my MYOB attitude now since end of the year last year is working for me. we seldom talk, and she notices it.
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@aeadams24 (104)
23 May 20
Me and my sister used to have a lot of misunderstandings when we were little. But as we grow up together, learning a lot from each other’s experiences, as time goes by, we realized that we only have each other as sisters and we learned to get along as best friends. We share Many things with each other were close enough to forget what we’ve been through and how we were as kids. We don’t talk about it anymore as the chapters of our lives move on. Hoping that you also get along with your sister.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
she is already 71 years old; i am 60 last November. even though we are both senior citizens now, i am still hoping we will become sisters in its truest sense.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
23 May 20
It's common for siblings to fight but that situation is an extent. But I agree. Less talk, less mistake.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
right on that.
@Lakshman15 (2662)
• India
23 May 20
Be Patience
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
23 May 20
We also have to be more understanding. Different personality usually have misunderstandings. I hope you can talk it out in a calm way
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
i am the one who always understands her, i think it should be a 2-way street for better relationship between and among siblings
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• Germany
27 May 20
@ridingbet I understand your point. I still believe that one has to give way to other in order to have peace at home
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
23 May 20
You have to learn how to get along since you're not gonna be together forever you know.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
23 May 20
are her daughters aware of her antics? it's unbelievable that she would do that even with your brothers around. her children should be involved.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
my brothers now know what she is doing to me. when i catch my breath, she does the same too, even worse. that is why, i try not to tell her what i feel, only to my son, because if 'i am sick, she is more or most sick'.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
23 May 20
Oh, my. I see your sister hasn’t changed at all. I like your new promise and hope it works well.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
27 May 20
@ridingbet It appears so.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
thank you. there is ambivalence in the house, between us girls. she tries to provoke my son by calling his attention if he does something not according to her 'golden rule'. she is an OCD person.
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@Janet357 (75646)
23 May 20
i think this is normal among siblings. But at the end of the day,they are still your flesh and blood
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
i believe so too, but both of us sgould change our bad attitudes.
@jayanth_77 (7180)
• India
23 May 20
There will always be some misunderstanding between siblings but we must just forget and forgive.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
i can forgive, but i think i may never forget
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• India
27 May 20
@ridingbet yes it's difficult to forget but forgiveness will give you some peace
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
23 May 20
In my opinion each person has their own freedom.. No rights to spoil those..
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 May 20
i do not understand what you mean. why that ''no rights to spoil those''? what freedom?