First marriage
By Kimberley
@mom210 (9117)
United States
September 26, 2020 3:24pm CST
This week my oldest son will be getting married. I am so happy for him, but so sad for me. He was the first one that moved out and now the first one married. He is only 5 minutes away right now and I think I have gotten spoiled. He will be 3 hours away now and it seems so far away. My heart is so heavy, I am working really hard at being strong but I am afraid I will cry at his wedding. I don't want to embarrass them or me, or look at future pictures where I have a red crying face at the wedding. She is a wonderful girl and they make a great couple, I guess I am just having trouble saying goodbye to my little boy and hello to the married man. To make things a little tougher, my #3 son will be marring his girlfriend of 5 years in December, fortunately they will only be 5 minutes away. She is also a great girl and they also make a great couple. Guess I am just looking for some words of wisdom from Mom's or Dad's that have gone through this adjustment.
Thank you
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@mom210 (9117)
• United States
23 Oct 20
@LadyDuck I think mother daughter relationships are so tricky. I worried when I had my first daughter after having four boys, I was terrified I could not be close to her since my own mother/daughter relationship has been difficult over the years. But my mother and I have grown closer as we age and my daughter and I are close, I hope it can stay that way.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Nov 20
Congratulations to the newlyweds. I know it's an adjustment. What I would say is think about your marriage and how you felt on that day and know your son is feeling the same thing. It's a very happy day for them. I wish them all the best and for your other son too.
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@mom210 (9117)
• United States
7 Jan 21
thank you, I am happy for them it is just a bit hard to say goodbye to the little boys they were. My biggest memory was being terrified 
I remember halfway down thinking "oh my gosh, what am I doing?" then I saw my future husband waiting for me and thought oh yes, there he is waiting for me
I remember halfway down thinking "oh my gosh, what am I doing?" then I saw my future husband waiting for me and thought oh yes, there he is waiting for me1 person likes this
@cintol (11261)
• United States
26 Sep 20
I cried when my first son got married too, its hard to let go of them when you have had them all your life but the best side is when you get your first grand child and you know thats a whole new life for you all to blend in. It won't be so bad, honest, your not losing a son, your gaining a daughter!!
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@GreatMartin (23672)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
15 Nov 20
And who will make you a grandmother first?!?!?
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@mom210 (9117)
• United States
7 Jan 21
the younger son that married a couple weeks ago, I am sure. He loves kids and so does she. They are more spontaneous and put less thought into things. The other two are older, go at things after thinking about them for a long time and are way more cautious.
@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
3 Jan 21
If you did cry at the wedding it could be taken as tears of joy. How did you do?
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@mom210 (9117)
• United States
8 Jan 21
@MarshaMusselman I just didn't want to make them think I was unhappy or take away from their day at all.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
8 Jan 21
@mom210 years can also be of happiness.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
7 Jan 21
@mom210 I cried when my oldest daughter for married this past August. I don't remember whether I cried too when my younger daughter married two years ago or not.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
11 Nov 20
I wish him luck in his marriage. And it's okay to cry.
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