I Remember the Moments Very Well

@CarolDM (203422)
Nashville, Tennessee
September 2, 2020 12:27pm CST
Three years ago today I lost my Dad. I was holding his hand in his hospital bed. I stayed by his side for five days. On the sixth day I watched him take his last breath. The photo above was hanging in his hospital room. I took the photo because of moments we shared the day before he passed on. He made sense only part of the time. But I listened to every word. He told me he could have painted that picture. And I agreed with him, and said yes you could have. I remember all of the words shared between us. And am so glad I was there with him until the end. I miss you Daddy.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
2 Sep 20
I know how you feel. I still remember being with my father and it was many, many years ago. Keep those good memories.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Yes I will, memories are all I have now. Sorry for your loss too.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
2 Sep 20
@CarolDM Thank you.
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@1creekgirl (41330)
• United States
2 Sep 20
This is so heartbreaking. I'm so glad you got to spend those last days with him. Those are precious memories for you.
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@1creekgirl (41330)
• United States
2 Sep 20
@CarolDM I'm sure it meant everything to him, also.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Thanks Vicki. I miss him terribly. And thankful I was with him in his last moments.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
@1creekgirl Since I was the only family member left, I stayed with him around the clock. He was on hospice in the hospital and I was told it would be any day. One of the hardest times of my life. Watching him and nothing I could do. But I was there and I am grateful for that time.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50080)
• United States
2 Sep 20
It is such a honor to be with our loved ones when they leave this world
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Yes it is Marie.
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@Courtlynn (67086)
• United States
2 Sep 20
I'm sorry, again, for your loss. I'm glad you could be there to say goodbye to him.. I would hate if I couldn't be with my mom.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
I was there one week and so glad. Thank you.
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@NJChicaa (119372)
• United States
2 Sep 20
i'm sorry. I know it is a hard day.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Thank you.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
3 Sep 20
@CarolDM That must have been very hard for you. I can see why you would take the photo with you. Missing someone very special to us is very hard.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
3 Sep 20
@CarolDM I am sorry it was a very difficult time in your life. Yes, it happens that there are many difficult times in our lives. I am glad you have memories.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
@Hannihar Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
It was one of the most difficult times in my life, there are many. But I have memories now.
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@jstory07 (139354)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Sep 20
That is great that you could be there with him.
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@jstory07 (139354)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Sep 20
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Yes and he was 500 miles away.
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@Juliaacv (50857)
• Canada
2 Sep 20
That is such a blessing to have been with him leading up to and when he passed. RIP to him.
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@Juliaacv (50857)
• Canada
3 Sep 20
@CarolDM Its very moving and soothing to be with a parent who was the first to hold us after our birth.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
@Juliaacv Yes, I have those words on a social photo I took.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Yes it is the bright light I have forever.
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@JudyEv (338682)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Sep 20
I'm sorry you lost your father but it's nice you were able to spend the time with him before he passed away.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Yes I am happy for those times.
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3 Sep 20
I lost my Dad in 2014. I miss him so much and I still feel very sad. You have sweet memories of your Dad.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Good to see you. So sorry for your loss as well. Memories are what keep me going.
@LindaOHio (176670)
• United States
3 Sep 20
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Thank you, it never gets better. But I have memories.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
3 Sep 20
A painting to cherished because of the story behind it... I know your dad is happy because you remember him... somewhere over the rainbow...
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
This one stayed at the hospital but I have the memories for sure. Thank you.
• Santiago, Chile
2 Sep 20
I am so touched by your post. Wherever you dad is I bet he is proud of the woman you are Carol!
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Thank you my friend. I miss him every day. You are very kind.
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• Santiago, Chile
3 Sep 20
@CarolDM I bet you do.
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@SanNTH (114)
• Hanoi, Vietnam
3 Sep 20
Please try to live well because your father is always watching you
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Thank you for your kind words. He would want me happy.
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@popciclecold (38548)
• United States
2 Sep 20
It was good you were there. A lovely painting.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Yes I agree.
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@snowy22315 (179738)
• United States
3 Sep 20
I guess today is a hard day for you. At least you have lots of positive memories. Mine was at the doctor today. He got a reasonably, clean bill of health for someone with dementia...although they said his heart rate is a bit too low and the meds probably need adjusting and they want him back for a stress test on the 15th.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Yes it was a very hard day. Memories are what I have left. Glad the visit went good for your father.
@FourWalls (67380)
• United States
3 Sep 20
It's painful to watch them have dementia, because in essence you lose them twice: once when they forget you, and once when they pass. The last time I visited my aunt before she passed away I don't know if she thought she was talking to me or my long-deceased mother...but I smiled and held her hand nevertheless. God bless you, and may your dad's memory continue to be a blessing.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Absolutely. His worsened over those five days. But I was there holding his hand. That is all we can do.
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@wolfgirl569 (105255)
• Marion, Ohio
3 Sep 20
Enjoy those memories. I had come home to do chores and was just heading out when my dad passed. But we made sure someone was with him at all times. He made a Halloween magnet that I will always keep before he passed.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 Sep 20
Thank you Eva. We all have memories to get us through.
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@sallypup (60790)
• Centralia, Washington
2 Sep 20
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Sep 20
Thank you, some things you just never get over.
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