Trying To Help People In A Way That Hasn't Worked?

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Years ago, I had a friend of mine who wanted to help others. And he meant well. However, he went about it the wrong way. At the time, he was working for a restaurant. Some of his coworkers were teenagers. He told me that he had given many of them unwanted advice that they never asked for. For example, if he knew that one of the teens was dating someone, he'd tell him/her not to have premarital sex. As you can imagine, this didn't go over well with these youths. When someone tries to help others in a way that doesn't work, but keeps doing so despite the fact that it's not working, it's for two reasons. One is that they don't know of any other way. And two is that they think that if they keep trying to help people in the way they're doing it, that eventually it will work with somebody someday. If you're trying to help people in a way that isn't working, stop it. If you've been doing it this way and it hasn't worked yet, then I think it's highly unlikely that it will ever work. Instead, if you're trying to help others, you have to replace what isn't working with what does work better. For example, my friend should have stopped the way he was trying to help others by doing something that does work, such as only giving personal advice to these teens if they asked for his advice first. That's just my opinion. What do you think?