I like unique names

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I think one of the hardest things you can do as a parent besides actually parenting is giving your child a name. I automatically knew what I was going to name my son long before he was born. I told my husband and he was on board. I won't give my son's name due to personal reasons but I have mentioned it before but I've kind of been on the fence with personal information here. I did give him a unique name with a certain spelling that I've looked up and there are fewer than 100 people ever with his name. I looked up the statistics once. I have heard names similar but spelled differently but his exact name is not remotely common. I have always liked unique names because while my actual name isn't super common it's not uncommon either. I grew up with another girl in my class from kindergarten to 12th grade with my name and it was incredibly confusing. It got easier once we got to jr. high and didn't have all of the same classes. I just remember how many mix ups there were. I didn't want that for my son. I wanted him to hear his name and know they were most likely talking about him. I remember the many mix ups from my childhood. I would get blamed for things the other girl did or I once spoke out of turn because the teacher called our shared name and I thought I was being called and the jerk teacher wrote my name on the board. She could have just said "I'm sorry the other one" but nope I got in trouble. I just didn't want this for him. I also didn't want something super bizarre that he'd be constantly made fun of either. I wasn't going to name him Apple or Blueberry or anything else off the wall. I don't make the kind of money to get away with being that weird lol. His name is unique but not bizarre. Just different. I have had people love it and people hate it of course they haven't said anything since I've had him but when I told people when I was pregnant they tried to talk me out of it like it was their kid or something telling me I should go with something more traditional. I gave him two middle names so if he ever decided he didn't like his first name he could go by one of those. He really loves his name but it can be pronounced a couple of different ways and he hates the one way and I told him I liked that it could be pronounced a couple of different ways because he could choose later to have it said a different way if he really wanted. I have a couple of friends that also have names like that and while one goes with the traditional way he was raised pronouncing it the other changed the pronunciation of hers. It gives them options without actually having to change their names. My son prefers the way we have always pronounced his and I told him the other way isn't actually wrong it's a matter of preference and that he needs to be polite when someone says it the other way and tell them how to say it. He also often has people who completely mess his name up and goes with the closest common name close to his and he gets that quite a bit. My MIL actually saw how we spelled it and did this. My husband corrected her. She didn't meet our son until he was two so she never actually heard us say it. I think she thought it was a typo. My son doesn't like it but has gotten used to it. There are downsides to having uncommon names too. I just like that my son is the only person with his exact name and by this I mean first and last name. The same is true of my name. Neither my maiden name or married last name are super common. Albeit my married name is slightly more common than my maiden name. When people look for me they find me and that can be a bad thing at times I suppose but at least I don't deal with the confusion of other people with my name. My ex SIL had been turned down for a house loan due to them finding the wrong person with her name that had a bad reputation so sometimes unique names help.