How To Move On After Three Years Of Relationship

@SHOHANA (16093)

Bangladesh

November 4, 2020 12:36am CST

No one can live alone but its better to stay alone when your relationship become really very painful. I just want to move on but I'm really very emotional which is my weakness. I want to beat my emotions and want to be more practical and hardworking. We may need someone in life to live a life but when the person we choose and he gives you pain only can you stay with him? I don't want to make my life complicated any more and I need to be strong but I don't know, how to be strong! How to move on? Three years long I'm in a complicated relationship which made me feel heaven. Suddenly his behaviour changed and he forcing me to do things can make our life complicated. He has nothing and he wants to leave his family and forcing me to leave job and getting married to he. He also forcing me to leave the area I'm living. He has taken me as an option when I wanted to be his priority. He told me either I marry him or break up so I decide to break up. He has no job, work and he forcing me to leave job so what will be our future? Temporary pain is better than lifetime pain so I need to move on asap. Pray for me guys, its hurting me but I have no option left.

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

4 Nov 20

You made the right decision for yourself in my opinion. So glad you did. Someone like him will never change. You are better off without him.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Its difficult for me to be apart instantly, I'm broken inside. I may take time to over come. He can't live without me as he claims but now I doubt, does he deserves me?

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@DianneN my problem, I don't want to hurt anyone. I just waiting for the time that can heal me

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA Time heals. I wouldn't return, but that's up to you.

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

4 Nov 20

This is not a good situation. You did well breaking up and moving on to greener pastures

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Its not that easy to move on or stay apart from love, I'm broken inside

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@db20747 yup very practical words and I just hope he will understand it too

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA you may be broken, but you will do much better financially. You don't want to wind up a beggar on the street.

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@Letranknight2015 (52079)

• Philippines

4 Nov 20

Right Choice. How can you have a secure future in the first place if he asked you to leave your job? he's nuts. Just cry it out for the next few months and you'll get over it. I'm shocked that you put up with him for so long and he doesn't have a job? I hope you move on and eventually find a guy that respects your life and career.

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@Letranknight2015 (52079)

• Philippines

5 Nov 20

@SHOHANA Maybe he has a problem too, or that unemployment thing had made him insecure since you got a job. that's not right. since he has a relationship he should be the one who has work.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Actually he was very understanding and helpful but recently he is scared and stressing me about things he wants. This is painful

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@Letranknight2015 actually he has work but he is offering to change location where we don’t have any work

@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA I am so sorry how you have suffered. You cannot stay with someone like that. You need to find the right one to be with that does not cause you pain like he did. Just be yourself and feel how you need to feel. You did the right thing by breaking up with him. He is not the right one for you and it is best to find out now. He sounds like if it got worse he would not give you a divorce and you will be stuck. Just take care of yourself.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Please pray for my secure future and better life my friend

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

virtual hugs my friend

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@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA I hope you do have a better life and I will pray for it.

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@NoorNoor (2131)

• India

4 Nov 20

Why does he want to marry without a job?

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

He is emotional and frustrated for his surroundings

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@Janet357 (75646)

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4 Nov 20

pray hard. The guy sounds selfish to me. In a relationship, it is not about me, me , me me.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Exactly but he can't realise that he is a selfish

@mayka123 (16604)

• India

4 Nov 20

Will pray for you. You need to think of your well being and take decision that keeps you happy.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Its hard to live without him but if think of future, we should be separated and he also can't live without me (right now)

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@mayka123 (16604)

• India

30 Nov 20

@SHOHANA Just take one day at a time and make the right decisions at the right time.

@nitsbubb (1308)

• Pune, India

4 Nov 20

If you can take care of yourself, just ignore that unemployed soul! He will be nothing but a heavy burden on you after marriage. A kind of pile-on. Please ignore if you love him!~

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@nitsbubb (1308)

• Pune, India

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA You are welcome! Allah will take care of the situation!

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Its not easy to leave, I'm emotionally broken if I think my life without he, I need to pray to Almighty Allah for solution. Thanks for your concern my friend

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@nitsbubb yup for sure, thanks a lot my friend for your healing words

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@LadyDuck (472074)

• Switzerland

4 Nov 20

This young man is immature. How does he think you could live without a job? Forget him, you will find a better guy.

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@LadyDuck (472074)

• Switzerland

7 Nov 20

@SHOHANA If you do not feel well with him, it is better that you live alone.

@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

I prefer to live alone, I'm not feeling well, broken inside! He is my love but these days he reacting like a frustrated, negative person

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@RasmaSandra (80736)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

5 Nov 20

When things get so bad then it is time to break up. I am sorry it happened to you so virtual hugs and hang in there, I will put you in my prayer,

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

Thank you so much for showing love and concern, I just hope time will heal me

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@Dreamerby (5896)

• Calcutta, India

5 Nov 20

@SHOHANA It's your life and no matter what you cannot let anybody control it. Just move and fly high.

@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Nov 20

I am sure you will make the right decision. Life has its ups and downs for sure. I am sorry.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

I hope to make the right decision but right now I'm in indecision

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@CarolDM yup sure, thank you

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Nov 20

@SHOHANA Take your time.

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

4 Nov 20

I’m sorry to hear that, I know the decision is very painful.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Its hard for me and he also can't live without me.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

@Nevena83 yes I hope so, Almighty Allah always with me

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA I know how you feel, but I hope God will show you the right way.

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@Cheyee (8344)

• Pakanbaru, Indonesia

4 Nov 20

He doesn't work and he dare to ask you to leave your job? What's wrong with him? Marriage is about compromise, comunication, selfless. Job hunting is hard, even harder in this pandemic.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

He is emotional and frustrated and he making me too. Only Almighty Allah can help us

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

@Cheyee yup I told that he is immatured and he thinks I'm selfish

@Cheyee (8344)

• Pakanbaru, Indonesia

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA that's show he is not really ready for a marriage. He is still immature.

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@jdbces (1845)

• Philippines

4 Nov 20

You made a brave and wise decision. It's difficult now but as they say, time heals. Praying for your pain.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Thanks dear, please pray for my good luck and better life

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

@jdbces I hope for a better life with or without him

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@jdbces (1845)

• Philippines

4 Nov 20

@SHOHANA I surely wiill. I guess you will really have a better life without him.

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@prinzcy (32305)

• Malaysia

4 Nov 20

Praying hard for you. Relationship involve two people and respect. One person alone not going to make it work. And yes, love not going to pay the bills and put food on the table.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Exactly this I made him understand and he also knows that but talking emotionally

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@LeaPea2417 (37379)

• Toccoa, Georgia

5 Nov 20

I know it's hard but you will be much happier later, prayers.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

I hope so and I want a happy life more than everything

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@thelme55 (77165)

• Germany

4 Nov 20

You have made the right decision. Well done. He was not the right man for you.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

But I'm still in love with he, I just hope he realise his mistake and will make a wise decision

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@LindaOHio (181721)

• United States

4 Nov 20

Do what is best for you and be strong.

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

Yup trying my best to be strong, thank you

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@sunriserise (91)

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5 Nov 20

So glad you made a right decision

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

5 Nov 20

Not yet sure about the decision as I miss him a lot

@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

4 Nov 20

it takes strength to take a hard look at where you are and move on. Good for you! we are here!!!

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

4 Nov 20

Yup it may takes time, 3 years means a lot to me