How can I stop being sensitive?
By sima sima
@jassmine (1460)
Morocco
August 14, 2020 1:42pm CST
Being a sensitive person, first of all, is not a bad thing. It can help you create connections with others by being compassionate and observe and understand things more clearly. That being said, there's a difference between 'sensitive' and 'defensive'. If you find that you are getting hurt whenever you are critiqued or corrected, you may be too insecure to take such comments for their value. For instance, if you pitch an idea and someone suggests a way to better it and you feel slighted, it may mean that your insecurities are much louder than your opportunistic thoughts. If this is the case, please realize that you are no better or no worse than anyone who offers you advice. People come from a myriad of experiences, and their role in your life is to help you up, put you down, or have no significance at all. It is up to you to decide what the purpose of their relationship is in your life and their statements.
If you are a sensitive person in that you are deeply emotional and quick to react to situations that can trigger you, unfortunately, you cannot avoid getting hurt. You can, however, train your mind to find the positive in a hurtful statement. This goes in the other direction too, that is, your peers must be aware of your sensitivity and know-how to properly phrase their statements. But they are not responsible for how you interpret their words, which is why it is important to search for the meaning and the reasons behind their statements and understand them.
If you ever feel hurt and can't find any truth or useful information in their hurtful statements or actions, don't hesitate to ask about their intentions. I find that just by clarifying, you can understand whether or not that statement was meant to attack you personally, or was just overarching. Always ask them to explain in these cases.
However, please remember that people are generally self-minded, meaning, their words and actions come from their perceptions and most of the time, are not meant to hurt you personally.
Take deep breaths, don't be afraid to ask, and don't be afraid to feel. :)3 people like this
4 responses
@Belligerentkj (145)
• United States
16 Aug 20
You seem to have asked a rhetorical question here. As if you have self analyzed and are seeking affirmation. You are familiar with human nature. Is the glass half full or half empty?
@Belligerentkj (145)
• United States
16 Aug 20
@jassmine we are often limited by our environmental awareness. The reality is the glass is overflowing. We are not aware of the other half due to our environmental training. To give you a trivial simile: You buy a light blue car. You begin to see more and more light blue cars in your environment as you go about your day to day routine. It's not that the cars of light blue weren't there before. Your subconscious is now aware of the color and will draw your attention to it as it appears within your environment.
This is the same for all things in life. One must have an open mind in order to become more environmental aware. Too often we allow ourselves to be dumbed down by our circumstances. However, you never stop learning, only wanting to learn. As each day brings with it new knowledge; no matter how trivial it might be. You answered your own question in your meanderings on the topic. You must become more self aware...
@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
14 Aug 20
Hello and welcome to myLot. Enjoy the site! The first thing you should do is to read the Guideline Rules so that you know what is allowed or not on this site. Read around, Like and Comment as much as you can to make yourself known to the community.
This is where you will find out what kinds of behavior are accepted and unaccepted on myLot. When in doubt, remember the Golden Rule!
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