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Why is it that some guys think they're "the nice guy" when in reality they're massive jerks? In my personal experience seldom has the guy who claims to be nice actually been nice. They often have this horrible opinion of women and say they're tired of being crapped on because they're too nice. I'm going to tell you right now degrading women because you're tired of being tired of being rejected doesn't make you a nice guy. Claiming all women are the same because they won't give YOU a chance doesn't make you a nice guy. A nice guy won't be deterred in his mission to find a girl. He won't label all women as the same because he has been rejected for not being what she wants. It's ok to have standards and be looking for something different. It's not her fault that you had feelings she doesn't reciprocate. Women get crushed too. If we did half of the stuff guys did we'd have all sorts of labels. I'm not saying that there aren't double standards the other way around because there are. Men can't get away with some of the things women get away with either. I think for me I've just dealt with a lot of massive jerks claiming to be "the nice guy". I had one guy who was in his 40s and I was only 18 hit on me and when I told him I wasn't interested in dating someone that much older and he went off on me and called me names and claimed it was because he was too nice etc. and then proceeded to show me exactly how he was the opposite of nice. He stalked me online and at the time I had myspace and he went to the comments on my page and proceeded to call me names because I wouldn't date him. Who on earth wants to date someone who is that unbalanced? If you have to describe yourself as the nice guy you probably aren't that nice of a guy. I'm not saying this is always the case but I will say it has been my experience. My husband was the very opposite of the "nice guy" type and really didn't think he was good enough for me and in some ways, at first, he probably wasn't but he changed and proved to me he was worth it. I had so many horrible experiences with guys up until my husband. I wanted a good decent guy who didn't claim to be something he wasn't. I didn't want the guy who griped about all of the women who had wronged him and take it out on me. I had met that guy and broke up with that guy after a week. I met a guy online and we started to talk and were going to meet but I ended it because of his personality towards people and women in particular. A nice guy is going to be the guy that doesn't hold all women under the same umbrella because of some bad experiences. Chances are if no woman wants you there is probably a reason for it and I guarantee it's not because you're "a nice guy".