My Oldest Was Just Here

I am so sorry you had to experience this, especially since you have reached out to him to show him your love. You have extended the olive branch per se, but nobody can force him to accept it. It's unfortunate when family goes through something like this. I hope you are okay, I know this can be somewhat traumatic.

Some people have problems. I have a grandson that has had several problems.

That is sad. I guess you will just have to pray for gim to have a change of heart, although unfortunately it may never happen. I am disappointed my son is in Brazil and doesn't seem to be terribly interested in the family, but he is iften pleasant and helpful. I just hope he doesn't make it his permanent residence

I am so sorry! I know that had to feel like a punch to the gut. Yes, I've had strained relationships with my family for years. I don't even talk to my dad or his family.

Oh my Valerie. I am so very sorry this happened. Sadly I do have strained relationships. Great big hugs to you my sweet friend.

Oh, that's awful. I'm sorry about that situation. Yes, you know my situation.

Sending you big hugs. That is so hurtful, but it is also a sign that somewhere inside he is hurting and needs to be healed.

Oh, Valerie. I am so sorry. He must be eaten up with negativity to come over to your place and do that. It's not you, it's definitely him. I just wish I could give you a hug.

I am so so sorry. As you know God can restore all relationships in His time. Keep praying for him, and of course loving him as you do. Let God work in his heart for you. I am praying as well.

Maybe someday he will come around. Sorry he treats you like that.

First of all, I'm sorry. The picture makes me sad. I know how you must be feeling. I've been lucky with my son and daughter. We get along great. My sister and I would clash with our mother sometimes, but nothing major. Now Mama's gone and the things we used to get mad about seem so small. I try to avoid my brother in law, I could tell stories about him but won't, lol. Now we live in different states, so I don't have to put up with him. Unfortunately I don't get to see my sister either, so that part's not good. My daughter in law goes through times with her folks when they just don't speak to each other. Eventually whatever it is blows over. I hope you and your son can find your way back to each other. Time is short, TOO short to carry grudges.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this with your son, I hope that he will come to his senses soon and recognize all what you did for him,

Sorry that your relationship with your son is strained. Oh yes I have strained family relationships. My Mom doesn't contact my brother or I. She has always told us she wished she hadn't had us. I pray for her and go on living my life. I wasted too many years trying to maintain some sort of relationship with someone who clearly didn't/doesn't want me in their life. At some point I had to let go and go on for my sanity and peace of mind. I hope you can find some sort of peace with your son, whether he's in your life or not. Praying for you.

It is really unfortunate. And as a mother I can well relate to your feelings. I am sorry that you have a son with problem. I deal with many children who are problem kids and I know parents really have a tough time dealing with them.

It is definitely hurtful when our good intentions are spurned especially by our own children. I have had a few such who have such negative take on life and I was the target at times. They take out their disappointments on others. I do what is right but then how they take it is up to them. I just move on that I cannot do anything more - siva

I’m so sorry you had this experience. I know how hurtful it can be. But we can only do so much to have peace in the family. I hope he turns around soon.

I'm so sorry. His actions have more to do with him right now, than anything else. Not saying he's a bad person or anything, but maybe he is going through something? Or maybe he has some issues of his own? Perhaps mental health related? (I don't mean to be rude, I have mental health issues in the form of anxiety myself.... so in no way is it a put down.) On some level, he does know you love him. Write him a letter. Even if you don't send it. That might help. My dad and I had a rather strained relationship. I see now that a lot of it was to do with his own issues. Hang in there. Hug.

I am so sorry to hear that this happened. I don't have a strained relationship with anyone in my family now. Well, my father's never been in my life....but that was my mom's choice to never have him in our lives when I was a baby, so that's totally different.

I rarely strained with my family, because they are very supportive of me in various issues and other matters. If there is an occasional feeling of anger or annoyance, it is normal and will disappear over time.

You are a good and strong person, I believe one day your child will change.