For Love or For Security?
@cmoneyspinner (9219)
Austin, Texas
August 1, 2020 10:07am CST
I have heard people say: “The first time you marry, it's for love. The second time, it's for security.”
I say: THAT'S CRAP!
I believe marriage is a relationship built on LOVE. It's built on it!
Now? If it's a celebrity marriage, I'm not so sure it's for love or security. Seems like they just like exchange partners. I'm looking at it from a distance but it really looks that way. Looks like MATE-SWAPPING to me. LOL.
Anyway! Back to my point.
My point is … if I am not going to marry for love, then I'm not going to get married.
Take Dick Van Dyke. He's my example. He seems to be the celebrity marriage exception.
He has been blessed with good health, considering … Well! Considering he was an horrific alcoholic. That was no secret.
But I was listening to him being interviewed and heard him say that he had buried two wives. Sadly, both spouses died of cancer. (I think.)
So he became a widower twice in his lifetime and now he has taken a third wife.
I think he married for love each time.
I mean … he's almost 100 years old. How much security does he need?
First of all, I don't think you are ever too old to fall in love.
Second, if you are not going to marry for love, why bother? I think you're robbing yourself of joy.
So what do you think? Should marriage be for love or for security?
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10 responses
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
1 Aug 20
It should be for both since how can you trust someone if you don't love the person or feel secured?
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
1 Aug 20
When people say "security" they are really talking about financial security. I have seen homeless couples living on the streets. They were homeless but they were together. That's love; not security.
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
2 Aug 20
@cmoneyspinner You still need to have financial security. In the real world, over is not enough to proceed.
@pandeydeependra (611)
• India
1 Aug 20
At the age 100 man is not able to think about himself. How he think of his marriage. Its all about publicity not a love.
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
1 Aug 20
If you marry for better or for worse, that's love. Love can carry you through "troubled waters".
@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
1 Aug 20
Totally agree with you dear and in India marriage is very sacred
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@Lavanya15 (12888)
• Chennai, India
1 Aug 20
Good concept you bring hear. In my marriages for live and security. Both play a big role.
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@lovebuglena (44537)
• Staten Island, New York
2 Aug 20
Sadly, many people in this world marry for financial security and financial freedom. I would never marry someone for that. I married for love.
@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
1 Aug 20
It can be for both; but it's sad when someone married just for security/money. My husband and I will have been married for 50 years in October; and we love each other just as much as we did 50 years ago. Have a great weekend.
